The Dynamic Art Of Communicating Effectively With Men

By Ange Fonce

Did you know that 80% of the reason a relationship succeeds or fails is a result of the subtle "indirect" things you and a man communicate to each other?

The truth is that many women do not even know what the most important parts of this "indirect" communication are... and how it all works... to make sure you stay close and deeply connected with the man in your life through even in the toughest of times... you need to master the skill of what I call Emotional Awareness... and learn how this has the power to save or destroy your relationship right here where I explain the big stuff you need to know about.

Okay... now here is a quick quiz for you.

Do you know what the single MOST IMPORTANT SKILL to have in a relationship with a man is?

The one skill that underlies EVERYTHING... and is proven to be the ultimate "make it or break it" part of a long term relationship?

Take a moment to think about what this one absolutely critical skill is.

Figure it out yet?

Is it the skill of... knowing how to keep a fulfilling life of your own while in a serious relationship?

No... it is not.

Is the skill... of taking responsibility for your own happiness first?

No... not that either.

Or is it... keeping the passion alive and making sure he is sexually satisfied with you so that he wants to stay with you and only you?

The answer is that the most crucial skill is none of these things.

The single most important thing you will ever need to know if you want to have a LASTING and SECURE RELATIONSHIP with a man is... the skill of knowing how to CONNECT and COMMUNICATE with a man Emotionally and Psychologically.

And notice I said... with a MAN.

Now... it might sound simple and do not be fooled here and make the mistake most women make thinking they know what they are doing when it comes to how men think about talking and sharing in a relationship with a woman... see... most women think that they are great communicators because they can SHARE HOW THEY FEEL with other women and do so often... yet does this get them the kind of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING that they want from the one man they want it with?

For an overwhelming majority of women... the answer is NO... it does not... and if you think about it... the numbers do not add up here... here is what I mean...

The Art Of Communicating Effectively With Men 

If you are like most women and you are a great communicator and like to talk and share... then it makes sense that you should have an amazing level of communication going on in your relationships... right?

And you probably do... with mostly THE WOMEN in your life... hint... hint... think about it... has the penny dropped yet?

I mean... does not great communication mean that you are able to create the SITUATION or the environment where both parties can talk... listen... understand each other and share?

That is what being a great communicator is all about... being the one to "facilitate" understanding and sharing... and LISTENING!

So why is it that so many women who are great communicators seem to be the ones who have UNSATISFYING and FRUSTRATING relationships that have little or no TWO WAY COMMUNICATION with the man in their lives?

Following me here?

Something is off.

Here is what I know with working over the years with women and helping them create deep "Intimate relationships" with men... women who do not understand how to genuinely connect with and understand men are always chalking up the poor level of communication to THE MAN in their life... they see it all as a function of how he has STOPPED TALKING AND SHARING with them... now... this is at least partly true... as it is a two way street... and a man is equally responsible for keeping a relationship going strong.

And here is WHAT REALLY MATTERS... what does this situation where a man shuts off mean if you really are a great communicator?

It means that you have an opportunity to use your knowledge and SKILLS to quickly "facilitate" a new kind of conversation that will "re engage" a man and immediately open the doors of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING back up between you both.

It Only Takes One To Create Positive Change

The truth is... IT IS POSSIBLE to create near INSTANT CHANGE if you know how to communicate and connect with someone in the right way... and when you start to learn how all this works... and how to quickly and easily connect with anyone on a deep level at any time... something magical starts to happen for you.

You start to harness the power of creating a strong connection between you and a man in each critical moment in your relationship... and what is even better... you start to enjoy the benefits of how a deep level of connection can immediately transform everything about how you are with each other... in other words... that strong and powerful connection that you build actually safeguards you when the bad times and the tough times come and go.

And it is AMAZING when you can experience this and feel the joy... the fulfillment... and the SECURITY and CERTAINTY that it brings.

Now... since we have touched on all this about the skill of creating a deep level of connection through communication... I would like to ask you...

Do you have this CRITICAL SKILL right now?

Can you create the change and the growth you want in your relationship from your own ability to communicate and connect with HIM?

Or are you waiting for him to figure out how to reconnect with you... so he will pull you and your relationship out of the funk that it has fallen into?

Do you feel STUCK as you are constantly trying to reconnect... and the more you seem to try and talk... the more he seems to pull away... the more he feels you are "nagging" him?

If you do not have this skill we have been talking about... then I think you are starting to see that you will constantly be at the mercy of whether or not a man chooses to feel like opening up to you or not... and as you might already know... it is in a mans nature to want to "shut off" a lot of times... even when things matter most in your relationship and you need to talk... in fact... a man can go for days... weeks... months... even years without feeling the need or desire to really open up and share what is going on inside.

So... knowing all this now... I would like to ask you something important.

What are you going to do about figuring out how to easily connect and stay connected to the man you love going forward in the future?

Is your strategy for trying to reconnect or communicate with him in the future when he is NOT communicating with you going to be... fighting against his lack of connection and emotional distance by telling him he is wrong and that he is ruining your relationship?

BAD MOVE... he will just withdraw all the more or end up fighting with you...  or do you "wait it out" are thinking that he will pull himself out of it for the sake of your relationship?

How do you think either of these are going to work out for you?

And here ladies let me give you a Gold Nugget of advice from a Man!

Try this kind of "behaviour" on to often with a man... especially a Man with "high personal worth and esteem"... and you will be gone... such Men do not need "moody women" who try to manipulate them in their life.

Well... maybe you might already know that they are NOT going to work for you from personal experience... that is why I would strongly NOT recommend these approaches in a relationship with a man... even though they happen to be two of the most common "strategies" women take when they want to improve their relationship and the level of communication that is happening... and that is why you end up in a fight with your man... or he withdraws and disappears. 

Do not keep feeling scared... anxious... and UNCERTAIN about whether or not a man is going to close off in the future and stay that way until you are left with an empty shell of a relationship... it is time you started creating your own life and relationship that is not determined by whether or not a man feels like closing off or not... and that is where I can help.

Your First Step In A New Direction

The first step I want you to take might sound a bit extreme at first.... and you might even resist it out of frustration... yet your first and most important step is going to be the step that changes everything and frees you up to regain your "centre" inside you... and your own power as a woman... the first step I want you to take is to finally take complete and TOTAL PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for creating the kind of communication you would like to have in your life... and with a man in your relationship.

In other words... I want you to forget about blaming... criticizing... and living in the past... and I want you to start communicating in the way you know that someone who is both loving and trusting would communicate... that is how I want you to begin talking and connecting with the man in your life... you have the power to create what you want and create CHANGE in the people around you... when you suddenly show up and do this... it will send a clear... subtle... and irrefutable message to the man in your life... he will sense something has changed immediately.

And suddenly all the frustration and blame you have been feeling that still has not CHANGED THINGS will fall away and simply disappear... and a man will instantly notice and wonder what has changed inside you... he will be drawn to you again... he will be curious... he will be wanting to know what is going on.

Your Second Step... "The Shift"

The next step is to make sure that you know what to do with this new "space" and environment for connection you have created between you and a man... this is where it becomes absolutely critical that you have your act together when it comes to being able to COMMUNICATE in a way that builds connection and understanding.

There is something important you need to understand... your relationship and the communication you and a man share in a relationship are often a series of patterns... he acts distant... you feel unheard or unappreciated... he withdraws more... you try and talk him out of it or get him to open up... he resists and pulls away. 

YOUR pattern might be somewhat different... and the truth is that you have patterns of your own with a man... in psychological terms they are called "sub conscious drivers"... when you take the first step and become responsible for creating the kind of connection and communication you want... you actually get to BREAK your pattern.

I call this "the shift" because you can actually FEEL that something is different inside in the way you and your man are around each other... the difference is often a tiny "shift" or a word here or there... and these can make ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

Here is something I want you to think about...

Your relationship is NOT set in stone... in fact... it is actually made up of a huge collection of tiny moments... of feelings... of connections... which means... you have the power to dramatically change the quality of your relationship and what you experience in it by finally CHOOSING and learning how to CREATE the moments you want to share.

And you have got to learn how to get started... once you know how it works... it  is easy... if you really want to create a successful relationship... is it not time you took control of your RELATIONSHIPS rather then the other way around?

Now is your opportunity to change your life and the kind of communication and connection you share with a man... now what is that worth to you?

It is probably pretty priceless.

So do not keep yourself from the love... happiness and security you could have when it is right in front of you... the sooner you learn what it takes to communicate with a man and get the RESPONSE that you want him being open... supportive... loving... understanding... then the sooner you will be able to start enjoying a relationship you can have real CONFIDENCE and SECURITY in... after all would it not be better to be telling your girlfriends about how wonderful your man is... instead of brooding over why he is not... and how it is holding you back in love?

So Do You Desire Your Man To Be More Romantic 
And Communicate More With You?

What you probably do not realize is that all men are romantic... what they lack is guidance... coaching and proper feedback... once you have the skills... it is so simple to get men to show their romantic nature... however a woman can easily suck the romantic life out of any man without even knowing what is going on... I see it happen ALL THE TIME... if your man is not as romantic or  communicative as you would like him to be... there is most likely something that you are doing or not doing that can be changed.

A woman can VERY EASILY bring out the inner romantic in her man with the right techniques

And if you would like to know more about "how to" really communicate with a man and have him respond to you in an "intimate and loving" way.

Please do Contact me.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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