Super Charge Your Personal Development 

Key 4 And 5

By Ange Fonce

In the previous two articles about super charging you personal development I share with you Keys 1 to 3...

And in this final article of this series I will cover the basics of Key 4 and Key 5 with you so read on...

KEY 4... HOW are you doing things to acquire your goals? 

Most people also have some idea of HOW they do what they do or how they intend to do it technically speaking and for many people the HOW question can be the BIG BLOCK where they get stuck and their belief system can completely fail them.

Let us use an example here...

Imagine now the fuse has blown in a an electrical plug. 

How would you go about changing the fuse in the plug? 

Do you know HOW to change a fuse in a plug?

A lot of you will answer...

"Yes I believe I know HOW to change a fuse in a plug."

Then the next question could be...

"HOW did you learn to do this?"

Some will answer... 

"I learnt by trail and error... blew up a few fuses until I learnt HOW to do it."

Some will answer... 

"I learnt HOW by getting the information I needed to KNOW and changed the fuse."

Others will answer..."

“I learnt HOW to change the fuse by getting someone else who knew HOW to do it and by them showing me HOW to do it."

Each of these 3 learning methods of HOW to change a fuse in a electrical plug can all end up with a positive result... it is just that each method works within a different time frame

1... The trail and error method. 

This takes the longest time and is the most wasteful... unless you are pioneering something completely new... the trail and error method will be the way you go and you acquire your goal by a process of elimination and adjustment. 

Thomas Alva Edison comes to mind at this point... he was not the inventor of the light bulb... yet it was he that took the idea and perfected a long lasting practical electric light bulb... it took him 9,999 attempts of HOW not to make a light bulb work until he got to the place of HOW to make a light bulb work in ONE attempt... the 10,000th. 

So you can learn HOW to change a electric fuse by a process of elimination which would be time and resource consuming.

2... You can obtain knowledge by researching and learning. 

You can learn how to change a fuse by reading the instructions from someone else who has learnt themselves how to do it... then apply that knowledge to do it yourself... it might take a few attempts before you get it right or you might do it first time... doing it this way you have cut down on the elimination process and saved your self time and resources by gaining knowledge which you apply to gain practical experience in a direct way.

3... Learning directly from someone who knows how to do it.

The most efficient option is learning from another person who has both the knowledge and experience of HOW to change a fuse in an electrical plug and educates you in HOW to change a fuse and shows you HOW to do it for yourself... it  is the FASTEST way of learning so you are able yourself to change a fuse in an electrical plug.

And what about those who answer...

"I do not know HOW to change a fuse in an electrical plug... I do not "know" HOW to do it?"

Then ask yourself this simple questions...

"HOW come and what BLOCKS you from learning/"

"Is there something in your belief system that stops you from LEARNING and knowing HOW to change a fuse in a plug?"

Is most often the lack of knowledge of HOW to do things that stops many people from going forward acquiring their goals and fulfilling their purpose... this simple little exercise demonstrates just how peoples beliefs and lack of KNOWLEDGE stops then from doing the most simple things in their lives that would benefit them greatly WHEN they make EFFECTIVE CHANGE to their beliefs and lack of knowledge that blocks them.

Key 5... WHEN are you going to do things that matter to you?

This is the call to ACTION question.

When are you going going to fulfil your PURPOSE?

When are you going to acquire your GOALS?

When are you going to take ACTION?

Now there is nothing wrong with planning to take action... yet when planning becomes the pursuit of everything has to be perfect... that is no longer planning it is called procrastination an excuse to AVOID taking ACTION!

There are many people in this world who are fulfilling their PURPOSE... working to acquire their GOALS where everything is not perfect... everything is not right... everything is not going smoothly... they face many challenges and obstacles and they experience the grip of fear deep in the pit of their stomach and they go ahead because they are motivated by their purpose to fulfil their mission to acquire their goals and know enough of HOW to do it.

And more importantly they are FOCUSED... PASSIONATE about their PURPOSE and are willing to learn and undertake what is needed to be done to fulfil their MISSION.

When I set up my business... I personally have now over 30 years experience and knowledge of Coaching... Mentoring... Counselling... Sexology and Fitness and I wanted to be my own Boss and in control of my own independence.

However when it come to marketing and selling and the Internet going beyond Facebook and the such like... I was a complete novice in many ways and I went through these questions with myself...


There are many reasons and the primary one for me is I wanted to be MASTER of my own life and build an International Coaching business... I really enjoy working with and helping other people build great lives for themselves.


I sat down and thought deeply on this question and looked at myself and my own skills set and what I needed to learn and where will I get the best information from and who to get the best information from and I could learn from that will help teach me? 


The planning and where I wanted to be in 5 years time and HOW I am going to make all this happen... targets... dates... goals and a lot more...  then I set the date I will go totally into business for myself and yes that was a scary moment and also totally exciting... the day I actually started working for myself... I felt I had taken full RESPONSIBILITY for my own life!

Yet even here people can get stuck even after doing the... 




They get stuck in the loop of ifs... buts and maybes and planning becomes procrastination and the excuse is... 

“Every thing has to be perfect?”

This is the time to be really HONEST with yourself and take a look at that old chestnut... your beliefs because somewhere in your belief system there is negative feedback loops running that are not congruent with your why... what and how  because these beliefs are blocking your WHEN?

And stopping you from taking the most crucial step of all... when everything comes together you take the ACTION to make it all happen... because without ACTION the actually DOING to make your goals will not HAPPEN... is just a mental excise and your goals will be nothing... nothing more than broken promises to yourself because you lacked the MOTIVATION to make it happen and GET IT DONE... are you going to that to yourself?

Because no one else is going to make your life happen for you... your relationships... your health... your fitness... your goals... plus all the rest... only you can do that... you see it is bigger than more money or having more in your life and have you heard the saying...

"Less is more?"

It is really about WHAT motivates you and the reason WHY... that gives you a purpose in life or if you like gives you life meaning?

What are you intended to do that makes a difference in the world? 

What are you intended to do that makes a difference in the lives of people around you? 

What are you intended to do that makes a difference in the lives of people you do not even know? 

What you intend to do that makes a DIFFERENCE in YOUR Life?

What is your PURPOSE in life?

Your motivation comes from within you and your reasons WHY inspire you from the inside... too many people wait to work on their Big Reasons Why because many people have no idea of what they truly desire for themselves? 

I suggest that you decide what your Big Reasons Why is and begin working on them right now by being involved and being committed to something other than just yourself.

What you will find is that bringing your Big Reasons Why into your actions now... all of your other goals will come about more easily for you and to experience this and prove it to yourself you must first do it.

And here is a big hint for you... your right now and the actions you take right now... creates your future... creates your tomorrow... so be involved... be committed... be motivated... be your Big Reasons Why... NOW!

If you are feeling stuck... frustrated and unhappy with the way things are in your life... you are struggling to move forward... remember the fuse in the plug... you can struggle on finding out as you go along blowing up many fuses or you can search and find the correct information you need... which is helpful as we all need information on how to do things... it is just finding and knowing which is the best information to help us do things in a simple and effective way. 

Or the very best way is for you to get expert help from a professional who will show you how to change the fuse and provide you with ALL the information and support you need you need for now and in the future... so you will always be able to change the fuse when it blows and get the power back on or you could sit there frustrated with a busted fuse and no power!

The CHOICE is yours to make.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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