This Is Crucial When It Comes To Influencing Others

By Ange Fonce

In this article I wanted to talk about and share with you one thing that is not generally not mentioned when it comes to influencing and persuading others. 


And how it can work for you or against you. 

Let me give you an example... 

Suppose you are driving one evening and you see some blue lights flashing lights in your rear view mirror... then you hear a siren... and you pull over to the side of the road. 

The officer dressed in his police uniform gets out of his car and proceeds to ask you for your license and registration... and informs you that you were going 50 mph in a 30 mph zone... oh dear... and if in fact you know you were speeding... this scenario would not come as a surprise to you... and you know you have been caught and you are going to get the speeding ticket. 

Now contrast that scenario with this one. 

You are the only one stopped at a traffic light... you reach down on the passenger seat to pick up something that you dropped... and when you sit back up there is a policeman at your window... as you look around you do not know where he came from... there is no police car... no lights... no siren... it is like poof... he just magically dropped out of the sky and appeared at your window... and as he asks you to roll down your window... you have that gut feeling that something is off and wrong here. 

Do you see how not having the siren... the lights... the police car... make the second scenario such a different experience? 

Can you see how the first scenario lends itself to your cooperation and maybe even deference... where the second scenario does not? 

The first scenario will most likely result in "compliance"... while the second scenario will most likely trigger "resistance" and have the persons "threat radar" fully turned on!

The same is true in language patterns. 

If you know how to set the context... your ability to influence... persuade and even “hypnotize” others can happen a lot more often. 

I am not sure if this is true or not... I have heard a story about how a girl scout sold the most cookies in her organization... she would knock on the door of an unsuspecting house and ask if they would like to contribute to her trip the the annual girl scout jamboree... the cost being £679. 

Of course the homeowner would say no. 

She would then ask them if they would like to buy a £3 box of cookies. 

They would almost always say yes! 

All she did was set the context with the first question... so that the homeowners were more likely to say yes to the second question. 

There is a BIG difference between £679 and £3 and which one would you say "yes" too?

When you are aware of setting the context in a conversation... it is much easier to influence and persuade others into doing what you ask of them to do..

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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