The Power of Authenticity‏ Leads To The Power Of Dynamic Confidence 

By Ange Fonce 

How "powerful" are you? 

Do you ever cover up how you genuinely feel? 

Do you ever say what you think you "should"...  based on how you want others to perceive you? 

Do you ever think you "should" be a certain way? 

May I ask you a “personal” question... how come?

I will share with you “how come”... in a period of my life... I "thought" I "should" be a certain way... say certain things... act in the manner that I "thought" would bring me either the results I was attached to... or the acceptance of those I wanted...  how powerful was I... about as powerful as a n ice cream cone in the Sahara desert.

When my behaviour was incongruent with how I sincerely thought and felt... all I did was give away my power to others and  I then felt even less powerful than before... when my energy went into trying to live up to a fictitious image I "thought" I "should" be... then what I was doing in actuality... was denying myself of my genuine... authentic power... and personally that was a real “low point” in my life... and with the “help” of a great mentor... I turned myself around.

There is nothing more powerful than BEING who you really want to be... being confident and trusting in yourself... strong enough to say what you really think... show how you really feel... and act the way you really feel like behaving... this is called "congruency." 

This takes a “special" kind of courage... and it starts with “respecting” yourself... when you are aligned with yourself... your own “values”... your own thoughts... your own feelings and you “frame” them in a “positive” manner...THEN you are authentically powerful. 

Whose acceptance are you trying to get? 

Stop... work on getting your own... if you cannot accept yourself... how can anyone else accept you? 

Whose approval are you trying to win? 

First gain... your own “self approval”... genuinely “like” being who you are... and others will like you as YOU are.

Who implanted the false image in your head you think you are supposed to live up to in order to be enough?

Look at the your own image in the mirror... if you want to “improve” and “develop” yourself... then DO IT... you do not need any “approval” from any body else to be as YOU want to be. 

NOW...  when you think of something... say it... when you feel something... say it. 

You may say something as gently or as graciously as you would like...  make sure that it is said... in a “positive” manner.

If you sincerely want to do something... silence the “judging voice” in your head... and DO what YOU want to do without worrying about imagined future results... if you keep whatever bothers you all bottled up... you will become “resentful”... and “stressed out”... you will wind up to a point of unnecessarily exploding on others...  or doing yourself some serious harm... share your thoughts and feelings honestly and sincerely. 

You see... once you begin to be authentic... you begin to feel “trusting” and “confident” and comfortable being  the genuine you.

Once you begin to experience being the genuine you... you will lose that feeling of being  powerless... the only way to feel true authentic power is to be true... genuine and congruent... as you... then all feelings of powerlessness diminish... and fade away.

You will worry far less... which means less stress... you will be more relaxed... you will be more focused and in control... because you will not be divided between who you think you should be for other people...  and be powerful as you are... for yourself. 

Then... you will realize how “dynamic” and powerfully “confident” you have become.

As always... leave a man or woman all the "better" for "knowing" you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth!

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