The Good The Bad The Ugly About Dating Advice 

By Ange Fonce

One question I am asked quite a bit is how to find good dating advice for men and women that is both practical AND useful. 

There is a lot of stuff out there and if you are not careful... you could get pulled into a bad philosophy.

In fact... let us talk about that for a moment... what is your philosophy toward dating and dating advice?

For both men and women that are out there in the singles world today... we find that very few are looking to be a male or female player and most are looking for a single high quality partner.

That is right... most men and women are not out to just "get laid fast"... they want to meet and attract a potential partner with the qualities that they feel they can stick with.

Most dating advice these days tends to fall into one of these two camps...

1... Either how to get laid tonight with very little integrity or honour 
2... How to improve your dating skills realistically to become attractive to members of the opposite sex.

Watch out for the following outrageous claims made on any of these dating advice sites...

The Lazy Method... Yes everybody wants the EASIEST way to do something and it is like the old "snake oil" remedies... how successful have you ever been doing something the "lazy way?"

Not very I will bet and that is what you will get with these lazy claims... lazy has NEVER been a compliment and it never should be... because it is the something for nothing mentality.

Overnight Results... Yet again this is a ridiculous claim intended to get your buying temperature jacked up... fast results are for the "fast food mentality" of men and women out there... REAL results take more than a few days and often not longer than a few months if you truly apply yourself.

They will be Begging YOU for Sex... The hard cold truth is that there is no dating advice especially for men that will get a woman to defy her basic NATURE... most women by nature are passive creatures and she wants YOU as the Man to initiate... that is how she figures out if you are a Man or not... be careful when you hear something you WISH were true and probably know it is not... such people who offer this stuff are preying on your fantasies... the only women that beg you for sexing are the women you are ALREADY sleeping with... because you are a confident at sexing or the ones that want a little post loving compensation.

Works "Hypnotically"... Since the beginning of time or at least as far back as we can remember... men and women have always wanted a "magic bullet" for attracting the opposite sex... of all the dating advice I have seen out there... NONE of it works like a magic spell or hypnosis... be honest with yourself... do you really want to resort to sleazy mind control to attract a potential partner?

This is the fantasy stuff that bad porn movies use to appeal to your dreams... a man or womans integrity is foremost and you never have to sacrifice it to attract and seduce in the mating game... here is a quick bite of "social courting" advice I give both men and women... it is not hard to approach and meet women or for a woman to be approached and meet men... you just have to learn HOW to approach and be approachable and KNOW how to be a good and interesting conversationalist.

The Author is a Centrefold or Model Quality Man or Woman... I have seen a bunch of sites that plaster their page with airbrushed models in bikinis or skimpy underwear or men with six packs in the hope to get you salivating. or more... for the thought of doing the nasty to him or her... now before you scream... 

"Hey Ange... you have pictures of men and women!"

Yes I do... and I do not claim to BE A MODEL MAN or WOMAN giving this kind of advice... those are the sites that are ridiculous... I have been in this field of Human Relationship for 25 plus years now and I can personally count the number of gorgeous men and women out there giving this advice on one hand... this is another visual manipulation to get you interested.

So what should you look for in dating advice that will cue you that it is legit... the REAL deal?

The sites that tell you...

1... You can learn it and it will require you to CHANGE some or a lot of your behaviours.

All success in life is due to getting rid of bad mental habits and adopting new ones and then acting on them... obviously if you had the skills now you would be using them so first you must learn new skills of "attraction" and "seduction" that actually work... not the myths and bullshit you believe in.

2... You need to start with fixing your THINKING.

Again if you think that learning a few clever opening lines or sneaky techniques is going to make the difference in your love life... remember that both men and women can have EXCEPTIONAL Bull Shit Detectors... they can see through false confidence faster than a speeding train... they are able to leap tall piles of crap in a single bound for the door... you cannot fool a persons natural instincts for long... nor should you have to.

3... You not only need confidence to attract women or be attractive to men... you need a concrete plan for BUILDING IT.

In all my years... there is one essential truth I found and it is that both men and women VALUE CONFIDENCE and find it attractive and the one thing that almost NONE of the other dating advisers out there can show you... is HOW to get it... build it and show it... at some point you have probably figured out that both confident men and women attract a lot of attention from other men and women... why is this?

Because both men and women want either a man or a woman who have AMBITION and PASSION in their world and confident men and women have these traits and it has been and probably always will be the most universal ingredient for attraction from men and women.

To summarize... just remember that the dating advice that works is the stuff that explains how to build the right attitude and knowledge from the INSIDE out... not the other way around... the coolest new threads or dress will not do you ANY good if he or she can smell your insecurities or your hesitancy.
Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


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3... Ange is an Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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