The Power Of Reframing With Authority 

By Ange Fonce 

In Dynamic Life Development Systems I go into "great detail" about using the the "power of reframing." 

How it can be used in different "social situations"... whether personally or professionally. 

And in this short article I am going talk about "how" to "reframe situations" in such a way that you come out as the "authority"... without sounding obnoxious or bossy. 

Before I do that... we need to talk about the "opposite" of being a "confident authority." 

And in my mind the "opposite" would be someone who is "needy"... you know the type... someone who is constantly seeking "validation" outside of themselves.. the man or woman who is always looking to others for their "approval" and to give them their "value." 

They almost come across as a natural born follower... not that there is anything wrong with following... in the right context... time and place... and if you are trying to establish your authority then "following"... as opposed to "leading"... is not going to cut it. 

Now... let us get back to "establishing authority." 

What type of "questions" could you ask that would put you in the place of "authority" and "create" the scenario where you are the one being "chased" and not the one doing the "chasing?" 

By Using Qualifying Questions... 

Questions that when you ask them... put the other person in the position where they have to "qualify" in order to keep the conversation going. 

Let us suppose that you are in a "sales situation" and you are wrapping up your "sales presentation"... instead of asking questions like... 

"So... do we have a deal?"

"Are you ready to get started?" 

You could say something like this... 

"Mr. Smith... if you decide to move forward with this... I like to know that the people that I work with bring more to the table than just money... so tell me... what else can your company bring to the table that would lead me to believe that we will be a good fit for each other?"

Do you see what happened here? 

Instead of begging for the order at the end of the presentation... you make the prospect "qualify" himself to you by asking him what else can he bring to the table. 

That is powerful! 

And it is one of the "fastest ways" to go from "chasing someone" to having "someone chasing you."

This method also works when you are out "social courting" and meeting members of the opposite sex. 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth!

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Are You Authoritative? 

 By Ange Fonce

One of the most powerful ways of "influencing" and "persuading" people is from a position of "authority." 

If you are the "authority"... then it is to be "expected" that you know what you are "talking about" and that people "listen" to you. 

So how do you go about becoming an "authority?" 

There are a some steps involved... and the first and most "important" step is not "chasing anyone." 

When you "chase" someone... or something it "automatically" puts you in ...

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