The Art Of Reframing To Be Persuasive 

By Ange Fonce

Okay... I have shared with you before about the art of storytelling in a previous article... and in this article I want to share with you an even more powerful method then storytelling to influence others.

So rather than keep you in suspense let me spill the beans here and then explain what I mean. 

The skill that I was referring to was… "reframing." 

What is "reframing" you might be asking? 

It is the ability to see a situation from many different viewpoints and perspectives. 

And the neat thing about being able to do this is that you can pick the viewpoint that you like the most and go with that. 

An example is in order... and note now that I am now using the art of storytelling... to explain the art of "reframing." 

My friends son recently tried out for the senior school football team... previously he had played for the YMCA and that was the only experience that he had playing football on a team. 

Over 30 plus young people had turned up to trial for the team... many of whom had played for the more junior teams in the previous years. 

He was nervous. 

He knew that he would make a team... there was 3 football squads being formed... so there was an opportunity for everyone to get into a squad... and he really wanted to play for the top “A” team. 

He would be fine with the "B" team too... and I thought he was too overly focused on the "A" team... and he would be up against some really good football players... which to be honest possessed more skill and ability then he did. 

So I began to ask him some questions about what it would be like to be on the "A" team. 

And he began to think about it... 

Practices 3 nights per week. 

Playing games on both Saturdays and Sundays. 

Having games where he did not play at all... and having to sit out the game us sub. 

Traveling over the holidays to play in tournaments. 

Giving up his other interests on the weekends... which included a favorite martial arts class he was getting good at. 

After thinking this over for a while... he said that the "B" team would actually be a better fit for him... as it had a less intense training and playing schedule... and he did in fact get selected for the "B" team. 

The point I am making here is that when we are overly focused on a challenge... it is hard to see what other options are also available to us at the same time. 

Especially when we have our noses right up against it. 

This is the beauty of being able to "reframe" situations. 

You will have a better overall perspective about the situation and the options open to you... so you can make better choices that benefit you more... instead of tunnel visioning on the one option. 

I could have given my friends son a lecture or listed the pros and cons myself... and it would not have had one tenth of the same impact as him answering the questions for himself. 

That is also part of the beauty of "reframing"... you just have to know how to ask the right questions... and then listen to the answer. 

Reframing can used in business settings... with loved ones... even with people that you are meeting for the first time. 

And it all starts with asking good questions. 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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