Is Emotional Burnout And Living For Others Killing Your Love Life? 

By Ange Fonce

Have you been feeling overwhelmed and burned out from all the responsibilities and tasks you do day in and day out... so that you barely have any time or energy to put into taking care of “yourself” or figuring out what it is “you” need in order to feel fulfilled and happy... whether in your relationship... your career... or just in “life?”

It is very easy to let weeks... months and even “years” go by while you are busy checking off your daily to do lists and then wake up one day and ask yourself,

"Who am I... what am I doing with my life?"

 And then on top of it realize... 

"What happened to my LOVE LIFE?"

I hear this from men and women... they get into a relationship... they focus so much on trying to make it "work" or being what they think their partner wants them to be.

Or they get so totally busy with life's little details... that when the relationship finally ends and they are forced to look at what they really want out of life... they realize they had “lost" their way.

They stopped being their authentic selves and suppressed their dreams because they had spent years ignoring what it is their heart was really yearning to be... so when the relationship they were in ends... they begin to feel as if they are "waking up" to who they really are and what they want for themselves.

Here is an important question... does a relationship have to “end” in order for you to find yourself again?

Is there a way to stay in touch with who you are and what you really want and need in life... while staying in a relationship and making that relationship “work” to bring out your authentic self?

The answer is... “yes” there is.

I am going to share with you 3 simple tips.

3 Tips For Re Discovering "YOU" Again.

The question I want to ask you right now is... are you being as true to yourself right now as you can be?

Is your relationship with your partner the most passionate... connected and “honest” that it can be?

If you are not feeling as connected to your true and best self right now... I will give you some tips on how you can start "getting your groove back" and becoming a happier... more fulfilled person... no matter what is happening in your life right now.

No matter if you are in a relationship that works... or you are single... or if you are having issues in your relationship that are standing in the way of your happiness.

These tips will enable you to...

Wake up that youthful and playful man or woman you used to be... if you have "lost" your inner playfulness... you probably spend a lot of time feeling judgemental... pessimistic and tired in your head.

Getting back in touch with that playful part of you will allow you to enjoy life no matter what it is throwing your way... get what you want out of your relationships...  more honesty... more attention... more fun... more sharing.

Stop feeling “envious” of other men and women who have better bodies... better love lives... more money or less stress.

Are you ready to get back out there with 3 simple tips?

Great... here we go...

TIP Number 1... Stop Being So Serious... Have Fun...

Do you ever feel worried that you are not being the perfect friend... partner or lover?

Does worrying about whether or not you are doing things the “right way” way make you feel defensive and uptight about every little thing that does not go the way you think it should go?

These are symptoms of having lost your "inner self" and your ability to just “let go” and enjoy and accept yourself and your life for what it is... not for what you think it "should" be... when you take a deep breath and do something spontaneous for a change... it will open you up in ways you cannot even imagine.

Kick off your shoes and go running through the grass... dance with your child and spin them around until they are dizzy with laughter... there is lots you can do... to let go of all the "should's" in your life and just live in the moment.

Here is the problem with those "shoulds" by the way... they keep you from being true to who you really are... deep inside... because you are constantly worrying about what other people think... when you get stuck there too long... pretty soon you will start to feel like you do not know who you are or what will make you happy... so do something silly and spontaneous and do not worry about how you will look or what people will think... be your true self.

TIP Number 2... Give What You Are Yearning For...

Let us say you have not gone out with your friends in a long... long time and you feel disconnected... or maybe you and your partner has not made any special plans for what seems like weeks... and you are in a low energy rut in your relationship... or you are single and feeling pretty lonely and down and wish you could find a decent man or woman to share your time with.

Instead of complaining to yourself about how your friends are not calling you... or your partner is not being romantic or caring... or how hard it is to meet a man or woman... make it a point to actually start GIVING yourself the exact thing you want.

Call your friends and invite them to do something you enjoy doing together... plan a weekend getaway with your partner and surprise them with it... smile and be engaging to everyone you encounter in your day... the grocery store clerk... your co-workers... your boss... your neighbours and you will be amazed at how much less isolated and lonely you will feel... and the best part about “giving” what you want for yourself is that you get so much “more” back in the long run.

When you put yourself "in service" to others... by helping them... by really LISTENING instead of just talking... by offering your advice or talents to make their lives better and happier... you will begin to feel more fulfilled and valued... and happy... and you will begin to reap the rewards for all that positive energy immediately.

TIP Number 3:.. Take Responsibility For Your Life...

When you take care of your own needs and your own future... you will feel less envious of the people around you who you think have it easier and better than you have.

Here is something I have noticed about others... even about myself sometimes... the things that you “envy” in others are the things you know you are neglecting in your “own” life... your envy is a sign that you are denying that aspect of yourself and that you need to pay more attention to it and fix it in yourself.

For example...

If you seethe with self-righteousness and envy over every single well dressed... sexy man or woman who walks by you.. it is probably likely that you are not feeling so hot about yourself... maybe you know you have not put as much effort into your appearance and well being as you would have liked so instead of admitting that to yourself you feel a deep sense of negativity and envy for anyone you perceive as having it "more together" in that area.

The same can be said for things like wealth and success... if you envy someone's success... it is probably because you know you are not doing everything you can to create that personal success in your own life... you know you are not doing everything you could to make yourself happy... and it does not have to be all about money.

The key to feeling less envy and less negativity toward others is to BE HONEST about your shortcomings and then take responsibility for your own life to get things back on track.

So what do these 3 tips have in common?

They are all about refocusing your attention and energy away from the destructive... negative feelings and thought patterns that make you feel inauthentic and down about your life... and turning things around so that you get back in touch with that deeper... more powerful part of yourself so you can feel happier and less “stagnant.”

One of the “benefits” of learning how to get back in touch with your authentic self and accessing that "inner" man or woman... besides feeling better about yourself... is that it makes you more “attractive” and “confident"... and draws others to you.

You see...when it comes to being the kind of man or woman that members of the opposite and yes same sex really wants... simply "being nice" and accommodating... or being predictable and doing and saying the same things the same way every day... will quickly put you in the "your not the one" category in an other persons mind.

Now here is the scary part... once you fall into that category... you can get “stuck” in there forever.

You do not want a man or woman to think that they can find someone else who will make them feel the passion and excitement that they used to feel... and is not feeling any more.

You want to be the kind of man and woman who INSPIRES the deepest and most powerful feelings of love and devotion... simply through the things you do and say to keep them wondering and thinking about you.

You want to be the kind of man and woman who sparks the kind of emotions in others that they cannot help to adore yo... naturally and without a lot of effort.

No talking about “fixing” the relationship... no convincing them that it should be working better than it is... because it will just happen.

I want you to start using and applying these 3 Tips in your life... starting today!

A healthy relationship feels loving... easy... natural and fulfilling for you and the person you are with.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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