How Do You Deal With The Challenge Of  Adversity? 

By Ange Fonce

"They have seen but half the universe who never have been shown the house of pain." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

The first “question” to be answered by any individual or any social group... facing a hazardous situation... is whether the crisis is to be met as a "challenge" with "strength" and a "purpose" of "action" or as an occasion for despair and inaction.

You can "think" about your problems in "positive" ways to "solve" them or you can worry about them... and there is a vast difference between the two.

Worry is "thinking" that has turned toxic and "negative."

It is jarring music that goes round and round and never comes to either climax or a conclusion.

Outcome Based Thinking works its way through problems to "conclusions" and "decisions" then "actions!"

Worry leaves you in a state of tensely suspended animation and inaction... when you worry... you go over the same ground endlessly and come out the same place you started and have gained nothing other than a waste of your "precious time" and energy.

Outcome Based Thinking makes "progress" from one place to another... worry remains static... you can tackle the problems of life and change worry into Outcome Based Thinking and anxiety into "focused action."

It is in the whole process of meeting and "solving problems" that your life has meaning.

Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between "success" and failure.

Problems call forth your "courage" and your "wisdom"... indeed they "create" your "courage" and your "wisdom"... it is only because of problems that we grow "mentally" and "emotionally"... it is through the pain of "confronting" and resolving "problems" that we learn.

We do not "succeed" in "changing things" according to our desire... yet gradually our desire "changes" and "evolves" as the situation that we want to change because the situation we are suffering was intolerable and becomes important.

We have not managed to surmount the obstacle... as we were absolutely determined to do... when we live our life with a Dynamic Purpose we find that life has taken us round it... led us past it... and then if we turn round to gaze at the remote past... we can barely catch sight of it... so imperceptible has it become...  as we are in a constant state of moving forward... growing in our awareness!

A long time ago it had seemed to me that life was about to begin... and yet there seemed always some obstacle in the way... something to be got through first... some unfinished business... time still to be served... a debt to be paid... then life would begin... until at last it dawned on me that these obstacles were actually part of my life!

Unfortunately... all is not beauty and peace in life... that is "reality" of living... I know I have never met a person who has not been challenged or wounded by something... difficulties present choices... we can either waste away from our wounds or use them to "grow" and "mature" our "minds"... both "psychologically" and "emotionally."

I will use my self here for example... as a young man I survived of a 400 feet fall down a rock face when I was climbing in Tramadoc in North Wales... i had my pelvis shattered and the bottom part of my spine crushed and various other fractures... I was told I would never be able to walk properly again and that I would be discharged from the Army.

I refused that idea... and instead worked dam hard once I was able to get up and move again to be able to walk again... within six months I was back playing football and within eight months back doing my passion in those days... mountaineering!

And I passed all the Army medical exams with flying colours and went back to my unit... they where amazed to see me!

No I did not do it alone... I had some truly wonderful people help me... because they saw my total "commitment... dedication" and "persistence" to "succeed"... I have always said that no one "succeeds" alone... we "succeed" through working and supporting another.

We live in a world in which the worst looks as if it is going to happen and the worst often does happen... and yet out of the anguish and waste... we "grow" into new forms of "love" and "trust" and develop "new skills" and "maturity" out of our "adversity."

I could have just accepted what happened to me and become a "victim" and used that traumatic moment in my life as an excuse to become "poor me"...  and I would more and likely be in a wheel chair now... crippled not only in body and in my "mind" too.

Instead I am "fit" and "healthy" in my body and have grown "dynamically" in "maturity" and in my "mind."

As Winston Churchill said...

"Never ever give up!"

And as I say..

"Problems have SOLUTIONS that require ACTIONS... invest "time" to "think" about the problem... seek solutions and solve the problem with taking proactive ACTION!"

Worrying is such a "waste of time" and energy and solves nothing and gains nothing. 

So instead of lying in that hospital bed worrying and feeling sorry for myself. I was thinking of "how and what will it take" so that I could get back to doing what I loved doing most.


And I never took "no" or "you cannot do this" for an answer...  and once the Doctors "understood" I was deadly serious... their "attitude changed" and all sorts of "help" come my way.

One thing I know about life...  you do nothing and nothing will happen for you... waste your time worrying and you waste your time living and going nowhere!

You move and act and in life... you half way and all sorts of "opportunities" then start to present themselves.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth! 


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