The Paradox Of Expectations
By Ange Fonce
Most people cannot go first... and most people do not want to go last... most people do what most people do... that is obvious... most people wait... for most people... they “expect” someone else to make the “first move.”
Perhaps this is what you do... wait to be more trusted... "expecting" more?
Of course... over time... your good work will lead to "higher expectations"... and the paradox is... this will sooner or later lead to disappointment... raise expectations forever and even if you Superman or Superwoman... you are going to let us down... “raised expectations” tend to be exponential... they grow faster and faster... until they become “impossible” to fulfill.
Worth a pause to “understand” that this is literally true... obviously true... and not a criticism of those who choose to go first nor of those who wait.
Most people though... hesitate.
"What if the other person does not like it...?"
The fear of being “judged” is palpable... and the trail you leave behind makes it feel more real and more permanent... we live in an ever changing culture... and that culture is changed precisely by the "ideas" you engage with and the ones you choose to share.
Sharing an idea you care about is a “generous way” to change your world for the better... the culture you will live in next month is a "direct result" of what people like you "share today"... the things you share and do not share determine what happens next.
One possible path to do with “expectations”... is to "destroy" them... veer left when everyone expects you to veer right... do something that makes no sense... reset having “expectations” to "creating standards”... and having "created" those "standards” within “reason”... is a constant “variable”... you can work too and maintain.
Expectations on the other hand... can be and are often completely "unreasonable"... beyond your control and often are totally “unrealistic” and “impossible” to fulfill.
Expectations or having “standards”... a "benchmark"... to "measure" to and maintain?
Excellence is a "standard"... not an expectation... probably worth considering if you are a human being intent on “creating”... and making your art happen... get done... and maintain a level of "success!"
It takes guts to say...
"This is MY STANDARD I will live too."
It takes guts to care enough about your culture... and your friends... to move it forward and to STAND for something worthwhile... and not “expect” others to do it for you.
You will “judged” most on whether you “care enough” to “change” things... and “set the standards” for others to “strive” for... you LIVE as a CREATOR of STANDARDS... and not as a person of “expectations.”
Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!
Yours Sincerely
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