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"If Only" Is "Wishing" In Disguise And Keeps You “Blind” To “What Is!” By Ange Fonce

"If Only" Is "Wishing" In Disguise And Keeps You “Blind” To “What Is!” 

By Ange Fonce

You spend the whole day making sure everyone is happy... yet who is taking care of YOU? 

Before anyone can love and care for you... you must first learn to "love"... VALUE and CARE for yourself. 

I consider "IF ONLY" to be two very dangerous words... they are dangerous because they actually distract you from the real cause of your unhappiness... and creates a “false world” of “wishful thinking.”

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Using Neuroscience To Relax And Make You More Creative And Productive By Ange Fonce

Using Neuroscience To Relax And Make You More Creative And Productive 

By Ange Fonce

Neuroscientific research on the brain has gathered evidence that working fewer hours does not only make you healthier... it helps makes you more"smarter"... and more "productive" too.

  

Have you heard the sayings... 

"All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy." 

"All work and no play makes for a dull day."

In the first saying... many people interpret this as a comment on Jacks personality... that he is "dull" beca...

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Do It Daily Remind Yourself Of Your Why? By Ange Fonce

Do It Daily Remind Yourself Of Your Why? 

By Ange Fonce

There is a fundamental difference between the things you do every day... every single day... and the things you do only when you "feel" like it.

One difference is that once you have committed to doing something daily... and you KNOW your WHY... you find that it is your "motivation" that moves you ever day.

Rather than having a daily debate about... "what do I do next?"

Once you decide you will do something... and you KNOW why you are doing it...

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The Inner Power For Outward Attraction To Women... Masculine Confidence! By Ange Fonce

The Inner Power For Outward Attraction To Women...

Masculine Confidence!

By Ange Fonce

I am often asked questions about relationships from both men  and women who are  readers of my on line magazines... and sometimes using a question from a reader is one of the best ways to "illustrate" the "inner and outer mindset”... of a Masculine Man... because in answering the question I am asked... I can give you the reader of this article... some context for this Mindset of Masculine Confidence.

Every m...

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Give Yourself A Promotion By Being MORE Productive With Your TIME! By Ange Fonce

Give Yourself A Promotion By Being MORE Productive With Your TIME!

By Ange Fonce

Productivity that "benefits" you... is a measure of "focused" output over a period of your TIME... focusing on the "goals"... or "projects" that reward your "time investment" with "benefits." 

All other things being equal... the more you produce per minute... the more productive you are. 

And... as any "successful" man and woman understands... that wealth... be it individually or for a business or a community... is b...

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What Ever Happened To Our Sweetest Songs? By Ange Fonce

What Ever Happened To Our Sweetest Songs? 

By Ange Fonce

The word “crisis” has become a “constant”... spattering the daily headlines... its once intense “urgency” has become devalued  by being continually used to describe “transient” difficulties in our everyday lives.

Yet... there is a “crisis”... a REAL crises... a crushing crisis of “confidence” in the future... an ever increasing “conviction” by countless people throughout the world... at the very heart of human a...

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Do You Know What "Meet Ups" Mean To A Man When You Are "Courting" Him?

Do You Know What "Meet Ups" Mean To A Man When You Are "Courting" Him? 

By Ange Fonce

Do you ever feel frustrated that men do not know what they want when it comes to love and relationships?

Have you felt this way even after you and a man were already physical... affectionate... and having what seemed like an amazing time together?

What is going on here? 

Are men really this clueless and frustrating?

When His Actions And Words Do Not Go Together...

You have probably figured out for yourself that a m...

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9 Power Affirmations for Happiness and Success By Ange Fonce

9 Power Affirmations for Happiness and Success 

By Ange Fonce

These simple "power affirmations"... will help keep you aligned with your goals and constantly moving forward.

  

If you truly want to be successful and happy... make use of these "powerful affirmations" for yourself... today and every day:

1... I Will Be Personally Self Aware And Not Selfishly Self Centred.

Only loser boys and loser girls are constantly selfish and self centred... they view the world through a lens of "what's in it for ...

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Those Who Look Hungry Never Get Fed By Ange Fonce

Those Who Look Hungry Never Get Fed 

By Ange Fonce

So I have been out for a walk along the seafront of where I live... and walked back through the City towards home.

One of my favorite spots in in the City is a street called Castle Road...  there are about eight cafe bars placed along the Street... where you can have a meal and a few glasses of wine or beer and enjoy the vibe there.

There is one thing I have noticed as I walk along the Street... the first cafe bar I walk past is ALWAYS nearly emp...

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Why You Attract Who You Attract? By Ange Fonce

Why You Attract Who You Attract And Fail?

By Ange Fonce

If you find you cannot hold a relationship together... maybe it is time for a serious look at yourself?

Mary tells me in a coaching session... 

"Steve is always criticizing me... how do I get him to stop?"

Fiona tells me in a Skype coaching session... 

"Jeff is often withdrawn... I feel so angry about this."

It is always easy to see what your partner is doing that you do not like... and it is generally very challenging to see your end of a dysf...

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How Much Of A "Jerk" Are You? 7 Red Flag Behaviours Of Jerkitude." By Ange Fonce

How Much Of A "Jerk" Are You? 7 Red Flag Behaviours Of Jerkitude."

By Ange Fonce

How do you "rate" in the world of "jerkitude?"

"They deserved it"...

Is usually the pained explanation you hear for behavior that strikes you as negative... unproductive negative...inhumane or counter productive. 

The "jerk"... is always happy to point a finger at the person they hurt... to cast blame on them for their own inexcusable behaviours and actions.

Jerkitude... is a habit... usually a learned one... it is ti...

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Fumbling And Stumbling Your Way To Greatness By Ange Fonce

Fumbling And Stumbling Your Way To Greatness

By Ange Fonce

One reason people who spend a lot of time thinking about and working on a problem or a project seem to find breakthroughs more often than everyone else is that they have failed more often than everyone else.

And through their "failures"... if they are "smart"... learn how to find "solutions" to solve their problems and deal with their failures.

So... what will you do next?

What can you learn tomorrow?

Where will you live... who will you con...

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5 "Insider Social Courting" Tips To Look FABULOUS On A First Meet Up With A Man By Ange Fonce

5 "Insider Social Courting" Tips To Look FABULOUS
On A First Meet Up With A Man

By Ange Fonce

Every woman who has pride in herself wants to look her best when “meeting up” with a man in a “social courting” setting...  so I am sharing with you five ways to make sure you look your absolute best when you “meet up” with your man... all of which are INSIDER tips which will help you look that “extra special”... and I know work.

1... Sleep...

I know you work too hard and possibly play ha...

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The Power of Authenticity‏ Leads To The Power Of Dynamic Confidence By Ange Fonce

The Power of Authenticity‏ Leads To The Power Of Dynamic Confidence 

By Ange Fonce 

How "powerful" are you? 

Do you ever cover up how you genuinely feel? 

Do you ever say what you think you "should"...  based on how you want others to perceive you? 

Do you ever think you "should" be a certain way? 

May I ask you a “personal” question... how come?

I will share with you “how come”... in a period of my life... I "thought" I "should" be a certain way... say certain things... act in the manner ...

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4 Tactics To Develop A Powerful Positive Attitude By Ange Fonce

4 Tactics To Develop A Powerful Positive Attitude 

By Ange Fonce

Developing a "positive attitude" to life is a real “bonus" for your "mental and physical" health..

In the world we live in today... possessing a “positive attitude" is becoming a “must” if you want any degree of well being and “success” in life.

It is so easy to notice the “negative” things in life and ignore the “positive” things... it never ceases to amaze me that people can have a great time... lots of “posi...

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Do You Know How To Create Emotional Attraction In A Woman? By Ange Fonce

Do You Know How To Create Emotional Attraction In A Woman?

By Ange Fonce

Often I questioned about “emotional attraction”... and usually the questions follow the theme similar to this...

"There is this woman I am talking to... and I really want her to be my girlfriend... what can I say to her?"

And here is my answer...

Nothing you can "say" will make her feel "attraction" and fall in love with you.

In fact... you will usually "blow it" if you attempt to let a woman know how you feel... especiall...

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The Best Kind Of Personal Life Insurance By Ange Fonce

The Best Kind Of Personal Life Insurance 

By Ange Fonce

There is almost absolute security in being certain in your "trust" of YOURSELF.

When you KNOW that you will overcome challenges... solve problems and you will "acquire" your goals... you KNOW that you will be fine. 

How do you KNOW?

You know when you confidently overcome these challenges and problems and "succeed" in them every single day. 

You do not know by believing.

You KNOW by the proof and the "learning experience" of your "understanding"...

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Risk Is Risk... Uncertainty Is Unanswered Options By Ange Fonce

Risk Is Risk... Uncertainty Is Unanswered Options

By Ange Fonce

Most often... the important work you do does not bring a guaranteed and specific result... usually the result of any given action on your part is unknown... until you get a yes or no... or a successful result and conclusion.

Uncertainty... of a project often implies a range of possible outcomes.

Yet a range of results... all being uncertain... does not imply or mean you are exposing yourself to risk... it means you are exposing yours...

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The Buddha Of The Self By Ange Fonce

The Buddha Of The Self

By Ange Fonce

Life will lead him and her who will... him and her who will not... life will drag along. 

Indulgence is a legitimate life goal... and it is only one of four life goals... no life is completely lived unless each of these goals is achieved. 

These gaols are... 

Dharma... the goal of fulfilling the duties assigned to us by our positions in society. 

Artha... the goal of accumulating possessions in the course of fulfilling our duties. 

Kama... the goal of satisfying ...

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Do YOU Connect? 3 Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills By Ange Fonce

Do YOU Connect? 3 Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills 

By Ange Fonce

It is a common paradox among men and women who want to connect... and we want more friends and we are aching for connection and intimacy... and yet... we find ourselves lonely and even worse... scared to connect.

So if connecting with other human beings is something you feel you would like to achieve more... here are some useful tips you can learn and put into action...

1... Be more focused on being present with the person...

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Are You Unprepared? By Ange Fonce

Are You Unprepared? 

By Ange Fonce

Think to your self... is there anything worse that we can say about you and your work? 

That you are.. “unprepared."

And  the word "unprepared"... can mean two things... not just one... there is the unprepared of the exam at school... of forgetting your lines... of showing up to a gunfight with a knife… this is the unprepared of the industrial world... the unprepared of being an industrial cog in an industrial system... a cog that is out of whack... disconne...

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5 Signs That Passion And Intimacy Is Fading In Your Relationship By Ange Fonce

5 Signs That Passion And Intimacy Is Fading In Your Relationship 

By Ange Fonce

Are you aware that these five critical areas of your relationship are blocked?

Here are 5 tell tale signs that your relationship is breaking down...

 

Communication... You have stopped listening... really listening... to each other

One of you gets impatient and often interrupts when the other is trying to say something... you are frustrated when eyes seem to glaze over when you want to talk about something important to ...

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Go For Your Small WIN First By Ange Fonce

Go For Your Small WIN First 

By Ange Fonce

Most people fail at what they try... not because of any lack of skill... because they do not have the inner resources and "know how" to reach and acquire  their goals.

If you are like most people you live life circumstantially as if you are victim of conditions you perceive to be imposed on you... working a steady job... sacrificing and saving... hoping and praying that the economy will cooperate... fuel prices will drop... your portfolio will expand......

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Sure 99% Has Been Done Before By Ange Fonce

Sure 99% Has Been Done Before 

By Ange Fonce

Do you fear that you are doing something that has already been done before... that everything that can be done has been done?

Just about every successful initiative and project starts from a place of replication... it is usual “improving on”... or doing it better...  the opportunities of being fundamentally out of the box over the top original are close to being zero... not unless you work in a very highly specialised  niche will something “new�...

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Encounters In The Wilds Of The World By Ange Fonce

Encounters In The Wilds Of The World 

By Ange Fonce

The cabin was cold... the night was clear and the floor was hard.

Yet... what bothered my sleep most was the air was too thin... each time I started to fall asleep... I woke up gasping for oxygen. 

In the daytime... I had no problem... yet my night time breathing rhythm... at 9,000 feet... was not quite enough for 10,000 feet. 

I slept little... yet I felt warm and cosy in my sleeping bag and grateful for the comfort. 

There were two rooms in the ...

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What Is Next For You? By Ange Fonce

What Is Next For You? 

By Ange Fonce

Non conscious actions taken in conscious moments... difficult decisions that are easier to avoid... spur of the moment responses and emotional reactions... and most of all... the choices you make when it does not even seem like you have a choice at all.

All of these... taken together... define who you are and the impact you make.

"I had no choice." 

Actually means... 

"I reacted and took the option that was easy and simple to take in the moment... and never thou...

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The Stories We Tell And Fool Ourselves With By Ange Fonce

The Stories We Tell And Fool Ourselves With 

By Ange Fonce

Here is one I often hear... 

"I am too old to make a difference... start something new... take a leap... change the game." 

I heard this hear this from men and women in their late 20 plus... what are they going on about?! 

This is a seductive story... to make excuses for yourself... because it lets you off the hook. 

Obviously... the thinking goes... the deck... from which life dealt you a hand... whichever cards you want to pick... is stac...

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Is Emotional Burnout Living For Others Killing Your Love Life? By Ange Fonce

Is Emotional Burnout And Living For Others Killing Your Love Life? 

By Ange Fonce

Have you been feeling overwhelmed and burned out from all the responsibilities and tasks you do day in and day out... so that you barely have any time or energy to put into taking care of “yourself” or figuring out what it is “you” need in order to feel fulfilled and happy... whether in your relationship... your career... or just in “life?”

It is very easy to let weeks... months and even “years” go ...

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Focused Optimists Become More Successful In Life Then Pessimists By Ange Fonce

Focused Optimists Become More Successful In Life Then Pessimists 

By Ange Fonce 

How your "thinking" and "personal attitude" in processing failure... determines whether you will "succeed" or not in the future.

It has long been known to psychologists and now neuroscience is providing the evidence... that stressful situations trigger the primal drive of  “fight...flight” response within our brain... this is useful in life threatening situations were your instinct is to survive... not so useful...

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Your Goals Do You Have A Strategy And Tactics For Change? By Ange Fonce

Your Goals Do You Have A Strategy And Tactics For Change? 

By Ange Fonce

Your Goal... 

What are you wanting to change... what observable actions will let you know you have succeeded?

The Strategy... 

What are the emotions you can amplify... the connections you can make that will cause you to do something that you hesitated to do in the past to change? 

The strategy is not the focus... it is the lever that helps you cause the change you seek.

The Tactics... 

What are the actions you take that cause th...

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5 Tips To Overcoming Shyness When Social Courting By Ange Fonce

5 Tips To Overcoming Shyness When Social Courting 

By Ange Fonce

Caroline found the wedding invitation skulking on her doormat like some malignant portent of doom... crippling shyness meant that what she should enjoy... the opportunity to mingle with friends and meet new people... felt like an ordeal devised by an overly sadistic Spanish Inquisitor.

"I've always been shy... I hate the feeling of people's attention suddenly turning on me!"

Despairingly... she told me she had reached a point in her...

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Train Your Brian For Dynamic Performance By Ange Fonce

Train Your Brian For Dynamic Performance 

By Ange Fonce

I would like to share with you a technique based in neuroscience to help you quickly move from being “out of the zone” to being 'in the zone.'

There are always moments when you absolutely must be at your best... yet what would happen just when that moment comes... you are feeling at your worst?

Affirmations... positive thinking and exercise... can change your attitude and mental state... and when you are put "on the spot" you may not hav...

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The Problem With Problems Is The Limitations By Ange Fonce

The Problem With Problems Is The Limitations 

By Ange Fonce

We all face limitations in one form or other... we all face challenges of some kind... there is always some limited access to resources... to people or organizations... and often other people are working against you. 

You do not "feel" like it... that person is a jerk... the systems are down... the money is not in the bank.

We often see the "problems" first and they grab all our attention... our "immediate emotional" attention.

Yet... hav...

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Are You A Label Whore? By Ange Fonce

Are You A Label Whore? 

By Ange Fonce

I have a confession to make...  I was once a terrible label whore... probably not the definition or the type that comes to mind. 

The colloquial version of a label whore... is someone that will not purchase a product that does not have a prestigious brand attached to it...  you will know someone that fits this description... if not yourself... yet that is not the type of label I am referring to. 

I am referring to another label... a much more powerful one tha...

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The Man Of Your Dreams Wants To Be Your Hero By Ange Fonce

The Man Of Your Dreams Wants To Be Your Hero 

By Ange Fonce 

And you are not going to get him unless you do this... first though let me share with this...

What is it like being a Man today...

Many men feel so beat over the head these days... surpassed by women in so many areas... struggling with cultural issues... struggling with their own sense of personal power... struggling with the dynamics of relationship and the relationships they had with their mothers.

And so many men you see all over TV.....

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Why Dynamic Lifers Ensure They Do What They Love By Ange Fonce

Why Dynamic Lifers Ensure They Do What They Love 

By Ange Fonce

Do you consider “loving what you do” as a luxury?

When you get up in the morning... are you “excited” to start? 

Do you dive into your day's tasks and “projects” with enthusiasm? 

Or are you counting the minutes passing your time away?

If you do not possess “passion” and “love” what you do... no matter how much “success” you have... and you are only doing it for the money... maybe you should consider doing somet...

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The Self Fulfilling Belief Virus By Ange Fonce

The Self Fulfilling Belief Virus 

By Ange Fonce

Who do you think names things?

We ALL do.

And that is not a silly question to ask. 

It is about culture and society and crowds and the way you decide... along with the "tribe" you belong to... what is acceptable and what is not... and how "ideas" are spread... that will in time become a "belief" virus.

Take a look at colour names... which confirms that there is no algorithm of "reason"... there is no accepted pattern for colour names. 

They range from ...

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You are Right And They Are Wrong Whats Matters Is Who WINS! By Ange Fonce

You are Right And They Are Wrong... Whats Matters Is Who WINS! 

By Ange Fonce

Why is that MIGHT so often wins over what is RIGHT? 

How come the world is so unfair?

Maybe... it is because the other tribe took the time and invested the effort and took "action" to build a movement. 

They showed up every time... again and again. 

They become "organised"... disciplined and FOCUSED... and they never contemplated the "thought" that they could lose... even though they might be wrong... not as "intelligent"...

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Social Courting The First Filter Of ATTRACTION By Ange Fonce

Social Courting The First Filter Of ATTRACTION 

By Ange Fonce

"Ah... did it hurt?"

"What?"

"When you fell from the pedestal... did you just cringe... freak out a little?... Me too."

Above is a "line" a man shared with me that he had learned to say to women.

The Law Of Averages states... that SOMETHING will work with SOMEONE... some were... some time... and when you say "strange" and offbeat stuff like that... on average... expect her to feel sorry for you.

That is probably not an optimal way for get...

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How To Become A Dynamic Confident Leader By Using Neuroscience Technology To Re Educate Your Brian By Ange Fonce

How To Become A Dynamic Confident Leader By Using Neuroscience Technology
To Re Educate Your Brian 

By Ange Fonce

What was once a fledgling Science has now become a very powerful Science in "understanding" the Brain.

Neuroscience research has shown that far from our neuro network being "fixed" in our brains... it is fluid and elastic... and our brains can be re educated to adopt "new" thinking patterns and behaviours... and I make extensive use of "neuro technology" in the Psycho Dynamic Couchin...

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Can You Change And Dump Your Invisible Crutches? By Ange Fonce

Can You Change And Dump Your Invisible Crutches?  

By Ange Fonce

There are things in your life that make you feel good about all the things going on around you. 

These things can come in a variety of forms. 

For some people its drugs or alcohol... for others it is sports or exercise. 

Some people get their fix from video games or their dvd collection... for some men and women it is random sex with other men and women... concerts... traveling... music... etc.

 

I am talking about those things that al...

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When Social Courting What You Say And What You DO NOT Say Can Make A Difference By Ange Fonce

When Social Courting What You Say And What You DO NOT Say
Can Make A Difference 

By Ange Fonce

For now... I want to help you with the "not say" part.

Because... sometimes... often in fact... saying NOTHING is the best thing to say.

Sometimes... just letting there be AIR between you and breathing... being quiet is the way to go.

Sometimes... you want him or her to FEEL you instead of HEAR you.

And most important... you want to be able to hear the most important voice of all... the ones inside your h...

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Empowering Steps For A Balanced Lifestyle! By Ange Fonce

Empowering Steps For A Balanced Lifestyle! 

By Ange Fonce

No matter what is happening around you in this rushing... fast paced world... you do not have to react impulsively... you can learn and understand to respond with control and focus... 

Giving into automatic negative reactions can become addictive and it is important to learn how to diffuse them. 

The steps offered here are simple and powerful... the more you practice them the stronger you become.

Tapping Into Your Fundamental Strength...

Whe...

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Redefining People Like You? By Ange Fonce

Redefining People Like You? 

By Ange Fonce

Redlining people is an efficient short term selection strategy... at least that is what you tell yourself. 

The challenge with redlining... beyond the fact that it is morally repugnant... is simply it does not work... there is a difference between "people like you" and "you." 

You... the human being... the person with a track record and a great attitude and a skillset deserve consideration for those things... for your psychological graphics and not your ...

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Money A Great Way To Screw Up Your life? A Homage To Poverty By Ange Fonce‏

Money A Great Way To Screw Up Your life? A Homage To Poverty 

By Ange Fonce‏

Part 7

“Money is just a way of keeping score in life”... says T Boone Pickens. 

People keep score in bits of metal and paper because it is easy to tot them up... too bad it is all nonsense... what really matters in life is not quantitative... it is qualitative... you cannot add it... you cannot subtract it... you cannot keep score with it. 

The numbers are meaningless.

Looking from the outside... you might as well be...

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You Should Speak Up Even When You Think You Shouldn't By Ange Fonce

You Should Speak Up Even When You Think You Shouldn't 

By Ange Fonce 

Are you one to sit back quietly? 

You may be hurting yourself and others.

The art of communication is not mastered by just knowing what to say and how to say it. 

A big factor is knowing when to say it... so often people sit back and say nothing when something really needs to be said...  It could be an idea, a suggestion... an observation... a criticism... and for some reason they do not want to speak up.

They may be afraid of hu...

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How to Deal More Effectively With Stress By Ange Fonce

How to Deal More Effectively With Stress 

By Ange Fonce 

Research from the field of Neuroscience... shows that "exercise" really does combat the ill effects of "stress" in your life

Most people have an "understanding" that "exercise" can "improve" your "well being"... and it is recently that scientists have understood how using exercise to combat stress works... this research is of enormous importance to men and women who constantly experience "stress" at work and in their everyday life.

Accordin...

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Are You Working Your Way To The Bottom By Ange Fonce

Are You Working Your Way To The Bottom 

By Ange Fonce

I do not usually use those words... "work your way to the bottom"... yet increasingly they are gaining a degree of truth.

Trading in your "standards" and selling out your "values" and dumping your "integrity"... in order to gain short term attention... and advantage for a "quick buck" is not as easy as it looks. 

Those who work their way to the bottom... do not get there by mistake... they have "worked" hard to get there. 

Such men and women wh...

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The Value Of Money A Homage To Poverty Part 6 By Ange Fonce

The Value Of Money A Homage To Poverty

By Ange Fonce

Part 6

Over the past weeks... I have been writing a series entitled “Homage to Poverty.”

My mission is not to encourage readers to give away their worldly goods and wander the globe... depending on the kindness and alms of strangers... I am sharing a “view” with you... built on experience... and putting being “rich” and being “wealthy” in perspective. 

I want readers to know what they were getting into... when you are pursuing be...

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Are You Discerning In Who You Court? By Ange Fonce

Are You Discerning In Who You Court?

 By Ange Fonce

Are you "discerning" in whom you court... or do you accept and make do with who comes along... and what you can get?

Be Discerning...

It is subtle... and it makes a world of difference.

Some call it being "self possessed"... I describes this as being confident with a touch of "holding back."

Try adding a dose of "holding back" to your courting and love life... along with confidence of course.

And "holding back" just a little can make an instant dif...

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Do You Waste Your Time With These Useless Mental Habits? By Ange Fonce

Do You Waste Your Time With These Useless Mental Habits? 

By Ange Fonce

Often it may seem to you as though you never have enough time... yet do you ever “think” about and even consider... “why?” 

That it is YOU indulging in "wasteful behaviours" that “burn” up your "time" for no "possible purpose." 

To be more "productive" with your "time" and "create" more done that "benefits" you... stop indulging in these completely futile "mental activities"... that “wastes” your time and ener...

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The Race To The Bottom The Struggle To The Top By Ange Fonce

The Race To The Bottom The Struggle To The Top 

By Ange Fonce

There will always be two paths chose from. 

There is the path to the bottom... based on giving as little value at all costs... that says... 

"I have what they have... yet cheaper." 

The problem with that path to the bottom is... that you will win.

The other path to the top is a far harder way and it is to provide GREAT VALUE for what people want... regardless of how far away they come from... because the VALUES you embody are worth seeki...

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Winners Are Often The Biggest Losers A Homage to Poverty By Ange Fonce

Winners Are Often The Biggest Losers A Homage to Poverty

By Ange Fonce

Part 5 

Here again I take up the subject that of a Homage to Poverty. 

Some readers have suggested that this series is tongue in cheek... or even hypocritical... yet  I am as serious as ever... poverty has its advantages... and one of them is that you do not have to live in a huge expensive house... and I want to make a broader... deeper argument... as a quote I read puts it...

“Money is just a way of keeping score in life.�...

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Social Courting "9 Ways To Approach A Woman" By Ange Fonce

Social Courting "9 Ways To Approach A Woman" 

By Ange Fonce

Here are 9 ways every man should know and be aware of when approaching a woman... when Social Courting.

1... Do not linger and stare.

Women are always aware of the "lurkers"... they can see you and feel you... the longer you stare the lower your chances are of having a successful approach. 

2... Do not be afraid of rejection. 

What is rejection really when approaching a woman? 

It is a woman who you have never met before and know nothing ab...

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The Dynamic Lifer Way To Boast The Start Of Your Productive Day By Ange Fonce

The Dynamic Lifer Way To Boast The Start Of Your Productive Day 

By Ange Fonce 

Many men and women have a lot of bad habits when it comes to their morning routines... which will then affect the rest of their day. 

It starts right from the moment you wake up... the first few minutes of your morning are the most important of your day and can set the tone for positivity and productivity for the rest of your day.

Getting you "mind and body" in the right "frame" really does matter. 

Ideally... it helps...

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The Simpilicity Of Truth By Ange Fonce

The Simplicity Of Truth 

By Ange Fonce

Truth is simple... direct and challenges the complexity that is fear.

You use long words when short ones will do. 

You wear fancy clothes to keep the riffraff out and to give you an image to hide behind. 

Most of all... the sneer of... 

"You just do not understand."

"You do not know the people I know..."

"It is complicated." 

You say... even when it is not.

It is a web you invent to wear as an image because your image provides safety... so you think.. in hiding th...

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So You Earned Another Million? A Homage to Poverty By Ange Fonce

So You Earned Another Million? A Homage to Poverty 

By Ange Fonce

Part 4

Now let us continue our journey on You Want To Be Rich with a warning... it may not be such a good idea. 

This is why I have been sharing with you about “poverty”... because...  

1... You will find it hard to get rich at all if you are afraid of poverty.

2... Poverty is not at all... bad?

3... You can be rich man... poor man... rich woman... poor woman and still have GREAT wealth of  life experience... or little... or  no w...

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The 7 Behaviours That Destroys Your Social Courting Opportunities With Women by Ange Fonce

The 7 Behaviours That Destroys Your Social Courting Opportunities With Women

By Ange Fonce

If you are constantly finding yourself being “blown out” or “flaked” on by women or  struggling to even attract a woman?

Then there is something important you need to understand... and you may not like what you are going to read next...

Here it is… read on...

It is not about women... it is about YOU!

You are not appearing as ATTRACTIVE to women due to your own BEHAVIOURS!

Your own behaviours are kill...

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How The Humble “Post It Note” Can Help You Create Success By Ange Fonce

How The Humble “Post It Note” Can Help You Create Success 

By Ange Fonce

Some months back I watched a video between 2 Masters of Influence and Persuasion...

Doctor Kevin Hogan and Roberto Monaco of Influenceology... and during their discussion the subject of “post it notes” come up and the research that had been carried out into the “effectiveness” of employing “post it notes”... in different ways... which I found very interesting.

It turns out there is a lot more to the humble �...

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The Law Of Principles Or The Law Of Control By Ange Fonce

The Law Of Principles Or The Law Of Control? 

By Ange Fonce

There can come a point when your project... your goal... the moment... the world becomes so chaotic or appears dangerous to you that you are willing to apply the law of control.

The question is... when?

When is it time to declare martial law... or your version of it?

When do you abandon your project plan because there are people in your life who are hysterical? 

When do you let go off the long term goal? 

When do let go of the drip by drip ...

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So You Want To Be Rich? Pay Homage To Poverty First By Ange Fonce

So You Want To Be Rich? 

Part 3...  Pay Homage To Poverty First

By Ange Fonce

Continuing on from last weeks article with our series on How to Get Rich.

In the last article... Being Rich Is Not The Same As Building A Quality Life Of Wealth

I pointed out that often a person gets rich and finds he or she is no longer doing what they like doing... as an example... I mentioned a chef who likes cooking... his restaurant is packed every night. 

So... he opens a chain of restaurants... now... he is really ...

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Do You Know This Secret About Men By Ange Fonce

Do You Know This Secret About Men

By Ange Fonce 

If you have ever felt furious with a man because he just does not "get" why he is making you unhappy... I can help.

Some men are actually, on purpose trying to hurt you!

Why? 

Because that is the only way they know to relate to a woman... or it is because most men are just clueless about women. 

They really want to be with you.

Most men are lonely... yes... they really are... as most men feel awkward and less confident than you would imagine... in fa...

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Clear Communication To Persuade And Influence Creates Success By Ange Fonce

Clear Communication To Persuade And Influence Creates Success 

By Ange Fonce

 

 

The most "influential" men and women in nearly every situation are those who can "communicate" the most clearly... both "verbally" and "non verbally." 

Whether you are dealing with employees... bosses... colleagues... customers... friends and lovers... your ability to get what you want hinges on "how" well you "talk...write" and use your "body."

With that in mind... in this brief article I will share with 5 basic princ...

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Are You A Producer Or A Consumer By Ange Fonce

Are You A Producer Or A Consumer?

 By Ange Fonce

It seems in the short game... that it is more powerful to be a consumer. 

It seems like consumers have more fun and choice. 

The consumer is always right... and the consumer can walk away and go consume else where.

Yet in the long game... if the producer is smart and done their analysis well... they win.

Why? 

Because the consumer forgets how to produce... they cannot exist unless they consume. 

They can only exist because of what the producer... produ...

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Being Rich Is Not The Same As Building A Quality Life Of Wealth By Ange Fonce

Being Rich Is Not The Same As Building A Quality Life Of Wealth

By Ange Fonce

Part 2

You will recall from my last article... So You Want To Be Rich? Learn To Love Being Poor First!  

That the first secret is that you cannot fear poverty... or you will never take the risks you need to take if you are to acquire large sums of money . 

You will also recall that there are only three important decisions in life... 

What you do… 

Where you do it… 

With whom you do it. 

Now let us explore the first quest...

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Rejection Can Help You When You Are Social Courting By Ange Fonce

Rejection Can Help You When You Are Social Courting 

By Ange Fonce

Your social, physical and sexual skills are not simply good or bad. 

These skills are fluid and based on momentum.

Rejection is part of the process of getting better and growing in the "social" arena of "courting."

And ALL areas of your life... so accept it is part of the deal when "Social Courting" with men and woman.

This way you will have lots of time to capitalize on its positive effect. 

The way it contributes to your social mom...

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3 Dynamic Qualities of Men And Women Who Create Dynamic Change By Ange Fonce

3 Dynamic Qualities Of Men And Women Who Create Dynamic Change 

By Ange Fonce

Change and  transformation are not easy for the majority of men and women... and can be very challenging as it requires rewiring people's minds and the way they think. 

Yet... there are men and women who are DYNAMIC... who drive through change and transform individuals... organizations... cultures and societies.

How do they do this?

 

Because it means “educating” people to think and experience life a different way... ...

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Easy Simple Guaranteed Vanilla And Free Advice By Ange Fonce

Easy Simple Guaranteed Vanilla And Free Advice

By Ange Fonce

That kind of "advice" on the face of things... seems like the perfect advice, and the advice that spreads, the advice you seek.

Of course, advice that is easy... simple... guaranteed... vanilla and free is not worth very much and it's "real value" is worth what to you? 

Because if that "vanilla advice" worked, you would have done it already... and so would the rest of us!

No... the advice that is worth seeking out is really difficult to ...

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So You Want To Be Rich? Learn To Love Being Poor First! By Ange Fonce

So You Want To Be Rich? Learn To Love Being Poor First! 

Part 1... Stories From The Past.

By Ange Fonce

You may think I am joking... I am not. 

The point is you cannot be afraid of poverty... when you want to build the life you want to live. 

A DYNAMIC LIFE!

Because if you are going to grow “wealth” you are going to have to take risks... you may start a business, for example... deciding to be in a relationship... any form of “investment” involves risk.

Typically, you make money by going "all...

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Do You Let PEER PRESSURE Dictate And Destroy Your Relationships? By Ange Fonce

Do You Let PEER PRESSURE Dictate And Destroy Your Relationships? 

By Ange Fonce

Many men and women who get into a relationship do not get any privacy from their families and other forms of "peer pressure"... ie... an over bearing "parent" or an "interfering" friend. 

And such "peer pressure" can cause REAL problems in your own personal relationships... even to the point of "breaking" them up.

Here are 5 suggestions on how not to let "peer pressure" dictate the course of your relationships.

1... Ge...

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Do You Know How To Stay Calm In A Crises? By Ange Fonce

Do You Know How To Stay Calm In A Crises? 

By Ange Fonce

The ability to stay "calm in a crisis" is not an inherited character trait... it is a "skill" that you can learn.

Have you noticed how certain men and women "possess the ability" to "remain calm" during crisis situations that many others would fall to pieces and panic. 

There is this common held belief that says that the ability to remain calm is a character trait that most of us lack.

The latest research Neuroscience has recently revealed t...

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Let Me Do My Work And Get It Done By Ange Fonce

Let Me Do My Work And Get It Done 

By Ange Fonce

These days I need a marketer and a sales man or woman to do the marketing and selling... so that I can do my work.

I need investors to put up the money so that I can get on and do my work.

I need a webmaster to take care of my websites so I can get on and do my work.

I need an accountant so I will not have to think about income and outgoings so that I can get on and do my work.

I need an admin assistant to process and answer all my email and my paper...

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The Russian Doll Effect By Ange Fonce

The Russian Doll Effect

By Ange Fonce

In a world that has becoming efficient in the productivity of producing nothing more then same thing in ever increasing numbers.

That "average"... "mediocrity"... and "dumb enough" will do... which has become the conforming standard in the production of producing "humans!"

The "industrialists" have taken over and are efficiently mass producing more and more conformity.

It is indeed a REMARKABLE event when an "Individual" man or woman chooses to become DYNAMIC ...

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4 Personality Types That Are Are Secretly Highly Toxic By Ange Fonce

4 Personality Types That Are Are Secretly Highly Toxic 

By Ange Fonce

I have written before about the more obvious toxic personality types you can spot without to much difficulty.

  

Yet there are 4 personality types that on the surface appear fine, not because they demand attention, it is their ability to fly under your radar... and that makes them a lot more difficult to spot.

First let us deal with...

The Chameleon

In the animal kingdom, the Chameleon changes colour in order to escape notice. In ...

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Experiencing A New System Other Than The Prevailing System By Ange Fonce

Experiencing A New System Other Than The Prevailing System

By Ange Fonce 

The most common reason for systemic biases and "keeping things" as they are... is usually benign.

As "most people" are "comfortable" with what they know and feel "safe" with.

Any form of "change" is challenging for "most people"... as it upsets their "comfort zone."

Such excuses will be... 

"Most people cannot use this." 

Or most people do not "think" like you or most people will not benefit. 

Which  has an element of truth to ...

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What Are You Seeking In Your Life? By Ange Fonce

What Are You Seeking In Your Life? 

By Ange Fonce

Some people want safety and respect. 

They want to know what the rules are, they want a guarantee that the effort required is both predictable and rewarded. 

They seek an environment where they will not feel pushed around, surprised or taken advantage of.

They want to feel safe within their "comfort zone."

Other people want challenge and autonomy. 

They want the opportunity to grow and to delight or inspire the people around them. 

They seek both orga...

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Why Smart Goal And Project Strategies Require Even Smarter Questions By Ange Fonce

Why Smart Goal And Project Strategies Require Even Smarter Questions 

By Ange Fonce

The quality of the questions you ask yourself determines whether your strategy will make practicable step by step sense.

Any kind of successful strategy is always the result of the "quality" of questions that you ask yourself.  

If you ask the right questions that "test" how practical your "goal" and "projects" will be to acquire... you will by a process of elimination end up with smarter strategies.  

If you ask t...

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Are You Always Braced For Impact? By Ange Fonce

Are You Always Braced For Impact? 

By Ange Fonce

I can imagine imagine that there are certain situations... like some form martial arts... where bracing for impact and using that energy is a sensible is idea.

The rest of the "time"... not such a good thing. 

If when driving your car... you know you are going to hit a tree at 60 miles an hour... or the jet you are flying on is about to slam into the runway at a couple of hundred miles an hour... it is not altogether clear that tensing all your mus...

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Do You Share A Loving Intimate And Dynamic Relationship? By Ange Fonce

Do You Share A Loving Intimate And Dynamic Relationship? 

By Ange Fonce

We have all seen them, and at one point may have even envied them... happy loving couples who seem to have it all. 

So... how do these happy couples manage to really enjoy each other’s company, are supportive of one another and even exude a vibrant sense of sexuality and romance? 

Let's face it... it is a powerful combination, which at times can feel tough to achieve for yourself and your own relationships. 

Yet there is goo...

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It Was Not Her It Was Me All Along By Ange Fonce

It Was Not Her It Was Me All Along 

By Ange Fonce

"The Management Assumes No Responsibility For What Is Found." ~ Abraham Maslow.

There are many occasions when we would like to blame somebody... the wife... the husband... the children... our parentor the boss for "the management" for our "feelings."

When we get frustrated... overworked... or angry... we want somebody else to take "responsibility."

In truth... each of us has his or her own path and is "responsible" for his or hers own "feelings" an...

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6 Ways To Be More Productive With Your Personal Time By Ange Fonce

6 Ways To Be More Productive With Your Personal Time 

By Ange Fonce

Have you noticed that some men and women just seem to "accomplish" lots and still appear "happy" and "relaxed."

They effortlessly just "get things done!" 

People often ask me... amazed at how I manage "to get so much done"... aside from writing 3 articles every week... I "create" videos... "manage" my business... "develop" on line and real world programs... write books... consult with my clients... network.. socialize... workout....

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Motivation The Neuroscience Way By Ange Fonce

Motivation The Neuroscience Way

By Ange Fonce

It has been known for some time that strengthening your "positive thinking" and weakening your "negative thoughts" can have "huge benefits" for your "performance." 

Yet how aware are you about Emotional Intelligence and "how powerful" and useful "focusing" and being "aware" of your "emotions" can be.

Do You Know Why?

When you encounter a difficult situation... your brain reacts differently when you say... 

"I am…" as opposed to..."I feel." 

Now in theo...

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The End Of "Everyone?" By Ange Fonce

The End Of "Everyone?" 

By Ange Fonce

"I am not sure that "everyone" ever existed in the first place, if it was ever possible to say, "everyone loves..." "everyone respects...." or even, "everyone really does not like..."  and there is no doubt at all that this is not true any more.

The internet has has shown there is no "everyone." 

Instead, the Internet has shown there are many tribes,many tribes of someone's.

That Humanity is not "one"... it is not governments... it is not nations... it is not ...

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How Likeable Are You? The Critical Factor For Building Success

How Likeable Are You? The Critical Factor For Building Success

By Ange Fonce

She walks into the room... smiles a warm coy smile and heads turn... her presence "creates" instant "attraction" and men naturally gravitate towards her... while other women spit venom... because her success seems effortless... she may not be the most physically beautiful woman in the room... yet her presence is "magnetic."

He "commands attention"... he is "confident... capable" and in "control"... you "know" he does no...

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Do Eyeglasses Actually Make Men Look Smarter And More Attractive To Women?

Do Eyeglasses Actually Make Men Look Smarter And More Attractive To Women?

By Ange Fonce

About a month ago I was out with some male friends and I was asked this curious question...

"Do eyeglasses make men look smarter and more attractive to women?"

Well we shared a debate about this question... and the natural assumption we all agreed on is that for both men and women who wear glasses can make you appear more "intelligent."

Yet this widely held assumption started me thinking and asking questions.....

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It Is All In The Lips For Confidence And Attractiveness

It Is All In The Lips For Confidence And Attractiveness

By Ange Fonce

You may not have noticed this, that when you are feeling tense or nervous, you press your lips together, and can appear "stressed" and "angry."

Try it right now. 

Think about a recent conversation or event that completely threw you off balance and angered you, or made you anxious. 

Like when they called to cancel a "meet up" you were looking forward to. 

Or they turned their back on you when you needed to talk, or vent.

Are you im...

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Do You Wreck Things On Purpose?

Do You Wreck Things On Purpose?

By Ange Fonce

Which is more satisfying to you. 

Breaking something or watching someone else do the breaking?

When you sense a job or a "relationship" is going wrong... do you act out and make things worse... in the moment? 

It might "feel" like it is better to get fired for something you did than to get laid off.

It might "feel" like it is better to end a "relationship" and dump the other person then be dumped yourself.

When a partnership hits some bumps... it is temp...

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Do People Tune You Out And Why They Do It To You?

Do People Tune You Out And Why They Do It To You?

By Ange Fonce

All "relationships" are about "communication" and will determine whether you will have the power of "persuasion" and "influence" or just become "white noise" in the background in everyday life... lacking any form of "authority."

Now... when you are "speaking"... you want people to pay "attention" and "listen" to you... and when you indulge any of these all too common habits... their minds will wander and "tune" you out.

1... You Go O...

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Your Personal Arms Race Of Success

Your Personal Arms Race Of Success

By Ange Fonce

Are you engaging in a neck and neck battle for supremacy in your life?

It is entirely possible you have lost track of the purpose of the work you set out to do to create your life in the first place.

Consider some recent stats about college sports I come across in the USA...

A top coach who makes $6.9 million dollars a year in college American football.

A weight training coach who makes more than $6,000 a week.

A dozen non profit universities spending...

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Is Your Life Story Useful Do You Help Change The World?

Is Your Life Story Useful Do You Help Change The World?

By Ange Fonce

What are you doing it for?

And how will you know if it worked or not?

Always answer these two questions first, please. 

Is It Worth Doing?

If it is... then it is worth knowing before you do it.

A hammer is for getting nails into wood, and it is pretty easy to tell if it does the job well... and it is made of metal and not glass for instance... a glass hammer and metal nails would not work.

That is one reason why we have so many goo...

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Is Authentic Really Authentic?

Is Authentic Really Authentic?

By Ange Fonce.

Although the Sun never rises in exactly in the same place each day, it is consistent in that it rises. it is that consistency that the Sun will be there everyday, that we trust there will be a Sunrise." ~ Ange Fonce

Consider that maybe the only truly authentic version of you was way back when you were just a few days old, lying in a baby cot, and your main function in life was to either feed of your Mothers breast or a babies bottle, cry and fill you...

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The Story Of Wonder The Goldfish

The Story Of Wonder The Goldfish

By Ange Fonce

There was once a goldfish called Wonder who lived in a tank with 6 other goldfish... Wonder was a happy little fish who always saw good in everything, and the other 6 goldfish were always unhappy although they were beautiful and had a nice home and plenty of good food... they felt angry all the time that they should have a better home then what they had... and complained that their tank was too small and wondered how they might get free?

One fish......

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The Perceived Threats To Tribes By Growing Aware Human Beings

The Perceived Threats To Tribes By Growing Aware Human Beings

By Ange Fonce

Any kind of intermarriage has always been a problem for many tribes... all the way back to Antony and Cleopatra... Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet... and the more modern West Side Story. 

Any kind of intermarriage breaks down the demonizing of the "other" tribe and those insecure members of the tribe view this as an existential threat... as the beginning of the end of the tribes cohesion... traditions...  belief systems.....

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You Are Only As Good As Your Word

You Are Only As Good As Your Word

By Ange Fonce

This is something I endeavour to practice in my life on a daily basis... both in business... and my personal life... and it goes like this...

"People will do business with you... and be with you when they know you are trustable... and you conduct yourself with integrity."

It may read simple... yet if you know how to read deeper... it can be rephrased as...

"People will  engage you to do work for them... place more responsibility in your hands... or e...

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Behaviors That Destroy Your Creditbility

Behaviors That Destroy Your Creditbility

By Ange Fonce

Many men... and women make these mistakes that destroys the power of "influence"... and your ability to "persuade" others is directly dependent upon "how credible" you seem. 

When meeting others for the first time... you should never "assume" that others possess the same "intelligent competence" as you... and that they see you as... "trustworthy." 

With that in "mind" here are some "common behaviors" to avoid...

1... Phrases That Imply Decepti...

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Red Is A Nice Colour Or Is It?

By Ange Fonce

"If you take risks... and face your life with dignity... there is nothing you can do that makes you small... if you do not take risks... then there is nothing you can do that makes you grand either... nothing." ~ Ange Fonce 

People come to think what they must think when they must think it.

That is both the trouble... and the charm of life... you never know exactly where it will lead you. 

There are thousands… millions… gazillions of dots in the universe.

We think things are one ...

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Celebrating Your Flops And Failures

Celebrating Your Flops And Failures

By Ange Fonce

Lately... I have been "thinking" about... and doing research into failure.

Partly... that is because I just read something about what is called the... Survivor ship Bias... this is the idea that we all tend to look to the "winners" in any category... for cues we can copy... what we do not often do...  is look at the "failures"... and yet they can teach you plenty... as an example of this,...the book... "You Are Not So Smart”... gives this... Su...

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When The Red Pill And The Blue Pill Meet The Story Of Two Frogs.

When The Red Pill And The Blue Pill Meet The Story Of Two Frogs.

By Ange Fonce

In a land where the rolling hills ran down to the sea... there stood a small village... no one knew exactly how long the village had been there... yet over time the thick stone walled cottages with there thatched roofs had stood the test of time and many a sea storm for many generations.

The village had a pretty green... and many flower gardens... and the men... and women often meet there  to spend time with each othe...

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How to Win Most Of The Time

By Ange Fonce

Make these 3 simple decisions... and practice them constantly to set yourself up to win... no matter what happens... most of the time.

If you think winning means making a lot of money... you are confused... money is only pieces of paper with pictures of dead people on it... the reason you want more money is because then you can buy things that make you feel good.

If you think winning means beating the competition... you are confused... it is not the score on the scoreboard that cou...

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Are You A Trader In Favours?

By Ange Fonce

Those people who you think owe you... because you mowed their lawn... give them a lift in your car... promoted their website... gave them advice... you listened to all their problems in the middle of the night... they will probably always let you down... when you call in your... "favour debt."

Favours are not for trading... they are... "gifts"... of your TIME! 

Because they wear out... they fade away... each favour is valued differently by you the... "giver"... and they who are the...

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Make Better Decisions In 7 Steps

Make Better Decisions In 7 Steps

By Ange Fonce

Decision making is a "skill" which requires constant practice.

Although everyone knows that "success" results from "good decisions"... few people bother to hone their "decision making skills"... the following "process" will help you make "good decisions."

1... Set A Deadline...

The opposite of "decision making" is "indecision"... indecision drags things out until the world does the deciding for you... therefore every "important decision" must have a d...

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Do You Take The Easy Ride?

By Ange Fonce

You know what you want to accomplish... you know how you would like everything to turn out.

The real question is... 

"What are you willing to learn... to change... persist... and push through the... "challenges"... for?" 

What are you willing to stand up for... bleed for... speak with your voice for... commit to... and generally be unreasonable about?

Because that is what it is going to actually take to get it done.

As you are not going to accept... "make do"... you are not going to a...

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Are You A Virtual Lover?

Are You A Virtual Lover?

By Ange Fonce

In the movie "Her" a lonely man falls in love with the automated female voice on his phone... in Japan men are marrying their virtual girlfriends... bizarre? 

Not really Catherine de Lange writing in New Scientist says humans do fall for inanimate objects and even fall in love with robots.

They can feel an incredible connection with partners on the net and tell them all their secrets with a lifelike sentences joined by unspoken blanks. 

Many lonely people sha...

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Methods To Develop Dynamic Mental Strength And Courage

Methods To Develop Dynamic Mental Strength And Courage

By Ange Fonce

What do I mean by... Mental Strength?

"It is the ability to be... "focused"... in your work... and your life in responding resiliently to failure... and adversity... the inner quality of... "trusting yourself"... to be persistent in pursuing your passions... and completing your projects."

Now the word... Courage!

The definition of... "courage"... almost describes qualities every "successful" man and woman possesses... because "me...

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Is There An App For Dumbness?

Is There An App For Dumbness?

By Ange Fonce

It is not the evil of evil doers that is the greatest crime... it is the apathy of those who should be doing good... we live a lie... we allow lies to be carried out in our names everyday... we live in a bubble... we deceive ourselves that somehow life is good. 

While all over the world... humanity is being inhuman to each other... we deceive ourselves that we are doing something... what good are your proxy words of love... which... let us be honest he...

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Do we have a caution shortage?

By Ange Fonce

Is it necessary to have caution in abundance?

Are we living n an abundance of caution?

When a someone tells you to do something with an abundance of caution.... what they are actually doing is playing on your fears. 

Perhaps we could instead opt for an abundance of joy... risk... or an abundance of connection. 

Those are far more productive... and fun.

Also... the things we have the most abundance of caution about are rarely the things that are actual risks. 

They merely feel like risk...

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I'll show them!

By Ange Fonce

Creative men... and women need fuel... overcoming the impulses... resistance... and quieting the natural primal brain takes a lot of..."personal development"... work. 

Often... creative men... and women seek external forces to excite us... inspire us... invigorate us... to push us to take the leap that is necessary to do something that might not work.

And so often we read what the critics write...and listen to what they say as they tear us apart... mistakenly thinking that it will ...

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People Like You

By Ange Fonce

Finding your peer group

Like mind's... think alike... your peer group are men... and women who like you... share similar values... dreams... goals... and world views. 

They are the men... and women who will push you in exchange for being pushed... they will raise the bar... and tell you the truth... they want the best for you... as you do for them.

They may not be in your business... and that is often an asset... as they can look at what you do with a different perspective... as the...

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Simple Science Of Male Female Attraction Factors

By Ange Fonce

Do you ever think why certain men... and women are more attractive than others? 

What are the factors that affect your decision to select a mate? 

The answers lie deep in the... Primal Brain. 

The evolution of attraction in men... and women started to develop in long ago in... The Stone Age... and we as... "Human Beings"... have evolved a large number of... "attraction factors"... over thousands of years which have evolved our natural laws of mate selection. 

Now you would think how ...

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Trustworthiness

By Ange Fonce

Trust is a very expensive gift of... "high value"... and comes with the added bonuses of... "sincere honesty"... "loyalty"... "REAL relationships"... "WIN-WIN"... and has to be earned.

Do not expect... "trust"... from... "cheap people"... they are the... "freebee mercenaries"... "takers"... not makers of VALUE!

WIN... to... "cheap people"... is spelt... LOSE... they win you lose.

What value of TRUST... in cheapness?

Do not mistake... "bargain hunters"... for cheapness.

Your OFFER coul...

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www.god-heaven.com

www.god-heaven.com

By Ange Fonce

Let me share a little story with you...

One day a Soul turns up in heaven... goes through all the usual checks... immigration control... criminal record checks... eye retina scan... body x rayed... blood type... racial purity check... body search... anal probe... make sure there is no sharp objects... vibrators... batteries... lube... handcuffs... whips... etc... ect.

And is admitted into the Big H with his papers in order... and then goes of on a good walk around...

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Science... Dynamic Confidence Is Key To Your Success

Science... Dynamic Confidence Is Key To Your Success

By Ange Fonce

Average men... and women... often consider that those men... and women who are productive... energised... and optimistic in "creating" their life... have some kind of a character fault... yet Dynamic Lifers... and entrepreneurs... creative men... and women embrace... and thrive on Dynamic Confidence. 

 

Most men... and women assume Dynamic Confidence is a negative character trait that creates failure through hubris... and overreac...

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I Don't Know?

I Don't Know?

By Ange Fonce

This is a mantra that is common among many men... and women that say that they want to leap... and  have not and will not.

What they are actually saying is... 

"I do not have any ideas that are guaranteed to work... that are guaranteed to cause no criticism... or uncomfortable feelings to me... moments when I am sure the whole thing is going to fall apart."

And that sentence is probably true... when you THINK that way!

Yet... “I don't know”... equals no good ideas? 

W...

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This May Have Happened To You?

This May Have Happened To You?

By Ange Fonce

You open your eyes... the day begins... almost immediately... in fact before you start "thinking... planning"... and maybe even slightly worrying about something... you do not "know" what yet... and you are on your way to finding out.

You "think" about what you are going to do first... what you need to get done... what you have left from yesterday... and without realizing it... you suddenly have a growing list of to dos.

So you sit down... and write do...

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The Peanut Butter Jar Theory of Perfection And Diminishing Returns.

If you were to open a brand new jar of peanut butter... and try to get all the peanut butter out of the jar... how long would it take? 

You can use any tools you want so long as you bear in mind that the purpose is to recover the peanut butter from the jar... so washing it down the drain does not help in accomplishing that task.

I reckon how long it would take largely depends on your definition of... "all the peanut butter."

Surely... within 3... or 4 minutes you could get basically all the pean...

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Five Life Hacks To Mental Wellbeing For Dynamic Lifers

Five Life Hacks To Mental Wellbeing For Dynamic Lifers

By Ange Fonce

Scientific evidence points to five steps that you can take to improve your "mental wellbeing"... when you give them a try... you will feel happier... more positive and able to get the most from your life.

Why Is Mental Wellbeing Important? 

First... we all want to "feel" good about ourselves and the world around us and to be able to get the most from our lives.

There is also evidence that "mental wellbeing" is important for your ...

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What Is This? Glass Half Empty Glass Half Full?

You have heard the old saying that a pessimist sees the glass as half empty while the optimist sees the glass as half full.  

That is not a smart comparison.

Defined that way... optimism means giving your life experience a positive emotional spin... while pessimism entails giving it a correspondingly negative spin.

If the only difference between optimism... and pessimism is your emotional perception... it is not about... "thinking"... it is about..."feelings." 

Any smart aware men... and women......

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No Love Potion - Anger Is Served

No Love Potion - Anger Is Served

By Ange Fonce

If I have one apple and I give it to you... I do not have an apple any more... now if someone who is angry gives you their anger... now you both might have it.

You have seen it too many times before... someone is afraid... untethered... or just upset about something that happened long before you walked into the room... unbridled "emotion" is dumped on you... spittle flying... eyes wide... personal "feelings" unfiltered.... just feet away... the angr...

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Is The Goal To be Better Possible?

"I saw a beggar leaning on his wooden crutch, He said to me, "You must not ask for so much." And a pretty woman leaning in her darkened door, She cried to me, "Hey, why not ask for more?" Taken From... "Bird On A Wire" ~ Leonard Cohen

The answer to this took me a while to realize... because it is so obvious... that many people are far more comfortable with "no."

The easiest... and safest option is to accept what you have been "given"... fate... karma... destiny... or what ever you want to call ...

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Optimise To Prioritise

Optimise To Prioritise

By  Ange Fonce

Do you test yourself... do you test your beliefs... your thoughts... do you "invest" your "time" to IMPROVE your life?

I am a great tester... from testing what I eat to running multi variables in my business,... and personally in my own life... I test as much as I can.

This is for good reason.... I have found through years of testing that often little adjustments... or life hacks... can mean HUGE benefits to me... also I get "know" that at least half my theor...

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The Dancer At The Edge Of Possibilities

The difference between impossible... and nearly impossible is a matter of... perception!

It is the difference between those that step beyound the bonderies that they encounter... and those that do not. 

All you need is... "nearly"... and you have completely transformed the problem... changing it from one to avoid to one to commit to.

Here is the hard part... having the ability to see... and to announce the... "nearly" part. 

Almost every breakthrough comes from the man... or woman who saw... "nea...

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Celebrate Your Chutzpah.

Whether you successfully close... or just get shot down... remember that the only real failure is the failure to try. 

Fill your days with victories... small...large.... and you will have more confidence... and be that much more effective... next time you go for the win.

What other people think of you is called... "other-people esteem"... that is a completely different thing altogether to your self esteem.

It is better to think well of yourself... and by all means... go ahead. 

No need to wait fo...

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How Do You Make Your Choices?

How do you make your choices... what is the system of your habit choosing process?

Read the following list... and pick which one comes naturally to you?

Will you choose...

1...   Easy

2...   Cheap

3...   Proven

4...   Brave

5...   Certain

6...   Big pay-off

7...   Fun

8...   Convenient

9...   Known...

10... Unknown

11... Important

12... Urgent

13... Challenging

14... Emotional

15... Thinking

16... Responsible

17... Feels Right

18... Confident

19... Loyal

20... Bargin Hunter

21... Scared

22... Love will solve everyth...

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How To Re-frame Your Brains Memory System To Benefit You.

How To Re-frame Your Brains Memory System To Benefit You.

By Ange Fonce

As part of my own personal... and professional development... I am always reading up the latest cutting edge science in the world of evolutionary psychology... neurology... and biology.

The latest neuroscience research suggests you can literally... "edit"... your memory. 

So... "how"... would this be useful to you?

First...

How The Brain Remembers... The Old Thinking...

Most people think about human memory as a videotape... or c...

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The Everyday Option

Here,.. do what you do many hundred times before... turn on your iPad... watch that movie you like so much... check out Facebook... go to the shop... your regular 10 minute session of Saturday night sex... web-surf the internet... your 9 to 5 job... eat your burgers... and frys... and so on.

Of course... these everyday options are just a symptom... if you want to insulate yourself from new experiences... ensure that you never eat something you do not like... watch a different new movie that ch...

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8 Ways To Help Cyber Relationships Work

8 Ways To Help Cyber Relationships Work

By Ange Fonce

Technology has changed the rules... yet the underlying truths remain the same. 

Making friends and building relationships is supposed to be easy. 

All you need do is adapt the timeless wisdom of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" to your technologically sophisticated word and here is the point... I am finding more and more in relationships.. technology is taking over and replacing the REAL Human skills.

So here is a reminder of those "ba...

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Less Can Be A Lot More

More money... more cars... more houses... more of everything... does not always make you happier... at some point... personal improvement can be twisted... and turns into a game... something to be won... or lost... completely losing the point of the project you set out to do.

It is no wonder that after a certain point... increased income does not usually lead to more happiness... if income becomes a game... and not a means to an end... then men... and women can be perverted... and in doing so ...

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Shrink For The Dip

All work and no play truly does Jack a dull boy... or worse... as Jack Torrance reminds us in a movie reference you should get... an exciting boy in all the wrong ways. 

On the other hand... all play and ...no work just makes Jack fat... drunk... and stupid... and that as Dean Wormer made clear in another reference you should get...  

“Is no way to go through life son.”

Now let me share with you my theory... and the theory of ever... “top flight”... psychologist...    and REAL.. “perso...

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Are You Being YOU?

Remember a time when you felt you were holding back?

Society really sends this message strongly...

Sacrifice your own self for the greater good... stay within our lines... do not express your true thoughts... and emotions... hold most of it in... and avoid offending anyone ever... do it for the good of everyone else.

Who cares if all that holding in might be responsible for almost half of men... and women having some type of mental... and emotional disorder... at least no one is getting hurt... ...

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Your Default Face

Your Default Face 

By Ange Fonce

When no one is looking and you are relaxed and not trying... what shows on your face?

You have a default setting... an arrangement of your muscles that gives your mouth and eyes a look... an expression of your inner default setting. 

Some have a "resting bitchy face"... others have an... "axe murderer face"... or... "blank "smiley" face"... or... "pretty vacant face"... or... "intense frowning face"... or... "glaring "focused" face"... and so on.

Rarely do you see ...

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Stuck With Number 1

Stick With Number 1

By Ange Fonce

Do your fears rule your life?

Many times... you may get... "stuck"... when you "think" something will not work... whether it is talking to a man... or woman who puts a knot in your throat... or maybe thinking of making "changes" to your life..

You are gripped by something. 

Generally... if you are... "stuck"... it is by your public enemy number 1... SUBCONSCIOUS INDUCED FEAR!

Subconscious Induced Fear... essentially wraps you in a false blanket of comfort... your f...

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Selfish And Selfishness

A man selfishly drops a piece of litter on the ground... another man selfishly picks it up.

Everything you do is done because it is better than not doing it. 

Better... is the complicated term... better could mean... 

"Gives my self emotional... or physical pleasure right now." 

Also better could mean for you...

"The contribution I just made to helping others gives me joy... and satisfaction."

When men... and women selfishly choose the long... and the generous view...  both the individual... and So...

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Which Loyalty Are You

The first kind of loyalty is the loyalty of convenience.

The kind of loyalty that says...

"I am going to look around... sure... maybe be in someone else’s tribe by stealth ... be with an individual on the "quiet"... and probably will switch... I will keep it... "secret."

Switching is risky,... it is time consuming... switching means a new account with a new person... a new tribe... of moving my resources... switching means I might make a mistake or lose my security or have to defend a new deci...

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Too Many Choices Is No Choice At All

Commitment is not something you either have... or you do not have.

Sure... some people may be more self-disciplined than you.... some people may be better at resisting procrastination than you... and that is probably not because they were born with some certain special something inside them... instead they have found ways to be committed... persistent... and disciplined when it really matters... and how to best use what they have in a very... "focused way"... here is how you can too

Eliminate A...

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Mr Or Miss MAYBE?

Mr Or Miss MAYBE?

By Ange Fonce

I am not sure where exactly it happened... somewhere along the way our culture decided that "dating" was synonymous with "having sex." 

At the very least it is viewed as such in the narrow minds of enough of the general population to keep tons of self conscious men and women all over the fruited plain from seeing more than one person at a time.

And because that is the prevailing mindset... that is the way most men and women operate is understandable... after all......

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Are You A Leader Or Follower In Your Tribe?

Many tribes gain in power... and connection by finding their opposite... by identifying the choices that other tribes will not make. 

The smart choice is to understand that tribal identity is based on choices... not on facts... based on allegiances... based on commonality... and not the intentional disregard of the rest of the world. 

Tribes thrive when individuals connect... coordinate... and synchronize... they work when they create a cultural tribal connection... and they cannot thrive when ...

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Do You Pass The Man Woman Tests?

Do You Pass The Man Woman Tests?

By Ange Fonce

Why do men and women test each ?

When you have a strong internal frame... other people tend to accept it.

If you perceive his or her tests as playful and cute... they will often turn out harmless. 

If... on the other hand you perceive his or her tests as being scary and intimidating... then that is what they will become!

Men and Women test each others frames all the time and will test your frame constantly to find out if you are used to men and women l...

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Do You See My Elephant?

Do You See My Elephant?

By Ange Fonce

I want to share a technique with you that I use myself and that I coach others to use... that I call... 

Announcing The Elephant

Announcing the elephant is when you literally say out loud what you are attempting to conceal or cover up.

So for example... 

When I have a courting workshop and I am to speak in front of a lot of women I say... 

"I am so nervous... there are so many women here today."

This allowed me to no longer focus on trying to cover up or conceal ...

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The Best App Of All.

In the very near future most fast-serve... and mid-priced restaurants will have a tablet on the table... letting you order... and pay without ever speaking to a waiter... the "Human Being" will be removed from the process... this has already happened in the libraries in the city I live in... the only human being you see now is at the "information point"... and those who restock the shelves with the..."old school"... books... you can even sign out and return those... "old school"... books in d...

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Today's Life Map Is Already Old.

The map of life keeps getting constantly redrawn... and even more so now... because there is ever increasing opportunities to go off road... and explore beyond the... "known"... beaten path... to develop... innovate new routes... and remake what was considered traditional paths.

The maps of life are constantly being redrawn... technology enables you to  keep changing the routes you take to get your projects... your life path... from here to there... it does not pay to memorize the map... becau...

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Do You Know Your Fear Triggers?

Did you know that feeling sorry for yourself can actually be constructive when done in a positive way?  

"Constructive Compassion"...  is not about a failure of backbone... and courage... it is an occasion for self-compassion... and an opportunity to learn about... and become... "aware"... of  your negative thinking... which triggers an... "emotional response"... that fires of the memory of your fears... constructive compassion can be a time... where you can gain a better understanding of your...

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Inspiration Junkies

Inspiration Junkies

By Ange Fonce

I am sure you must know someone who is an... "inspiration junkie"... who look for pretty pictures.. and "inspirational quotes" instead of actually doing anything to improve their situation.

I have a request of  you... take ONE action after reading this writing... otherwise... I swear I am going to take a black marker... write words like... "heart"... "spirit" and any other "New Age"...bullshit on a heavy piece of cardboard and shove it up your...

For many of you....

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Owning What You Do

When you announce what you want... when you are clear about what is on offer... when you set targets... goals... for yourself to acquire.

The odds increase dramatically of accomplishing your goals will go up,.. so will acquiring your targets... and so does the odds that you will have failures... that you will be disappointed... it is a natural part of the process of growing... and maturing into success.

For many men and women... it seems apparently... that it is better to not acquire what you w...

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X Marks The Goal

Decide... when you choose to do X... you commit to doing X... and GET IT DONE!

If you have a significant degree of control... "It won't... didn't work"... is typically not a real result. 

You cause it to work ... or "it" will not work. 

The less control you have in the ultimate outcome... the more difficult the initial choice. 

Decisions involving an application of effort... dedication... or completion are relatively simple as they simply require you to follow through with a well defined plan. 

Th...

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What Is Your Unique Attraction Point?

What Is Your Unique Attraction Point?

By Ange Fonce

When you put out the message...

I am like anyone... you are effectively saying...

"You can get what I have and can buy what I am and what I have from anyone... I am just the same as anyone."

That is not going to get you very far when you want to "attract" a partner... look for a job... raise money... stuff.

What makes you "different" and stand out from the masses?

What if instead... you created a reputation... as the man or woman... the business or...

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Are You A Love And Sex Addict?

Are You A Love And Sex Addict?

By Ange Fonce

Such men and women possess few healthy boundaries... if any at all... they become sexually involved and emotionally attached to other men and women without knowing them. 

They fear abandonment and loneliness... returning time after time to painful and destructive relationships... concealing their dependency needs from themselves and others... while growing more isolated... alienated from friends and loved ones... even to the extent of becoming detache...

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Are You An Honourable Men And Woman?

Are You An Honourable Men And Woman?

By Ange Fonce

Methods For Gaining Honour...

When others perceive you as being honourable... you ultimately win their "respect" and "approval"... they openly acknowledge you as a person... and support your "thinking... values" and the "convictions" and "ideas" you stand for... in order to gain honour from others... you must cultivate the following qualities.

Show A Willingness To Be Taught...

Openly show a willingness to be taught by other people... you cannot b...

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Success With Men And Women = ???

Success With Men And Women = ???

By Ange Fonce

"Those who stand out in the crowd and enjoy the rewards of success... are 100% motivated and committed to be different than the rest." ~ Ange Fonce

Choosing how you define success with men and women is vitally important... if you choose the wrong way to define success for yourself... then the months or years of effort you put into achieving that goal will go to waste.

For instance... men and women  who define success for themselves as to how many men...

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Finding Your Voice

There are men and women... who would never have been chosen by those in power... that are finding their voice... and saying more.

Thinking more deeply... questioning what they are told... writing more openly... connecting more viscerally... changing the “dynamics” of themselves... changing the things around them... and creating a new world... they “rattle” the cage of the established order... and break down the doors... that separate others. 

That is each of us... the Dynamic Lifer... a...

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Being Social Media Busy Is Not The Same As Being REAL World Productive.

If you want to be.. you could be connected 24/7.

In fact.. there are some people that do not stop answering their phone.. checking their status on whatever social media account... do not stop to talk to someone without connecting to something else... are you that kind of person?

Ask yourself first... why do that to yourself... because some commercial on TV... or some post on the Internet said you had to... have you ever slowed down long enough to analyse WHY you do these things? 

When was the la...

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We Search For People Like Us

There is no more powerful tribal connection than this.

We are driven to become a member in good standing of our tribe... we want to be respected by those we aspire to connect with... we want to know what... we ought to do to be part of that circle.

When you are an "outsider"... you search to "connect"... with other "outsiders."

People like you... the tribe of the "outsiders."

By nature... the tribe of the "outsiders" is difficult to find... yet once... "one"... is found.

Other "connections"... soo...

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Dealing With Negative Polarity Humans

Dealing With Negative Polarity Humans

By Ange Fonce

Though you cannot always avoid those who are only able to see the "negative" side of the coin... you can make certain... that they do not bring you down with them.

There's no question that being "positive... confident" and "optimistic" both cushions the blows of adversity,,, means you will deal with "problems"... and makes it easier to notice... and take advantage of "opportunities" when they come your way.

And staying "positive" and "optimistic...

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The Impossible - Possible Revolutionary

"It is completely up to you"

And that is the problem.

So many things are now completely up to you... more than ever before... where... and how... and when you work and invest ...and interact... and instruct... and learn.

If you think you have no choice... just do what you do now... you have already made a serious error.

It seems to me that passing the buck on this... merely because it is easier than choosing... is precisely the wrong strategy. 

It enables an abdication of power... that will be ver...

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Power Thoughts That Can Motivate You

The difference between success... and failure is your ability to get... and keep yourself motivated.

There is nothing more essential to success than keeping yourself motivated. 

Motivation means choosing to do what you would rather not do... which is why unmotivated people never get anywhere.

Most people want to improve their situation... yet few take responsibility for motivating themselves to make changes.

People can always validate the decision... and come up with an "excuse"... to avoid unple...

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The First 2 Minutes

The First 2 Minutes

By Ange Fonce

A man or woman will not fall for you because of your physical fitness or the kind of job you do.

He or she will fall for you because of the way you make them FEEL when they around you and because you trigger that gut level of intense emotional attraction in them.

If you know what this is and how it works... you will realize how EFFORTLESS it can be to build a connection with that other person.

Engage Them One On One And Give Them The Space To Respond...

Do you know...

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Stop Trying For An Outcome.

Stop Trying For An Outcome

By Ange Fonce

Whenever you go out with the sole intent to "pick up" members of the opposite sex... you often fail.

The reason is because you are "trying."

Trying to get attention... trying to get attraction... trying to get an outcome. 

It is "try hard"... and so it does not work.

So... what is the answer? 

Not try at all? 

No... that does not work either... standing around doing nothing will get you nothing... the answer to the try hard... try not paradox is simple. 

Seek T...

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Attention To Detail

You must walk this Earth... planting healthy seeds to norish.

You must work with the children planting seeds of "aware intelligence"... of knowing and understanding... to mature.

You must work with the elders... harvesting their wisdom of experience.

You must work together... with others... to cooperate... and coexist.

You must consider.. that every thought is a seed of waking possibilities... to feed every action... in creating new realities.

You can be in your life... the locus of empowerment......

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Choice Or Taking A Decesion

Often it seems like all you are doing is making choices.

Most of those choices... you take are merely window dressing... this colour vs. that one... ketchup or mayo... this famous university vs. that one... this nice restaurant vs. that one... this cute guy or that cute guy... and most of those choices are made... based on a feeling of what "feels" right?

Genuine decision making... involves whole new categories... or "none of the above." 

Genuine decision making is difficult to embrace... becaus...

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The Category Of ONE

The merchants of mediocrity want you to fit in... be average... they will educate... and push you to fit in... to dress alike... to use the same tools... to conform to the plan... to fit the format... to become an economic unit... in the economic machine.

They are the high school teacher in love with academia... the politician who wants to control you by winning your vote... and the factory boss who needs you to fit in with the production line. 

"Get with the program... that is the way we do th...

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Anticipation Excitement Or Anxiety Excitement

In a hurry to be generous... or in a hurry to finish... and get it over and done with?

What happens when we adopt the posture of being in a hurry to be generous? 

With resources of insight... of access... of kindness... of "excellence"... that is an interesting sort of impatience.

If you define anxiety as experiencing... planning failure in advance... you can also understand its opposite... anticipation.

When you work with anticipation... you will highlight the highs... you look "forward too"... ...

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Are You Willing

Are you willing to forget what you have done for other people... and to remember what other people have done for you? 

Are you willing to ignore what the world owes you... and to think what you can give to the world? 

Are you willing to put your rights in the background... and your duties in the middle distance... and your choice to do more than your duty in the foreground? 

Are you willing to see that your fellow human beings are just as real as you are... and try to look behind their faces int...

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It Is The Little Things For All The Senses

There are 3 markets within a few miles of where I live and they do indeed make a fun place to meet up with a new woman I am getting to know... especially when we go back to my home and cook up something together from our shopping experience. 

They are different kind of markets... so the produce changes by the week... so the experience will always be a little different

When we meet up... we go wander the aisles and look at all the exotic fruit and vegetables... sample the strawberries... grapes....

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You Create Failure Equally You Can Create Success

Would it not be great to be gifted? 

In fact... it turns out that choices and decisions you make lead to habits.

Habits can become behaviours for success... or equally behaviours for failure.

Talents are mistakenly called "gifts."

When in fact they are "learned" behaviours.

You are not born this way... you "learn" to become this way.

You are either rehearsing for success... or you are rehearsing for failure.

The active imagination has no trouble imagining the negative outcomes of your new plan... yo...

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High Value Is Hard To Get

High Value Is Hard To Get

By Ange Fonce

It is subtle... and it makes a world of difference.

Some call it being "self-possessed"... I describes this as being "personally confident"... with a touch of "holding back."

Try adding a dose of "holding back" to your life... along with "personal confidence"... of course.

By "holding back"... just a little can make an instant difference in your "relationships"... in love and with anyone in your life.

The results of holding back can greatly INCREASE your "per...

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Be Honest Or Else

Be Honest Or Else

By Ange Fonce

"We're hoping to succeed; we're okay with failure. We just don't want to land in between." ~ David Chang

He is being serious... lots of men and women say this  and few are willing to "trust" themselves and put themselves at risk... which destroys the outcome of success and dramatically increases the likelihood of in between of nether here nor there... a life of just "make do."

Be The Honest Broker...

It really is a choice... one or the other.

Either you happily recom...

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Same View Different Perspective

Same View Different Perspective

By Ange Fonce

When someone talks to you about their goals... about whether or not they are trying to earn a lot of money or make a difference or stand out or fit in... it is so easy to assume that they have the same world view and goals as you do. 

You assume that if your narrative is...

"I do this for the money." 

That when someone different says... 

"I do this for love." 

You may think they are actually lying. 

If you think... "acceptance is everything"... then when ...

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Fear Is Often A Lack Of Understanding

It is easy to be against something... that you are afraid of... and it is easy to be afraid of something that you do not understand.

How much of your day is spent doing things you have to do... as opposed to the things you want to do?

In my experience... as people become more successful and happier... I find the more productive they become. 

These men and women... commit to spending more and more time on the "get to tasks" they want to be done.

You would think that this happens because their succ...

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Busynezz Or Productiveness

Busyness is far easier than being  productive.

Busyness might feel good... in it seems you might be getting a lot done... yet are you being productive?

Being productive... means doing the business of producing things of actual value. 

Most often,.. the two are completely unrelated.

What if you spent a day totally un-busy... and instead confronted the fear-filled tasks you have been putting off that will actually produce value once produced?

Every decision you make... every encounter you have... yo...

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Influence Is Power To Persuade

Influence Is Power To Persuade

By Ange Fonce

How do you get others to do what you would like them to?

Using no arm twisting... emotional blackmail... threats... or other slimy tricks.

There is a lot to becoming a Mastrer Persuader and Influencer... and getting people to do what you want? 

You too can be... all it takes is "learning... practice" and "desire."

I know this from personal experience... I have learned a lot of things over the years about people... especially the men and women I work with...

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Become Poor Quick By Get Rich Quick Dreams

Become Poor Quick By Get Rich Quick Dreams

By Ange Fonce

As long as there are people who want to get rich quick... and not do the REAL work to become "wealthy"... there will be people happy to sell them "get rich quick schemes" for those "opportunity seekers."

The schemes tend to have a few things in common... they tend to have the same tone of voice... part breathless... part bad design... part "we are just like you"... and most of all... they are too good to be "true."

Being too good to be "tru...

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