The Hidden Power In Your Fears You Can Use In a Positive Way 

By Ange Fonce

Who wants to be feeling afraid? 

In every moment each of us is given the choice to open ourselves to loving life or fearing life... a simple choice one might think. 

Yet as I often find out when working with some clients... this world with its violence... terrorism... war... poverty and disease becoming the reality of every day life for so many people... is there anyone who has not struggled with fear?

Whenever you are about to make a major leap forward in your personal development... business... relationships and even sexing... fear often steps into your path and it is the antagonist in all your personal stories. 

There is truth in that you attract what you fear... there is also truth in that the more you love the more love is attracted to you.

It is a matter of cause and effect... the more you fear a thing the more likely it is to happen and if left unchecked such fear can take control of your life. 

Yet everything has a purpose and fear is no exception... there is good reason to be afraid of some things... fear is a messenger that warns you there may be danger ahead... its purpose is to guide you toward actions that will protect you as well as your loved ones... it is natural and healthy to feel fear and like other natural tendencies you have.

One of the secrets of Success is to Master your fear.

We all would like that life could be stable... you imagine that you would feel safe and comfortable if you could make life remain static or secure... yet without dangers in our lives we cannot live to our highest potential and you never fulfil that potential without learning from your fear.

Of course you do not want to take it too far... you do not want to be so engrossed in your fear that you become consumed by it and there is a balance to be achieved between that extreme and its opposites... avoiding... denying and trying to be unafraid because avoidance of fear is your greatest barrier to personal development... growth and success.

When you try to avoid or deny your fear... thinking that you can just be rid of it... it usually gets worse... shutting out fear invariably shuts out the choices that could take you to the next level of your personal development.

Fear is very much like quicksand... the more you fight it the deeper you sink... embracing your fear is akin to relaxing in quicksand so you can stop sinking... until you face your fear head on and embrace it... it will dominate you.

Carl Jung said... 

"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious it happens outside as fate." 

Fear that is ignored takes up residence in your mind and draws experiences to you in which it can exercise itself... you then find yourself face to face with the same fear inducing experiences again and again... the result of this is that your ability to exercise your free will becomes hampered more and more every time you let fear take over... this can create extremely stubborn blocks in your personal progress and can harm you physically... mentally and emotionally.

Avoiding fear blocks you from the joy you could be experiencing and blinds you to the many joys and successes you could be experiencing and when you begin the journey toward embracing your fear you begin a healing process that leads you inevitably to your authentic self... the whole point of life is to come to know yourself as an individual that is part of the greater whole of life and humanity.

When you are afraid you are actually being given an opportunity to learn... to grow... to see and hear the world more clearly... fear shows you the ways you hold yourself back... it also provides you with an energy which you can transmute into power within yourself.

Do not be afraid of fear... do not reject it or push it away... instead reach out to it and love it... when you show compassion and tenderness toward your fear... you transform it into a strength... a courage that eventually becomes the seat of peace in your self... this is what gives successful people their inner peace... nothing can sway them from their centre because they have transformed their fear and fear is the seed of courage... it is what you do in response to your fear that makes the difference. 

The polar opposite... LOVE!

That is where love comes in as love is fears opposite polarity and love is ever present in ourselves and others. 

Compassion for your fearful self always leads to freedom from fear as love can transform fear... there is a transformation that is sparked when you give love and tenderness to your fear... when you focus on love its ability to touch you grows... when you send out love it always comes back to you larger than it was when you sent it and when you love in fears presence... fear diminishes. 

So let your fear come to the surface... whatever fear you may have... whether it be large or small... do not fight it... just sit with it and get to know it... ask it what it is trying to tell you and listen to what it may be asking you for. 

Let yourself be moved by your fears needs... seek a deeper understanding of your fear... let compassion and tenderness flow through you... replacing any previous judgements you may have had about your fear... assure your fear that you hear it and that you will take care of it and its needs will be met. 

See yourself wrapping your arms around your fear in a loving embrace... feel your fear dissolving.

Once you are in contact with your fear and have found understanding of why it has come to you... you can take action

This is the way to own your fear and take personal responsibility for finding your own inner truth... no matter what your circumstances. 

This is not an easy path... yet it is easier than the loss of your authentic self that you would experience otherwise.

Remember that life is a amazing gift and yes life will bring its ups and downs so do not be afraid of your fears.

Embrace them... learn from them... transform them... your fear is teaching you lessons to learn to become a better and more DYNAMIC YOU!

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


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1... A person with a penchant for Science... creativity... computers... books... writing... women... sexing... sexuality... human relationships... psychology... physiology and any other area involving heavy use of the Intellect.

2... A bright "kick arse" person who is glamorously Intelligent!

3... Ange is an Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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