The  Golden Principles Of Masculinity

Open... Carry... Kill!

By Ange Fonce

She stood by the sink... struggling with a jam jar... I noticed... walked over... took it gently from her hands and with a soft sharp pulse... loosened the top... and for this... she kissed me.

Women speak with their bodies better than we men do... their world is an emotional world... and what she was saying was... 

"I am glad you are here." 

And… "I am glad you are a man... I love men... I feel taken care of." 

"I feel complemented and completed and safe."

To us... doltish men that we are... it was just a stupid jar... yet it is in the smallest gestures of service that we often make our Masculine value felt.

Whenever I am asked to open a jar... carry a heavy box or kill a mosquito... I marvel at the subtle dynamics that go on between the Masculine and Feminine.

No matter how competent... strong or professional a woman may be... there is always a subtle sexual gratitude that happens in these moments... as if for a moment... we are quietly returned to our core sexual primal essences... Male... Female... Masculine... Feminine.

Now... here is where it gets fun and more interesting... women like to joke about it... that this exactly what men are good for... opening... carrying and killing.

I found myself wrapping my arms around a woman who said this to me and looking into her eyes and reframing her comment... replied...

"That is right... I am here to open your life to new experiences... I am here to carry your burdens when you need a strong shoulder... and I am here to help you kill your little self so you can live as the fullest... most expansive and loving self possible."

Her whole body relaxed into mine as she seemed to breathe out a lifetime of burden.

"I like that"... she cooed.

And you will not be surprised here... I liked THAT.

When you raise your standards of the gifts your Masculinity can bring to women... they will see you with a more deeply appreciative eye.

We as men ARE here to serve the Feminine open... and in serving the Feminine... we as men who are comfortable... confident and relaxed in our own Masculinity... allow and lead women to open into the Feminine love and passion that they really are... providing them with a rock of trustability... steadiness and most important of all... safety. 

We as Masculine men allow them to open into new adventures by being a guide... by living boldly and passionately in our own Masculine truth by making the world safer for women.

We carry their burdens... which may seem so heavy to them... and so momentary and light to us... especially when they feel socially slighted by another... or unloved in some way... when we are doing our job right as men... living from our Masculine core... we bring women back to their core worth.

We bring their Femininity alive!

And we do kill... yes mosquitoes.... and when we are living with enough breadth and perspective and depth... if we are bigger than the moments concerns... bigger than the immediate circumstance... bigger than our own piddling little egos and out momentary needs... when we kill the smallness in ourselves... we give life to the breadth and joy of our women.

There are "Four Golden Principles" that I teach men that I work with for a woman to feel fulfilled and connected to her man.........

1... To feel Appreciated... Respected and Valued

2... To share a deep Emotional bond with you.

3... To feel FEMININE and Sexy

4... Hot... Passionate  Sexing!

And these "Four Golden Principles" bond a woman to you.....

First... she needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that she is... she needs to feel special... unlike any other woman... and she needs to know that her man supports her in all her endeavours.

Second... she needs to feel that deep... intimate emotional connection... she needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man... it is a connection she shares only with him.

Third... she needs to feel like a woman... she needs to feel beautiful... sexy and feminine... she needs to enjoy all those things that come with being a woman... and feel no shame in being a Woman!

Finally... she needs Hot... Passionate Sexing... she needs to feel seduced... entranced... teased... and satisfied... over and over again... she needs to experience new things... in new ways... including fantasies and roles... it makes her feel desired... affirmed... and alive.

And those four things can only be TRUE when there is Trust and Respect.

That the Man is TOTALLY AUTHENTIC in giving of his MASCULINITY!

He LEADS and SERVES her!

Earn the trust... earn the respect and see the four needs are meet and a woman will adore you!

So pay attention to the subtle ways that women value you... the small ways in which you are appreciated may be pointers to your own greatest gifts to women and to the world.

Your own MASCULINITY!


Principles Of Being Masculine...

Lesson 1... Take Responsibility...

Do not do things you know are wrong... and then blame others... if you make a mistake... take responsibility for your actions... one of the meanings of the word.. "husband"... is someone who skillfully manages and masterful of his household... a Masterful Man takes responsibility... as there is little sympathy for a man who blames a woman for something that has gone wrong... he is often still held responsible... people will ask him... 

"Why did you let it go on?" 

A man has to look at himself... and see how he can change his own actions to properly handle similar situations.

And please do not mistake being a Masterful Man... to mean you behave like a macho jerk and abuse and control others... a Masterful Man leads by being the example he is... he gives Respect and in turn is Respected.

Lesson 2... Show Leadership...

If a man wants to be seen as worthy... and have a good relationship with a woman... he has to show leadership... when he sees a situation that needs to be dealt with... he should step forward... and handle it.... people admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations... we do not admire those who stand back... and wait for others to solve the problem.

Some men avoid taking the lead because they do not want to be criticized... they think they are playing it safe... a man should say... 

"I will handle it." 

And take the initiative to find solutions... if he is not sure what the solution is... do what other leaders do... consult the many sources of information available.

Lesson 3... Make Decisions...

One of the meanings of the word... "manly"... is being decisive... a man needs to make decisions... and take responsibility for the outcome... if he is reluctant to make decisions... she may resent him... part of making decisions is understanding the other persons views... and being flexible... she does not want someone controlling her... and she also does not want someone who leaves every decision to her... a man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself... who should make decisions? 

Someone who is not afraid of making mistakes.

Lesson 4... Be Strong...

Who is strong? 

He who can master his emotions... a man who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city... blowing up in anger can seriously damage a relationship... if a man thinks he cannot control his anger... he should imagine being angry at someone... the telephone rings... and it is his boss... would he calm down? 

Of course... or he would lose his job... not getting angry does not mean he accepts bad treatment... he calmly sets limits on the treatment he accepts from others.

Lesson 5... Be Manly...

Being manly is not being macho.... manliness is the positive qualities of decisiveness... strength in ones convictions... confidence... self reliance... high moral qualities... self discipline... honesty... and integrity... a man who is manly has courage to be able to deal with difficulty... pain... or danger without backing away despite his fear.

To women... ask your man to read this. 

To men... if after years of watching Homer Simpson... you have not heard these ideas before... ask your wife... or girlfriend if this is what she wants. 

You may be surprised at her response.

And finally to complete this article... I am going to end with a spiritual flourish... 



Masculinity

No one takes it from me and I lay it down of my own accord... as I have authority to lay it down... as I have authority to take it up again... this charge I have received to be all my truth. 

May my teaching as a Man drop as the rain... my speech distill as the dew... like gentle rain upon the tender grass... and like showers upon the herb.

Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments. 

My Loves Truth is not love which alters when it alteration finds... or bends with the remover to remove. 

O no! 

It is an ever present mark... that looks on tempests and is never shaken. 

It is the star to every open heart... whose worth is unknown... although his height be taken. 

My Loves Truth is not Times fool... though rosy lips and cheeks within his bending sickles compass come.

Father Time and Death can never harvest loves bounty. 

My Loves Truth alters not with Times brief hours and weeks... and bears it out even to the edge of Deaths doom. 

If this be error and upon me proved... I never writ... and nor no man ever loved.

For my Loves Truth can only know and be Love... authentic Masculine.

I am Master and servant to Love... to lead and to serve... is to be my Masculine Truth!

And one final thought...

A Masculine Man is his own Truth... he is the creator of his environment... he is never the product of his environment.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely



Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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