Why Thinking About Sex So Much Can Burn Away Your Time  

By Ange Fonce

There is an old myth out there that says men think about sex every 7 seconds.

Now this random number is not true and not backed up by research.

On normal work days, researchers have found that the average man thought about sex approximately 19 times per day, while women thought about it nearly 10 times per day. 

So, on average, men think about sex about twice as much as women.

Whether it is 19 times per day, or 9,000 times per day, it can still be a distraction, it can also throw you off your attempts at setting up and aquiring your goals.

You see, with so many men and women go out thinking about sex, when they would be better off thinking about how to create a great life and bring value to their interactions.

Having sex on your mind becomes a mental hurdle - a big one. 

Fortunately, it can be easy to get over.

Have you ever had friends tell you that if you want something, then the first thing you have to do is stop thinking about it?

Why do I bring this up? 

You will find out in just a moment...

First, here is a sobering thought:

Some theories suggest that we are consciously present in each moment for only 3 seconds, on average.

Assuming you sleep for 8 hours, this means you experience close to 20,000, 3-second moments every day.

Now, here is a question only you can answer:

Is this absurdly large volume of thoughts helping or hurting you?

Chances are... it is hurting you.

Researchers found 60-70% of the average persons thoughts are negative.

And what is even more alarming is the 3 categories this negative “mental chatter” falls into:

Thoughts about inferiority: “I’m not good enough...”

Thoughts about love: “I am the only single person I know...”

Thoughts about control: “No one ever listens to my ideas...”

So... what does this mean for you?

It means you and others are potentially experiencing upwards to 13,000 negative thoughts every day! 

Which is 65% of 20,000 thoughts which are negative and most likely working against you... simply put, self sabotaging!

So what is the solution?

The first step for taking back the control of your mind is to become aware of what is going on.

Reading this article “checks that box,” so you are ready for step two.

Which is to stop these negative thoughts using a technique called “Pattern Interrupts.”

This is something that many professionals use to help them focus on the task at hand.

Here is an example:

You are about to make a sales call to a 7-figure account.

You are nervous.

Your mind starts telling you all the reasons why you will fail.

So, you splash water on your face and think about something you want to do tonight. 

In other words, when you become aware of your negative thoughts, make yourself think of or do something completely unrelated and the more unrelated and unusual, the better.

Doing this breaks your train of thought, which lets you move on and think of something else more positive.

This also works with other people…

If you are in a bad situation or you feel the other person is going to make a decision that is not what you want, you can pattern interrupt and basically get a free second chance! 

There are many things you can do to interrupt the pattern.

The best ones for personal changes are actions that you have anchored to a positive feeling.

Almost every professional has a ritual that he or she does to prepare their mind.

It breaks the pattern of whatever their mind is worried about, and puts them into a positive mental state associated with high performance.

It does not matter what it is, I personaly before coaching or prenting going through a meditation ritual which gets me into a positive state of mind and full of energy. 

Just do it as soon as you notice any negative thought, and put your mind back where you want it to be – focused on the goal you want. 

It will make your mind spend more time working for you, instead of against you. 

And the best part?

The “Pattern Interrupt” is just one of the techniques you can master in Dynamic Life Development Systems.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Development Strategy Coach who works with those men and women who want to develop their confidence, influence, relationships, health and wealth! 

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