The Most Attractive Trait You Can Display to a Woman...

Confident Certainty 

By Ange Fonce

In this article I want to talk to you about one of the most "attractive traits" you can display to a woman…

Confident Certainty!

So what is "confident certainty?"  

It is a firm "confident... conviction" that something is "true."

And what a woman really wants from you is "certainty"... because your "certainty" gives her the "feeling" of "safety"... that you are her best "possible choice"... that where she is at is the best "possible place" to be...  that being with you is the best "possible decision" she can make.

Because SHE does not "know"... she cannot make up her "mind"... and she does not want the burden of making the "decision" and taking "responsibility." 

Now without going into the deep "psychology" of "influence... persuasion" and "resistance" here... I will keep it simple... most women have something called "make up my mind for me syndrome"... the exception to this is certain women of a certain "personality type" and "mindset" who are more than capable of making their own "choices" and taking "responsibility."

And it exists in ALL phases of the relationship... from the very first moment you "approach her"... to the very first time she takes her clothes off for you...  to the moment she is blurting out "I love you…"

She wants to be led... she wants to feel "safe"...  she wants to be told what to do... she wants to feel like she had no "control" over the outcome... why?

Because this gives her an "excuse"... an "out" if things go wrong... it resolves her of the blame and "responsibility"... this way in her "mind" she can say...

"I had no choice."

"It was not my decision."

More than anything... women DO NOT want to be wrong... the exception to this is the woman who does take "responsibility" for her "actions."

This is why women on the whole hate "needy behavior"... because if you are "acting" like you are "not sure" if she should "like you"... she starts "second guessing" herself... it is the same thing when you "approach" a woman...  same thing when you ask her to "meet up"... same thing when you "seduce" her.

Never put her in a spot where she has to be the one to say "yes" or "no" to moving things forward... she does not want that "responsibility"... you are after all the MAN... it is your role to take on that "responsibility"... to put it in more "primal terms"... and a BIG part of us as Human Beings is still very "primal"... if you cannot go out onto the savanna... hunt the Buffalo and "kill it" to bring the meat back to feed her and possible kids in the future... what good are you to her?

This is ESPECIALLY true when it comes to avoiding the "friend zone."

Back some years I had this female friend who I had hung out with for three or four years without hooking up with... and over time I started to become increasingly "attracted" to her... and I decided I wanted to have more with her... I knew that if I disclosed my feelings "verbally" it would give her the "choice" to make up her "own mind"... and I will be honest... that was the last thing I wanted... so on a weekend ski trip away with a bunch of friends... her included... and after a night of drinking and typical flirtations I went for the kiss... she let me kiss her for a moment and then turned away... a moment later I kissed her again... we kissed a lot more times that night... the next morning after having time to "think" she told me she did not want things to get weird and what happened last night was a mistake. 

Later that night I kissed her again... she kissed back... then she slapped me... I kissed her again... she kissed back... then slapped me again... realize that every time I kissed her she kissed back before slapping me... any way I left it at that having "decided" that I had made my "intentions" clear. 

That morning in the cafeteria... the minute she saw me she come over and sat with me and started kissing me... we shared the rest of the weekend "making out" with each other and very little skiing was done... smiles! 

The simple fact is... I made up "her mind" for her... she did not want to take "responsibility" for ruining our friendship so she hesitated... and when I took the "lead" and the "responsibility" she followed. 

And there is a note here for the men... when a woman says no... "respect" her NO... I have never yet come across a case when NO has meant "yes"... never make a woman do something she does not "feel" good about.

Certainty is one of the "traits" that most "confident... masculine men" possess... they "trust" there is no doubt the woman would be "attracted" to them... there is no doubt she will want to kiss him... there is no doubt she will want to be with him.

Compare THAT attitude to the "typical attitude" of the needy nice guy... the "needy nice guy" is never "certain"... never "confident"... he constantly needs "reassurance"  that she "likes" him...  that he is not making "mistakes"... and this "neediness" causes him to get "clingy"... because he is not certain if she "likes him"... he "feels" the "need" to text her all time for "reassurance"... or he constantly wants to hang out with her just for the "reassurance"... and this "neediness" is actually a form of "control"... because in reality... mr nice guy is a "needy... insecure control freak."

Women pick up on this "vibe"...  and it is "extremely unattractive" and actually "creates" a "self fulfilling prophecy"... I mean is such a guy going to "hunt" the Buffalo... let alone "kill it?"

Make a "conscious" effort to replace "insecurity" with "confident... certainty"... in more scientific terms Outcome Based Thinking... you "know" the "result" you want to happen... will happen!

Women want a man who is absolutely CERTAIN of his "value"... women want a "leader"... a Man who takes "charge"... a Man who takes "responsibility" for himself and her.

For Example... 

Instead of asking a woman if you can have her number... tell her to give it you... hand her your phone and tell her to type it in... she will do it.

When you ask a woman to "meet up"... never say... 

“What do you feel like doing?” 

“Where do you want to eat?” 

Instead say.. 

“I will pick you up at eight and we are going to head to a nice place I know... and we will eat there.”

Be CERTAIN that the place you have picked and taking her too is the best possible place she can be.

BANISH the "doubt" and "insecurity" from your "mind"... all those "thoughts" of... 

"Does she like me?"

"Is this place a good place to take her?"  

"Should I try to kiss her later?"

That stuff will just destroy your "confidence" and make you an "insecure needy mess."

Eliminate them and replace them with Confident CERTAINTY.

"It will be just fine... it will be GREAT!"

And that will be your Self Fulfilling Prophecy!

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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I am going to start this article by making a statement that I feel that ALL women need to listen too.

"That women are to encourage men to be Masculine and "accept" men for "who they really" are... and not what women “think” men should be... this means women ARE to back off and let MEN find and redefine OUR MASCULINITY in this CHANGING World and BALANCE between the Sexes!"

And as for the men out there who have not got a "clue" who they are and what re...

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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