Why Men And Women Lie In Love Relationships
And Tips For Spotting Them In A Lie 

By Ange Fonce

Researchers have found that women tend to lie to spare someone feelings or to avoid conflict... men tend to lie to make themselves seem more ”impressive”... or to get something... that something usually being sex.

Unfortunately... too many men and women are not prepared to "recognize" either the "lie or the liar" until both have become history... we often have a blind spot for lies... especially in our “intimate relationships.” 

After all... a "blind spot" for anything spells trouble... and when you hold back on “trusting” someone you should not feel bad.... that “scepticism” and “romance” maybe an odd couple... yet you can avoid setting yourself up for deep disappointment later on.

Because Trust has to be earned and Respected... and when you give your “trust” away too easily and too fast... you become a "target” for anyone who chooses to act unscrupulously.

Some men and women... and not all men and women... lie to make themselves seem more “impressive”... or they have something to hide... they also see the “social courting” game as a competition and think they have to outdo rivals. 

Some men and women often lie about wanting a lasting... “intimate relationship”... they assume the other person wants this... and that only by hinting at a “relationship” can they get “love”... “sex”... and "companionship"... then they find themselves trapped in a “relationship” they did not want... pretending to be someone they are not. 

So they lie to get space from their partner... or they lie and cheat on that partner... and finally... they lie to escape... usually leaving the other person who was “fooled” by their lies... devastated!

That cycle damages both people... the one lied to... obviously feels “betrayed” and used... also something many men and women who “lie”... do not wake up to until later in life is that the liar also never “feels” and “experiences”... the “intimacy” or “love”... of a REAL TRUSTING relationship... their lies are always in the way. 

Can Authenticity And Integrity Really Compete With Sexy Lies? 

In the long run... “authenticity” and “integrity”... builds “deeper”... more “trusting” and better “intimate relationships”... yet “sexy lies” seem to “entice and bedazzle” us.  

So... do you want to know... how to know you are “courting” a loser?

Here are some “telltale signs” that what you are hearing a man or woman say... might be something less than the whole truth...

Eye Contact... 

When he or she will not meet your eye when he or she tells you something... your “inner alarm” should start ringing... and waving a “red flag”... that some kind of "deception" is going on here... yet also be “aware”... that a “shy person” may feel awkward and find it hard to keep “eye contact” with you... because of their lack of “self confidence”... it is always best to look for other “non verbal” communication signs.

Body language...

Blushing... sweating... leg jiggling... covering the mouth... nervousness... ear pulling... false smile... such responses can be a reflection of his "bodies physiological reaction" to covering up the truth... as they lie to you.

Credibility... 

Try to see if their words sound “plausible”... some people in the panic of being forced to lie... can trot out the most absurd story that is just impossible to be considered as "credible"... really bad liars look “sceptical” as they tell their tall tale... even they do not "think" like they are “fooling” you... in the lies they are telling!

Repetition... 

If a man or women continually repeats the question you ask them... or constantly asks you to repeat your question... that is a sign... that  he or she is generally “buying” them self more time to formulate their lie. 

And again a warning here... this is not necessary the case with all people... for some people it is just their way to gain “clarity” and “understanding” of what you are asking of them... to sit and “think”... and “consider” before they reply to you... and also consider they may “genuinely” not “understand” your question. 

Gut instinct... 

You have a powerful secret weapon left... listen to your instincts... sub consciously... we all pick up when someone is lying and deceiving us... their “non verbal” body language... leaks out everywhere... although you may not be skilled in “consciously” reading “non verbal language”... subconsciously you are picking up on the deception... and if your “gut instinct” is ringing “alarm bells”... trust it... you may not “know” what the lie and deception is... you are certainly “sensing” it.   

Sometimes... you are face to face with a very skilled "con artist"... who can “mask their intentions” well... or a compulsively unfaithful partner... such people will be experienced and credible... they will have worked on “controlling” their bodies reactions to the fear of getting caught out... and will seem “natural” and “trustworthy” at first glance... in these situations and often in spite of all the “evidence” before you... you will "experience" a strong reaction that something is not right. 

The “biggest mistake” you can ever make in such a situation is to “ignore” your “gut feeling”... trust your “animal instincts”... they have been honed by “evolution” to ensure your “survival”... and your "animal" knows when things are not right.

Your “mind” can be conned and fooled... it takes a “highly skilled expert” to fool your animal instinct.

Of course... not everyone deserves to be the object of automatic and chronic suspicion... and if you are not sure if someone is lying to you... pay attention to the “combination” of “eye contact”... “body language”... the “credibility” of the excuse... and your “animal instincts.” 

You will find that your ability to spot a lie when you learn about “verbal and non verbal communication”... that you can become “finely tuned” and very reliable... and "skilled" in “reading” when other people are lying and trying to deceive you.

And people will learn fast... it is not advisable to try and “bullshit” you... “authenticity” and “integrity” will be their “best policy” to pursue... in their “relationship” with you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


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Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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