How Much Of A "Jerk" Are You? 7 Red Flag Behaviours Of Jerkitude."

By Ange Fonce

How do you "rate" in the world of "jerkitude?"

"They deserved it"...

Is usually the pained explanation you hear for behavior that strikes you as negative... unproductive negative...inhumane or counter productive. 

The "jerk"... is always happy to point a finger at the person they hurt... to cast blame on them for their own inexcusable behaviours and actions.

Jerkitude... is a habit... usually a learned one... it is tit for tat... the instinct to punish... to cover the persons own "insecurities" and lack of "social manners."

That is a very different posture than the one the "productive professional" and "socially mannered"... aware individual takes. 

They respond with...

"I choose to take actions that are effective." 

They choose a response designed to produce the productive... positive outcome they seek... actions that work... that produce the WIN WIN... they are "persuasive" and weld "influence"... 

While the "jerk" has learnt to be "effective"... in "jerkitude"... by being a selfish and "socially inept"... ill mannered... BULLY.

You can react or respond... as the saying goes...

"When you react to a medicine... that is a "negative" thing... when we respond it is working... and having a "positive"... effect."

When the world dumps something at your door... you can take the shortcut and "allow" yourself to react... you can point out that whatever you do is happening because the other side "deserved it"... your "tantrums" are okay in this analysis... because the other person made you do it... your justify to yourself to being okay... in "uber jerk" mode... in "jerkitude."

Or you can make the "choice" to respond... with "social manners"... and with something that works... with an approach you are "proud" of... proud of even after the moment has passed. 

It is not easy... in a world that is growing everyday in "jerkitude"... it is often not fun... yet it is the professional and "social mannered" and aware choice.

Unless you enjoy being a miserable "jerk"... in "jerkitude"...  it is useful to spot the "jerks" quickly... before you commit to anything with such a personality. 

Here Are 7 "Red flag" Behaviors That Signal Jerkitude. 

1... Badmouthing...

Only a jerk... and an insecure jerk... at that... would attempt to make him or herself... look better by disparaging and putting down others... this is a sure sign of "narcistic jerkitude."

2... Littering...

Anybody who throws something on the ground and expects somebody else to bend down and pick it up is automatically in... "inconsiderate jerkitude."

3... Rudeness...

Curtness to underlings and anyone else who "does not matter" is always a sign of deep seated... "arrogant jerkitude."

4... Under Tipping...

This is a BIG RED FLAG to watch out for... especially when you are starting to "socially court" someone on an "individual" bases... any person... male or female who does not tip at least 15 percent... regardless of service... lacks either a heart or a brain... either way... "selfish jerkitude."

5... Flashiness...

Jerks in their "jerkitude"... think showy watches... fancy cars... expensive office furniture set them above everyone else...  in fact... pricey accoutrements simply scream... "bling jerkitude!"

6... Profanity...

The occasional expletive is forgivable... we all get "passionate" at sometime or other about something... yet repeated use of the F69K bomb reveals anger at the world and fundamental disrespect to everyone listening around them... "angry jerkitude."

7... Aggressive Driving...

People who risk other peoples lives simply to shave a few seconds off their own schedule are "stupid jerks"...  and "dangerous" ones at that in their... "jerkitude."

So... how do you rate as a Jerk in the ever increasing "negative" world of... "jerkitude?"

Are you a "jerkitude star?"

Or... are you a "socially savvy"... well mannered and "aware"... individual... who contributes "positively" to us all?


Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth! 

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