The 7 Behaviours That Destroys Your Social Courting Opportunities With Women

By Ange Fonce

If you are constantly finding yourself being “blown out” or “flaked” on by women or  struggling to even attract a woman?

Then there is something important you need to understand... and you may not like what you are going to read next...

Here it is… read on...

It is not about women... it is about YOU!

You are not appearing as ATTRACTIVE to women due to your own BEHAVIOURS!

Your own behaviours are killing any “attraction” a healthy woman may have for you.

So what do you do?

I am now going to share with you a radical concept form Dynamic Life Development Systems... 

It is easier to eliminate UNATTRACTIVE behaviour then it is to become more attractive.

Let that sink in because you do not hear that concept often... only a Master of  Persuasion and Influence... the very best Coaches and Physiologists use this powerful concept to create change.

That most of the time... by eliminating "unattractive" behaviour is enough to get you moving forward... by REMOVING the self sabotaging blocks... you defeat yourself with.

What exactly do I mean by this?

Here is an example from my own life... 

Way back in my University days... now we really are reaching deep into the vaults of history here... I was very much the “introvert”...yes I was intelligent... shy and very socially awkward.

In fact... I would get so far into my own head that I would second guess everything I was going to say,... and when I went to “social events”... I sat that there like a mute the entire time... and when I found a girl attractive... I could not move... as my legs felt they were wearing lead trousers and I was the proud owner of the latest fashion in concrete boots... and to cap it all off... my tongue had become fluent in an incomprehensible language and refused to speak English.

Do you what I mean?

Your brain has it all worked out... problem is the rest of you has other ideas and wants to do something else!

Girls would always ask...

"What is wrong... are you OK?"

And when I did talk... I had thought about what I was going to say so much that it came out as forced and awkward... and I will be sincere... I spewed verbal diarrhoea.

In fact the more I tried to be funny... cool... or interesting… the more lame... stupid and awkward I appeared... and then would come...

"I have to go to the rest room."

"OH... look my friend is over there... bye."

And the real "ripe your heart out" line... the one that shrivels most men.

"Your such a "nice guy".... let's be friends."

Uhgggggggg... I had a real case of... “geek idiot syndrome.”

Now do not get me wrong here... I am “geeky” by nature... I love Science... especially any kind of science that deals with “Human Relationships.”

The difference now is.... I am a very “social aware” geek... back then I was a “socially stupid” geek.

Then one day my one and only “socially aware” friend gave me a piece of advice I heard a thousand times before and for some reason that day it sunk in…

"Don't over think it... just talk"

And sure enough I gradually stopped over thinking what I was going to say and just said the first thing that came to mind…

And a few months later I had a girlfriend.

No... she was not a raving “hot” beauty... she was a chubby girl...  who turned out to be very annoying... yet I learned a lot of lessons from that experience... this is when being a “Geek” is a real asset... you take things apart to learn and understand how they work... and then go practice them... to get good at what you know... and I have done a lot of “practising”... since those days.

As I have mentioned... often it is not a matter of addition… it is a matter of subtraction.

And in Dynamic Life Development Systems there is a lot of subtracting of old ways that kill your life before the additions of new ways that empower your life... and the fact of subtracting alone creates HUGE changes. 

This means it is not all about becoming better looking... 6 pack abs...funnier... or learning powerful "lines" or techniques you can use... it is about figuring out the behaviours that are making you appear unattractive... and turning women away from you.

APPEAR is the key word here... when I sat there like a Mute I "appeared" awkward and unattractive... I might as well have had “social leaper” stamped on my forehead.

When I began to open up and talk more... I "appeared" like a average guy... and since then I have moved forward a long... long way since those days... to the point of being a respected and sought after... Communication Expert in human relationships. 

Geekyness has it's benefits!

So what kind of behaviours can “turn off” women to you?

Read on...
Behaviours That Make You Appear Unattractive

1...  Being "Clingy"

Clingy behaviour is doing things like calling a woman too much... following her around at a party... not giving her space... always trying to make plans with her... or just generally being "around" too much.

When you act "clingy"... a woman will view you as “needy” and that is unattractive in itself.. especially in men... because they assume you have no other options.

2...  Being "Needy"

Needy behaviour is when you are out with a woman and you constantly need reassurance that she likes you... by asking such questions like...

"Everything alright?" 

"Are you having fun?"  

Or if you are in a relationship with a woman and you keep telling her "I love you" just because you need to hear her say it back.

Healthy women  get turned off real quick by neediness because if you are acting like you are not sure if she should like you… she starts second guessing herself IF she does like you... and once that happens... goodbye you.

3...  Being "Unfunny"

Being "unfunny" is when you do not recognize that your jokes are not making anyone laugh...  it is also when you come across as too "try hard" and the woman can sense it.

This is so unattractive to women because it makes you look "socially clueless"... and she assumes you are not used to hanging around cool and fun people.

4. Dressing Bad

This is self explanatory... I am no fashionista,... yet  I am smart enough to know that I have to be “stylish”... groomed... clean and tidy... personally I go for “high quality” over fashionable... and it never ceases to amaze me just how many men do not want to put any effort into wearing if not fashionable... at least stylish clothes... being "groomed" and "looking good!"

I cannot tell you how many men would dramatically improve their success by just putting a little more thought... effort and money into what they are wearing and how they look and their personal appearance.   

Yes... women DO notice... GREATLY... especially your shoes!  

5...  Being Creepy 

I am not a fan of the word "creepy" because women throw it around in such an ambiguous way... little realizing that they can come across themselves as “creepy” too. 

Here is a list of behaviour that generally comes across as creepy to a woman... 

  • Staring at her too long before starting a conversation with her... you become the "psycho killer" in her mind... and it will "freak" her out!
  • Asking too personal questions too soon. 
  • Making ill timed sexual references. 
  • Knowing things about her you should not... i.e., her feeling like you stalk her out on Facebook.
Creepiness is such a turn off because if feeds into the "fear" that all women have of being taken advantage of or forced into doing something they do not want to do.

Certainly not the "psycho" vibe you want to give off.

6. Being Too Nice

Yes... this is a BIG one that many men struggle with...  it is so counter intuitive to what women say they want... how culture and "political correctness" says we have to be as Men... that it drives a lot of men crazy.

Yes... it does feel right to want to do things for her... help her... compliment her... be a gentleman.. be the appreciative audience… the “nice guy.”

Yet... this sort of behaviour creates a "friend" vibe that ruins your opportunities for creating sexual tension and attraction in her.  

A woman wants to "feel" and "experience"... the primal "sexual tension" of the Masculine animal you are... because it allows her to be the "primal sexual feminine animal" she is.

7... Being Too Scared

This is another BIG one.  

I suffered from this for a long time.  I was too scared to talk to her... too scared to ask her out... too scared invite her back to my place... too scared to kiss her... too scared to undress her… to much of a DAMMED WIMPY NICE GUY!

Here is the thing about being "scared" to do any of these things… it makes you seem inexperienced and unconfident.  

The good news is that there is a simple little mind trick you can use here... instead of being “anxious.”

REFRAME anxiety into “excitement” in other words... just "not being scared" has the complete opposite effect. 

There is a powerful Psychological and Physiological method of consciously RFRAMING your Mind and Body in any given situation you find yourself in... which I go deeply into in Dynamic Life Development Systems.

It makes you appear experienced... confident... and  attractive.

So be honest with yourself... which behaviours from that list do you need to eliminate?

For me... at various points in my life I was guilty of all of them... yes... I can freely admit that I have been the creepy guy. 

The important thing is to be honest with yourself about which of the behaviours you need to work on to eliminate.

Here is something that will challenge your mind... other than physical appearance which only plays a small part in “attraction” for women...being free of these  behaviours will make a Man more attractive.

Your character... confidence and how you communicate is a BIG DEAL in the “mating game” with women. 

Just by not doing these behaviours and REMOVING them... improves your ATTRACTION FACTOR a lot with women. 

Plus when you start learning and ADDING new skills like how to talk to women in a way that turns her ATTRACTION onto you... then your success begins to greatly improve with women

So... the first step in improving your ATTRACTION FACTOR is the elimination of unattractive traits... and behaviours you have now.

The second step is always focusing on the way you talk and present yourself... your “communication” with women and also “how” you “communicate” with others in your life. 

Because you will be judged by the words that come out of your mouth... your appearance and the “actions” of what you do.

Ultimately you want to work for the WIN WIN for you and women.

And when that one “extra special” woman comes into your life... and she is “greatly” attracted  to you.

You allow her to WIN a GREAT Man... YOU!

Now... make it happen...

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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By Ange Fonce

I will start this article with a question from a male reader of The Intimate Communion Magazine. 

Bill who asks me as to why women keep blowing him off and giving him excuses and he ends up in the "friends zone."

And as a man who has my self experienced the "friends zone" along with many other men. Knows just how much it SUCKS to end up being blown of by a woman.

And the REALITY is that 90% of the time it is us guys who ar... 

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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