Prevention Is Far More Productive Than Cure In Acquiring Your Goals

By Ange Fonce


What if... despite your persistent efforts... your find you are "underperforming"... what are your choices?

The best long term choice is "prevention"... ideally preventing “underperformance” should be set before you actually start your goal or project... that is when you need to “think carefully” about what you expect from yourself and spell it out in a “detailed written description”... you also need to spell out how your own “performance” will be measured.

Regular “personal review and reflection” on yourself and your performance... will prevent small problems and “self sabotaging behaviours” from developing into big ones and can help you feel more “confident and secure”... in yourself... when you regularly “hit”... your “performance targets” for your goals and projects... you are monitoring your own “self discipline”... and "motivation"... and identifying... if and where you are “procrastinating.” 

When you are not sure whether you are “progressing”... in your goals and projects... you are likely to feel "anxious" and “beat up” on your self... which is actually the worst thing to do to yourself... you need to create “clear boundaries” and have “clear instructions” of the “standards”... you set for yourself... and that means taking “responsibility” for the "quality" of your own work....communications... and relationships.”


Being Brain Friendly To Yourself...

Everything you “think... feel” and do starts with the brain... from an evolutionary point of view... the brain works on one “key motivating principle”... SURVIVAL... to minimise “danger” and maximise “reward”... – and, if your “personality behavioural style”... takes this into account... you have a much greater “opportunity”... of keeping your self “motivated”.... and acquiring your goals and completing your projects.

To often men and women set themselves goals and projects and fail... not understanding that the “one hat fits all approach”... does not work for everyone... your “personality behavioural  style”... has a HUGE impact on the level of “success” you will acquire and enjoy in your life... those who appreciate the kinds of behaviours that provoke a “reward or threat response”... and act to adjust their “personality behavioural style”... accordingly... are far more likely to be “productive”... and "effective" in acquiring their goals and completing their projects... and living a “successful... wealth building”... life style! 

Research suggests there are "five social needs" that when addressed... will help you when you employ them  in your ever day life... the acronym CARER makes them easy to remember.

Certainty... providing clarity and transparency to leave little doubt 

Autonomy... providing choices where appropriate

Relatedness... getting on with people around you

Equity... treating people fairly

Reputation... maintaining and elevating status

They all interact so... for example... 

You are a “perfectionist” and you “micromanage” everything you do... this has the “effect” of “undermining” your “trust” and “confidence” in your own  abilities and autonomy... reputation and equity... which creates a “multiplying effect” in everything you do... this type of “personality behaviour style” will lead you to “feel uncertain” about your work and yourself... because you or your work... will never “be good enough”... because it is never “perfect.” 

Perfectionist are the worst of “procrastinators” and are rarely “successful” in acquiring any of their goals and completing their projects... because their “personality behaviour style” constantly "sabotages" them. 


Round Pegs In Round Holes...

You are far more likely to perform well when you are operating within your “personality behavioural zone”... if you are a “people person” sitting in front of a computer all day with no human interaction... you will probably end up “frustrated... miserable”... and “ineffective”... and if your “personality behavioural style” is  someone who is naturally reserved and task­ orientated... you are not necessarily going to be good at “people skills” and working with other people... while working alone and being on task will suit your “personality behavioural style."

The DISC... Dominance... Influence... Steadiness... and Conscientiousness... "behavioural styles assessment"... which can be done online or face to face... is a quick and simple way of “gaining insight” into your  likely “behaviour” in a “particular context”... this could provide an “indication” of where you are most likely to work effectively and productively.

If you complete the assessment yourself it could also help you to “understand “your own “behaviour style”... and of others around you... alerting you to where you are most likely to “sabotage” yourself... and people you may clash with. 

Awareness of  different “behavioural styles”... awareness of your own “personal behavioural style”... coupled with practice... can help you to become more flexible and able to modify your own “personal behavioural style”... to become more “effective”... and “successful” in acquiring your own “personal  goals” and completing your “personal projects”... plus you are better able to match other peoples “personality behavioural styles”...  when you have “agreement goals and projects” to work on.... you will be surprised how effective this can be.


The End Of The Road...

Sometimes... despite your best efforts... an issue cannot be resolved... if someone has deeply entrenched beliefs... about an “agreement goal or project”... that you are working on... you could face an upward battle to “change” their “mindset”... and you have to employ a different skill set of “persuasion and influence” to bring them along side to your way of “thinking.” 

And there are times when you have to face the “fact”... other people may simply not be a "good fit" for what you want to “acquire” and "achieve"...  in this case... giving and seeking "regular feedback" and "discussing problems" as they arise... there is a good possibility that the other person will realise the role is not for them... thank you for the opportunity... and leave on good terms.


Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth!

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