It Is The Second Impression That Really Counts

By Ange Fonce

Everyone knows that first impressions are important

As such almost everyone has already honed their appearance... smile and handshake. 

And often that means first impressions are all similar and forgettable.

What is not forgettable and indeed what defines you is the second impression

This takes place after the ritual greetings when the other person begins to assess who you really are.

Here is how to leave a great second impression.

1... Refer to something you read about the other person...

After the ritual of greeting and the trading of first impressions... there is usually an uncomfortable lull because well the ritual is over and now it is time to actually have a conversation.

Most people try to fill that lull either with idle chit chat about the weather or sports or if they are in the office of the other person they may remark on something in the office... like a family photo.

The problem with this approach is that it is entirely predictable which means that the second impression that you left is that you are boring and predictable.

What works much better is to make a remark or ask a question about something you read or know about the other person. 

The idea is to get the other person talking about him or herself.

This only works if you are genuinely curious about that aspect of the other person... so be certain to select a topic that would actually interest you.

2... Have a meaningful conversation...

The first substantive conversation that you have with the other person defines most of the second impression.  

Here is a quick summary...

  • Ask thoughtful questions.
  • Listen more than you talk.
  • Do not anticipate or interrupt.
  • Pause and think before responding.
Overall the best second impression that you can make is that you care about and respect the other person which is what having a meaningful conversation is all about.

3... Express gratitude then leave...

Finally... never outstay your welcome. 

You want to leave that first meeting with the other person wanting to or at least willing to have further conversations with you.

In other words... the reason you want to make a good second impression is so that you have the opportunity to make a third... fourth and fifth one.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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