Brief side note - old mentor of mine's statement...

"Worriers (and spellers) can be hired for minimum wage." 

A lot of people waste a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them - which is actually the combo of ego amok and low self-esteem. 

Or worrying about problems that might arise - which is only useful in context of strategic planning and proactive prevention.

This is an important lesson to you when you are out there in the world trying to talk to men and women and get this part of your life under your control. 

Worrying is the most USELESS mental effort you can expend.

It accomplishes NOTHING. 

Usually worry immobilizes us so much that we even fail to PREPARE when we know there is a chance of the thing we are worrying about coming true.

Remember what I say about worry...

90% of the things that you worry about NEVER happen. 

And 90% of the things that happen to you never give you the chance to worry about them.

And re-read this statement once more...

"A lot of people waste a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them - which is actually the combo of ego amok and low self-esteem."

Very True. 

Amazingly we can be both egotistical AND insecure at the exact same time. 

If you  are in this mindset when you are talking to either a man or a woman, you are not only ensuring that your conversation will not arouse their interest, you are also going to emotionally condition and cripple yourself in future interactions, because you will be practising the fine art of MESSING with your own head.

The best state to be in with both men and women is worry-free, relaxed, and independent of their judgement and evaluation.

Remember... No man or woman can judge you! 

They are NOT qualified for this job.

Only YOU are.

Ange Fonce