Negative Barriers To Positive Sexual Communication 

By Ange Fonce

Why is it hard to for many men and women to openly talk about "sexing?"

Everyone has a hard time talking about "sexing" at one time or another... whether it is answering a question about "sexing" from your children... talking with your partner about a "sexing issue"... or asking your doctor a medical sex question... "sexing talk" can feel anywhere from awkward to impossible.

And keeping silent about "sexing" keeps us ignorant and potentially leads to "negative sexing health" outcomes... which could be anything from just having "unsatisfactory sexing" to acquiring "sexually transmitted infections." 

Keeping silent about "sexing" also allows all of us to perpetuate "sexing myths" that are rarely "true" and sound accurate in the absence of honest and open "sexing communication"... and when you are looking to improve your "sexing communication" skills... consider these common obstacles to "positive sexing communication."

Sex Myths...

The lies we are told about "sexing" present a huge barrier to "positive sexing communication"... many "sexing myths" encourage you to think that to be a great lover you need to be a "mind reader"... and not open "sincere communicators." 

Communication is not always about "talking"... it is about "listening" too and I can safely say you that one of the keys to "great sexing" is an ability to "talk" about it... and "listen attentively" as well... I can also say that it is easier to learn to "talk" about "sexing" than it is to learn to "read minds."

Sexual Fear...

Often your own "personal fears" about "sexing"... such as fears of "sexual rejection"... making a fool of your self... disclosing politically or socially “inappropriate sexing desires"... present significant obstacles to "positive sexing communication." 

While such fears are often justified...  since we live in a culture of judge first and maybe find out afterwards... those men and women who do not maintain the status quo... are often harshly “socially” punished for it... make it very difficult for us to talk about "sexing" honestly with the people around us... in case such punishments happen to us.

Negative Thinking About Sex...

With very few exceptions... we are all raised with some "negative hang ups” about ”sexing"... these can be very personal... being told your body is ugly... dirty... or should only be used for procreation. 

And the more universal "negative message"... that "sexing" is bad... often leads to being branded as immoral... and that people who enjoy "sexing" end up single... depressed... etc. 

This kind of ignorant and misinformed “thinking”... can act as a strong deterrent to "talking" about "sexing"... when you get two people who each have their own "negative sexing thinking" and hang ups... the potential for serious "sexing miscommunication" multiplies.

Lack Of Sexing Information...

To talk about "sexing"... it helps to have at least some good basic and "informed sexing information"... unfortunately a lack of "comprehensive sexing education" means most of men and women do not even have accurate basic information... and this presents another barrier to "good sexing communication." 

It is hard to know where to start a conversation about "sexing" when you have no context within which to begin... lacking "basic sexing information" also makes talking about "sexing" all the more scary... which ties into the fear... myths... and negative thinking about "sexing"... as mentioned above.

Sexual Vocabulary...

So many of us grow up without "accurate sexing vocabulary"... children are rarely taught the correct names for genitalia... and this extends to "sexing behaviours"... orientations... and identities as they get older. 

This is changing with the amount of "sexual" content online and in mainstream media... and there are still people who find it hard to talk about "sexing" because they do not know the words to express what they want to say. 

Having a basic "sexing vocabulary" can make it easier to talk about "sexing"... it can also be reassuring to discover that there are words for "how" we "feel"... and that others share these "feelings" and experiences.


We are told that "sexing" is private... and it follows that you need privacy to talk about "sexing"... yet many men and women mainly lack privacy... and so your "sexing communication" suffers for it... whether you live in a group home and cannot lock your door... or you have kids... thin walls... and not enough money for babysitting... being concerned about outsiders overhearing your conversation makes talking about "sexing" that much harder. 

In reality... most people just adapt and learn to make the best of the privacy they can find... and if you can carve out privacy both in terms of space and time... it will make your "sexing communication" go a little bit smoother.


One of the reasons talking about "sexing" can feel threatening is that you are putting yourself “out there”... in some way. 

For this reason... "positive sexual communication" usually means having a clear sense of "personal boundaries"... without them... you may disclose more than you are comfortable with or even take more responsibility for the person you are talking to than you really should. 

Developing boundaries is not something that happens over night... and it often is a process of pushing the boundaries to get a sense of what you are and are not comfortable with. 

And... open and sincere  "sexing communication" should never "feel" like it goes too far over the line.

What are your thoughts "sexing communication?"

I would like to hear from you.

And practically speaking... that completes my conversation for this article.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own "life" and "wealth!" 


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