ove Sickness A Simple Way To Help You To Deal With Obsession

By Ange Fonce

Have you ever felt completely obsessed by a person and do not know what to do?

Obsession... where you cannot eat... sleep or look at a phone or social profile without thinking about them?

Where you spend most of your time trying to figure out what went wrong or why they have not called or why they are all of a sudden so distant?

Most of my clients have been through that sometimes over and over again and I remember that feeling myself of dread in my stomach over a woman and it just makes you feel like you are back in high school?

Like your hormones seem to have complete control over your body and your mind and you are just living off of the crumbs they have given you or what you remember they once gave you?

It does not have to be like that.

Just because you are sensitive... kind and caring does not mean you have to give yourself up to keep your partner in fact it is just the opposite.

You keep your partner always moving toward you by reducing their importance in your life... sounds easy I know there is a way to make this change for yourself that is not hard work or painful... it just takes a step by step approach and you have to know the steps.

I remember a woman taking over so many of my thoughts that it seemed like she was taking over my life and I remember that happening over and over again like a record I could not turn off and I felt humiliated... frustrated and why was this keep happening to me?

And when I did figure it out the record stopped and the women who showed up were completely different than those women I had been so hung up on and if I can do this so can you... even if you have never had a full blown obsession with a man or woman where you can barely imagine living without them and always live in fear of them breaking up with you.

Here is a simple and effective tool to help you get started so let us start using this tool by me asking you some questions?

Have you ever run your schedule around them?

Made your plans around them?

Watched what you said and did not say around them? 

Wanted to make them happy and make them love you so much that you forgot how to just be yourself?

Thought their moods were your fault? 

Thought when they withdrew that what you needed to do was be nicer and more loving?

Well the first thing to do that will work the fastest to reduce the importance of that person in your life even if they are THE most important thing... I do not want you to allow them to become the ONLY important thing... is to stop doing all of the above.

That means... 

No scheduling around them. 

No making plans around them. 

No watching what you say and do not say. 

No trying to make them happy or make them love you. 

No nice and no understanding when something they do or does not do makes YOU unhappy.

The second thing is to get something else IMPORTANT into your life and that would be YOU.

Here is how it works.

First Step 

You look out a window and imagine what it is that you love aside from them.

Imagine the love in your heart all that energy and passion going out the window to that thing you love doing. 

It might be painting or the beach or giving to those less fortunate or helping people in your special and unique way.

These two steps sound easy and they are if you are willing to put your FOCUS back on yourself because before you can make any kind of change you have to want to transform yourself.

And it is hard to want something you have never seen or done before except with things you do not care about and it is hard to trust if you have never seen it work and that it WILL work.

And yet I have seen it work brilliantly in my own life and in the lives of others and my clients.

It works and you will not be the one man or woman it does not work for and no matter how unusual you think you are... no matter how low your personal esteem... no matter how scattered your thoughts or how negative you feel right at this moment it will work with the investment of time and effort on your part.

Now let us work with this tool to help you with obsession...

As soon as you stop doing all the people pleasing behaviours you have been doing you will see two things happen...

One your man or woman or the person emailing you or the person you are meeting for the first time will sit up and notice that YOU are a Confident person!

They will notice you are calm because you will probably be the first man or woman they have met who does not need to think about how they are doing before thinking about how you are doing!

They will notice that there is absolutely no pressure in being with you.

They will notice that you TRUST them enough to be yourself instead of wondering and caring what they think about you.

And it will be such a relief... such a powerful mysteriously sexy thing for them to be with a man or woman who has boundaries for themselves first and you will see their energy come toward you in a different way than you are used to.

Instead of working hard to get their interest and instead of working at being smart... clever... charming and appealing you will be shocked to notice they will think YOU ARE smart... intelligent... charming... appealing and sexy being your Confident natural self.

You are relaxed and in turn they will relax and that is only step one.

Step Two 

Lets you come alive with the passion you feel for YOUR OWN interests.

They get to be around while you share your feelings and thoughts about small things... yes small talk in a positive context which really does serve a purpose of breaking the ice... like the weather... the restaurant atmosphere... the trip you took last year and almost immediately they start to feel that.. 

"Here is a man or woman with EMOTIONAL DEPTH!"

And they lean in toward you and they listen to you and they asks questions and then when you gently toss the ball back to them with a... 

"And how about you?" 

They have started to feel comfortable with you and tell you things and because you are so not caring about impressing them with talking all about you to people please and show how you understand and hear everything they say if it is interesting right? 

You are able to just lean back and listen and BE THERE with them because most people are so unused to any man or woman JUST BEING there instead of always doing around them all the time and you completely capture their attention and energy because you are GIVING them your ATTENTION instead of trying to get their attention.

And this is how it works.

Even with just this simple bit of information you can start to turn around a relationship you are already in or completely change your love life.

These two steps will change your mind set and the way you think about being in a relationship and what you have to do to keep it going.

Let me know how this simple tool works for you and yes it is simple and very powerful and I look forward to hearing from you about it.

Here is a letter from Lizbeth who turned things around so fast from obsessing over a man and to direct love to herself and focusing on what she loves and likes she is amazed...

"Hi Ange, Maybe not even 5 minutes of me sending this message, Jim buzzed my apartment! He held me and told me how much he had missed me (the last time I saw him was Sunday two weeks ago) - What the?

Surprised, ...u-huh. I'm staring at this man with eyes as big as jumbo marshmallows and not knowing what to say. It was awesome!!! There was absolutely no tension, and it was like there was never any worries or problems between us. BUT I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!!!!!!! I don't get it I just started doing what I liked doing!!

Today he worked during the day and I just got home from working the evening shift. I didn't call nor did I feel the need to. Sigh. Big sigh. We are planning on seeing each other tomorrow, according to him. And I'm just going to let him do some the work. In the past, he would show up in the morning and we would go off and do his thing for the day.

Now all of a sudden things have become different and I can't help but feel really cautious about stuff since it seemed like such a 180 over night. Just like you said. Wow, unbelievable and what do I do to continue this. Nothing, right? 

Lizbeth... USA

If Lizbeth did it with just this simple tool you can too!

Let me know how things are going for you and I look forward to every success that happens for you.

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I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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