The Dark Side of Women And Some of their "Secrets!" 

By Ange Fonce

This article might get me in some DEEP trouble... yet I tell it as it is!

In fact... the last time I exposed something like this... I received a LOT of unpleasant mail and comments from women who did not like that I was telling tales "out of school." 

And the funny thing is that there were just as many women who wrote in and "thanked me" for being REAL!

Because it is something they WANT men to "know" about... and to "help" those men who really do want to "learn"... and to stop making BIG mistakes because of their "misinformation" about women.

I am going to "expose" some "deep secrets" of women here that I want you to "know" about. 

This is not theory or idle speculation.

It is the real "knowledge" from my many years of "experience" as a "counselling psychologist" and "personal development consultant."

Way back in 2001... when I first started giving "courting" and "relationship" advice for men and women... I made it my "priority" to give men the Truth about women and "courting... sex" and "relationships." 

Even if it meant that I was being "politically incorrect." 

After all... it is that "political correctness" that stops many men and women from getting the REAL information out there about this topic... mostly because the "reality" of "how" our "emotions work" and "how attraction" is "created" is not something we like to "think" is out of our "rational" control.

Well... you want to "learn" some juicy stuff about women... don't you?

Let us get into it...


SECRET 1... Women LOVE SEX...

Yes... I "know" you probably "think" that women are not all that into doing the "sex" thing with you... and that is a "false assumption."

You see... we men have been "taught" to "think" that because we put it out there and "pursue it"... and women only seem to "protect it" and we are the ones that are supposed to "enjoy" it more.

Not so.

If you have ever watched a woman in the "throes of ecstasy"... you will "notice" that she "experiences" everything "stronger... longer... deeper" and well... MORE! 

Sex ROCKS for women... honestly... I am jealous of what women get to "experience" from "sex." 

Sorry to say this... when a woman gets that "sexual energy" of hers "fired" up... she really gets rolling.

Women have a lot more of their "anatomy" dedicated to "sex"... and not to mention that their "pleasure" is "felt" mostly through their "brain circuits" that is "wired" for just "sexual activity." 

Us men men only have a small tremor... 6 or 7 compared to their 8... 10 earthquake on the Richter scale.

The "key" here is to "realize" that even though she wants "it" at least as much as you do... she is also "hard wired" to not just give it away... one mistake on her part and she has herself a 9 month room mate in her body... a baby... that is going take a major "investment" of her life for at least 18 years or more... of her "resources" to raise into adulthood and possibly even more... so women have "evolved" to be more "discerning" in their "choice" of men.

They simply have a better "conscious control" over their "sexual coupling" than men do... and we mistake that to mean that they are "frigid" or "uninterested" in "physical sexual pleasure."

SECRET 2... Women Are NOT Angels... 

And they are suffocating under the weight of this "social expectation."

The "common view" in society is that girls are "sugar and spice" and everything nice... while boys are "snips and snails and puppy dog tails."

Get the "feeling" us men got the short end of the stick on this one?

The "social reality" has always been that women "protect" their "image" and their "sexuality" as a means to keep their "power over men." 

What is going on behind the scenes is something "quite different." 

Women can be just as "ruthless... mean... dishonest" and "vindictive" as men... I am not going to get "political" on you here... yet you do need to "know" that this "image of women" as pure and clean as the driven snow is something that many women tire of and long for escape from. 

When Halloween comes or fancy dress party...  take a "real look" at the "choices" that women have in costumes... they are either really "erotic" or really proper... and which costumes do you see women "enjoying" wearing the most?

That is right...The Naughty Girls

The more you can show a woman that you are "aware" of this "double standard"... that you "know" better and you can "liberate" her from it... the "happier" she will be.

SECRET 3... Women Cheat... A LOT.

This is one that most women are going to be writing in and screaming at me about... yet the "reality" is that even though you hear about men being the "dogs" and that we will just jump in bed with a hot woman at the first "opportunity"... the "reality" is that women have all that "opportunity" available to them all the time... they do not have to work at it... if a woman wants to get a little piece of "hard stuff" for herself... it is not that hard for her. 

And even though women have the "social stigma" of being viewed as a "slut"... they "know" that they are "sexual creatures" and they have their "needs" just like men do.

And if that man she is with is not "doing it" for her... she WILL go "look" and get her "satisfaction" somewhere.

You will hear a lot of "rationalization" about why she did it... and she might even "think" that some of the stuff she tells herself is "true"... and she is just as "vulnerable" to "her desires" as we men are... so drop the "double standard."

The "fact" is that women are just much better at "keeping secrets" than men are. 

After all... it can be a good ego boost to brag about with the guys... yet women want to maintain that "angelic image." 

Now... I am not coming down on women here... women are Human just like men and in the grand scheme of things... I do not "think" that men are any more or less than women are. 

It is "important" that you do not get a bunch of smoke blown up your arse... about what the TRUTH is on this.

SECRET 4... Women Want You To Approach Them And TALK With Them...

This one is the one that kicks my butt every time... you see... most men do not "trust" this... and a lot of men do not WANT to "trust" this. 

First of all... as matter of coarse I always conduct surveys of both men and women for my business... as well as speaking directly to women in just about every situation imaginable... and there is a "big misunderstanding" here about what women want.

This is what many men "assume"... 

"If I see an attractive woman when I am out during the day and I want to meet her... yet I am pretty sure she is busy... and I will just be a bother to her... she is obviously doing stuff and in a hurry... I do not want to annoy her." 

The "problem" here comes when you make the "assumption" without VALIDATING it. 

You never "check in" to see if it is REAL!

Most men will not "approach" and "talk" with a woman because of this way of "thinking" which "really" is a way to avoid being "rejected."

And the one man that DOES approach her goes in with these "thoughts" in his head...  his "approach" is going to be "weak" and "half hearted"... he does not carry himself with any "confidence." 

Ask yourself... 

Do you "think" that all women are bothered when men approach and talk to them?

Before you do anything else... I want you to "read this"... 

What Women Think...

I asked a very attractive Asian woman  that I know... who is a really nice woman by the way... what was her "experience" with men "approaching" her was... I asked her... 

"How frequently do men approach you?"

She replied... 

"This week I would say 0 guys approached me... they showed interest but were not able to turn it into a conversation with me..."

I next asked her... 

"How many men you felt wanted to approach you and did not?

She said... 

"Percentage wise.... I'd say 95%."

WOW... interesting or what?

Now... I "know" that a lot of men will hear that and say... 

"Well that is just ONE woman... most women do not feel that way."

Nope... sorry... going to have to disagree with you on this... this is particularly "true" for every woman I have ever talked to.

Here are the "figures" from surveys I run...

41% of the women I asked said that they are only annoyed at guys when they are boorish and crude.

36% said they are almost always flattered by the approach.

22% said they were excited and happy to meet someone new.

And... get this... 0%... yes ZERO percent said that they are annoyed all the time when men "approach" them.

I have also asked...

"If you do go to bars... would you go to a bar to meet men or something else?"

35% said they went to have fun... and there was a possibility to meet someone.

65% said they do not really go to bars to meet men... they go to socialize and chill.

And... get this... 0%... yes BIG ZERO again... said they go to bars to meet men.

I personally think that every woman goes to bars with that "thought" in the back of her "mind" that she will "possible" meet someone... yet it is not the "primary reason" she goes. 

Women would "like" men to "approach" them... and especially during the day... because most women do not go to bars to "pick up" men. 

In fact... here are some of the things women have told me when I asked them... 

"What would you say to men who are out there and see a woman they want to talk to?"

Some of their replies...

"Just do it... be a man and take the risk..."

"Suck it up and go for it!"

"Just be yourself... do not worry about the perfect pick up line."

"Do it the worst thing that can happen is she said no... and what if she is interested..."

"PLEASE approach me because most of the time I am assuming that if you do not initiate a conversation... you are not available..."

"Go for it... there's nothing to lose..."

That is a pretty big kick in the butt to "get going" and "do it"... is it not?

And I have to admit... there is not a lot of "helpful advice" in their words. 

"Just do it."

Is a great slogan for trainers... and if you could just "do it"... you would be "doing it"... wouldn't you?

And the worst part about it?

You "know" that YOU are doing this to yourself.

That "sick to your stomach" sensation of "fear" and "nervous excitement" that hits you when you see a woman you want to go talk to... and you just cannot... and you REALLY want to... and you still cannot... and you "really" want to get to "meet her" and you "know" you HAVE to... and you STILL cannot do it. 

It is like an "invisible force" is holding your arms and legs and every time you start to move towards her... you "freeze up" and go into an extreme state of "paralysis" like your "body" and "mind" have been taken over by some "alien power."

And when you finally do get some "control" back in you... you "approach" her sweating like a dead man who "knows" he is going to his own "execution" and will crash and burn... and unfortunately... you do... BIG TIME!

It TOTALLY sucks... I KNOW I have personally been there and "experienced" all those "feelings" with the BIG crash and burn myself.

And yet when you consider it all and get REAL... the "reality" is... she is just a woman... no matter "how" physically "attractive" she is... she is a Human Being... just like you.

So it is "time" to get rid of this "sensation" once and for all.

Learn to "manage" your "approach excitement"... and learn the "specific things" to say and DO to "approach" women whenever and wherever you can.

Remember one of My Rules of Attraction... 

A woman is not into you until she takes ACTION on her "desire" to be WITH YOU!

And for the Ladies reading this article... that same rule APPLIES to most men too.

As always... leave a man or woman all the "better" for "knowing" you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... Multipreneur and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant and Sexologist... who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their "own life" and "wealth!"

Join today and become one of the Tribe... a DYNAMIC Lifer... and if you want to "share" or "forward to a friend" a writing... please go ahead... and let them know they can receive their own writings via e mail by directly joining The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers The DYNAMIC Express Magazine... I am sure they will "appreciate your consideration" of them.

Dynamic Life Development Systems 

Personal Development Academy