The BIG 3 Qualities A Man Will find
HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE in You as a Woman 

By Ange Fonce

Do you ever find that your boyfriend or husband does not "listen"... and that he does not "talk" much to you either?

Which leaves you to wonder... if he does not "talk" or "listen"... how in the world are you to have a "real relationship?"

Here is the thing... you can have a man be wanting to share more about how he “thinks” and “feels” with you... IF you know a few simple words that will really get through to him and make a difference... men actually do enjoy “connecting” and “sharing”...  only when they “feel inspired" to do so.

If you are tired of the UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT that comes from not “knowing” how the man in your life really feels and why he is so “disconnected”... and you would like to create a "deeper level" of CONNECTION and UNDERSTANDING... then it is time you knew “how” to be the one woman a man will love opening himself up to and listen with an open heart.

Okay... so lets us get on with you reading this article... read on...

There are 3 “critical elements” that you MUST HAVE between you and a man if you want a loving... lasting... and secure relationship... ready... here we go...


Element 1... An Intense Level Of Attraction...

Call it "chemistry"... call it a “spark”... call it whatever you like... if a man does not "feel it" for you when it comes to this chemistry and attraction... then NOTHING ELSE you say or do will matter... and I mean NOTHING ELSE matters.

You can try and say all the “right things”... you can “think” about him all the time... and you can do amazing things for him that no other woman could ever know to do for him in his life... yet if that gut level ATTRACTION is not there that tells him "deep down" inside that he HAS to be with you tonight and every other night... then there is not much you can do to change his mind or make him “feel” differently and really and truly want you... a man MUST feel a level of “attraction” for you that goes DEEPER than the “physical attraction” that quickly comes and goes and can seem so "real."

Unfortunately... lots of women make 2 mistakes when it comes to “attraction” with men that keep them from ever being able to get past those critical early “courting stages” where a man will become more “emotionally attached” and involved with a woman.

These 2 mistakes are...

Trying to get a mans “interest” and “attention” by using the fast... fun and easy approach to create “physical attraction” inside a man...which never does last. 

And not “knowing” how that "deeper level" of what I call "emotional attraction" works inside a mans “mind” that will make him want to “emotionally open up” and engage with you

These mistakes are the two most common and certain ways to make sure your “love life” will go nowhere fast with men... even when you have the best of intentions and just want to find a great man to love and love you back... there is a “simple truth” you need to “know”... if you do not know how “attraction” works for a man... and “how” it works differently than it works for most women... then you are going to end up running in circles trying to do what you “think” will work.

And in your attempts at getting a man to like you and want to be with you... you are going to end up pushing him away since he will see you as “desperate... needy... clingy” or just plain “overly emotional”... the worst part is... there are a lot of really great and smart women who actually “know” on a “conscious level” about these mistakes... yet they just cannot help make these same mistakes over and over anyway.

Yet some women seem to have a more “natural knack” for “talking” to men... getting their “interest”... and having men see them as "cool... attractive" and “desirable”... they have a way of being able to AVOID these mistakes and are NEVER seen as desperate... too needy or generally UNATTRACTIVE when it comes to “how” they act and “feel” on an “emotional level” around men.

The news is that you can become a "natural" at creating that deeper and more LASTING ATTRACTION with a man.. and here is how...

Element 2... Emotional Engagement...

I probably do not have to tell you that most men are not experts at seeking out and “understanding” your “feelings”... instead most men start to actually TUNE OUT the woman they are with when they start to sense or see a lot of “emotions” they do not “understand”... and most mens “natural response” is to withdraw from “intense emotions” that can lead to “conflict” with a woman.

Now... let me ask you... do you “know” what it is that makes a man “open up” and be “excited” to really LISTEN to you and UNDERSTAND what you are “feeling” and going through... instead of shutting down when he sees how you are “feeling” inside?

And do you “know” what makes a man see your “desire to talk” and “share your feelings” as evidence that you are “emotionally unhealthy” and the kind of woman who would only be more trouble and irritation than she is worth?

Here is something that might blow your “mind”... did you know that you can say the exact SAME THING to a man at different times... and you will get completely different responses from him?

And this is not just because of his mood... the “reality” is that there is one “significant thing” that makes all the difference in the world when it comes to how a man “sees... feels” and RESPONDS to the way you talk and share with him... and that is the level at which he is EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED with you when you are talking.

Let me explain...

One of the most common ways that women end up accidentally causing a man to “close off” and WITHDRAW from them is when a man does not “know” about... see... or “understand” what a women is going through and “feeling”... and then the woman gets MORE UPSET and frustrated with him at the fact that he does not seem to see or respond to her... and so SHE closes off... and this is called “emotional flooding” which fires off the “fight or flee” response in the brain for both men and women.

I know this is something you have experienced over and over with men... and made some of the same mistakes again and again in each situation... something happens between you and a man... and you get that ”feeling” in the pit of your stomach you just cannot ignore... you  “know” that something is "off" and not right... and it sends your "intuition" and your "imagination" running riot.

As the “flood of emotions” hit you and you FEEL what is going on throughout your body... you want the man to both “see” and “understand” why you would “feel” this way... and you want him to UNDERSTAND you and the way that you are “feeling”... of course this is not at all what most men are going through in their “emotional process”... he is often “thinking”... 

"I have NO IDEA why she is acting this way or what it is about and I do not like it... and it feels awful...  what is her problem... and why is she freaking out so much... what a nightmare... I want this to go away."

Long story short... what started off as a simple ”misunderstanding” and a situation where you simply did not feel great about “something in the moment”... and you wanted him to see it and respond... turned out to be something that caused a huge DISCONNECT between you two... and your “emotional experiences” led both you AND him to “feel distant” and “frustrated” with each other in a way that kept you from being able to be close and feel ENGAGED in your “feelings together.”

Of course... on the other hand... if you “know how” to COMMUNICATE with a man... and you “know how” to get him to LISTEN and RESPOND to you in a way that shows that he hears and APPRECIATES your feelings... then these entire situations actually become moments where you and a man GROW CLOSER and learn more amazing things about each other that build your “love” and “attraction.”
 
It is really in your hands to do this... so if you want to know a lot more about the process of Emotionally Engaging with him... then please do Contact Me and I will Coach you to help you learn these “deep methods” of Attraction to connect with a man!


Element 3...  Effortless Communication...

How hard is it to talk to your boyfriend or husband... is it harder than you would "like” it to be?

At the core of a “healthy relationship” is the “trust” and “understanding” by both partners that the other is going to “listen” with “patience” and “respect”... and that there is enough “trust” so that it is okay to “share the truth” of what is “really happening” in each others lives... if you do not have “open communication”... then by definition you do not have HONESTY... and if you do not have “honesty”... you do not have a “relationship” that you can count on as “secure... trustful” and “connected.”

Here is something that you might be going through if you are not “experiencing” the level of “open honesty” you know your relationship needs... do you ever sit there and realize that you and your man share less with each other than you probably share with your friends about how you are both “thinking” and “feeling inside”... are you ever scared to say what you REALLY think and feel to the man in your life?

And have you ever “found out” about things that are going on for the man that you are with and what is going on in “your relationship” from someone else who hardly knows him... is not a man supposed to be "closer"... more "open"... and more "honest" with you than anyone else about what is going on for him in his "relationship with you?"

The answer is... YES... he is... you are supposed to be able to be “closer” and more “open” and “honest” with the man in your life than with anyone else... and for lots of women... it just does not work this way... often times you as the girlfriend or wife... are the VERY LAST person to find out what is REALLY going on inside the mind of the man you are with... and it is enough to make you want to scream... not to mention the "embarrassment" that you "feel" realizing that everyone else might have known what was going on with him... just not you...and they just sat there and watched and said nothing... it can make you feel like a real fool... and you do not have to "feel" this way...  because you... and only you... have the “power” and the “responsibility” to "create your relationship" and make it what you want... especially if you are the one who is more "tuned in" to what might be a “communication problem” in your relationship.

Want to know something fascinating that makes life and relationships a whole lot easier?

Good communication "attracts" and inspires “good communication” in return... or to say it another way... if you are not having the kind of “open” and “honest connection” with your man that you want and need... then you have to start to “realise” that the only measure of “how” well YOU are “communicating” is the RESPONSE that you get.

It is tough to accept at first and it feels unfair when your man is not doing his part... yet once you take RESPONSIBILITY for bringing the right words and the right kind of talking and sharing into your relationship... your relationship will instantly shift all on its own... simply because you have brought more of what your relationship needs.

So here is the question...

Can you take 100% "responsibility" for the way you "communicate" to the man in your life?

Then here is "your opportunity" to turn it all around... because there is something I have learned in my life that I have made a “personal practice” of  myself... and that I have helped hundreds of women use to turn their love life around... and that is this one “simple thing”...

Taking 100% PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for creating the kind of COMMUNICATION you want and have in your relationship...  and Communication IS the RESPONSE you get.

Read that last part again... it could not be more important.

Communication IS the RESPONSE you get.

In other words... the thing that “really” and “truly” matters... if you “care” about having the kind of “understanding” and “emotional exchange” that you want... is helping the man you are “sharing” your “thoughts" and "emotions” with... actually "gets" what you are saying.

If you can do that and you “invest time” helping him “understand you”... then you are more likely to get the RESULT you want from sharing your “thoughts” and “feelings” in the first place... often the RESULT you are probably looking for is simply to "feel" you are UNDERSTOOD!

So let me ask you...

What do you think would happen if you “decided today” to take 100% responsibility for the way in which you “communicate” and “share” the “very thoughts” that sneak up on you and make you “feel frustrated” and upset?

Would he respond in a new and different way?

I think you would be surprised to find out how he would respond... and I KNOW you will like what you found... one of the “challenges” when you are in a "intense relationship" is that there is SO much “powerful emotional energy” happening inside you... that your “mind” ends up literally SWIMMING with ideas and emotions.

And because you know exactly “how” each of the things that is going on looks and feels for you inside your own head... you make the “terrible mistake” of “thinking” that with a few simple words in “conversation”... the person you are “experiencing” these “feelings with” will instantly "get it" and “understand” where you are coming from.

And that is the BIG mistake!

If you "think" about it and you are "honest"... even YOU do not “know” and “understand” all the “feelings... emotions” and “thoughts” that are going through your own head.

Point being... this “mistake" of "assuming” or “expecting” that a man will have an easy time “hearing” and “understanding you” if he would just stop and “listen” to you is made 10 times worse by the fact that men are not often trying to RELATE to what you are “thinking” and “feeling” anyway... instead "their mind" is somewhere else completely with their own "thoughts" and "feelings"... and not "focused" on "relating" and "understanding" you at that time... especially if you have not taken the time to ENGAGE HIM on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL to help him get in touch with his and your feelings.


What do men often do instead of relating to you and understanding you?

He will do what the vast majority of men will “natural” do... try to SOLVE the "problem" he think is is going on that is making you "feel things" so intensely in the first place... or he will be trying to get away from the "intense feelings" and "emotions" you are going through in the first place... because he does "not understand them" or he is not in the "mental" and "emotional place" to take them in and talk to you about them.

There is a METHOD about “how” to get a man in the “right mental” and “emotional place” where he will “naturally” want to “listen... share” and “connect” with you on a more “open emotional level.”

And that is by creating what I call Emotional Engagement with a man.

Doing this can be as simple as rubbing the back of a mans neck gently with your hands as he sinks into a “feeling” of “relaxed mental connection” and “emotional affection” with you that he will be "open" and "receptive" to your "suggestions"... or it can be as difficult as trying to explain to him over and over what is going on in “your relationship” that is “causing problems” and having him not want "to listen" or "talk to you" any more.

If you want to learn this “method” to creating this kind of Emotional Engagement with a man and do it quickly and any time you like simply by shifting a few small things about the way you actually “talk” and “communicate” with him... I can Coach you in all those hidden Communication Methods to “help” you build A Secure Relationship!

Those who have been coached by me have already learnt those “essential relationship skills” of “how” to Emotionally Engage a man and help him be a ”more responsive listener” and partner to you... and I know... the man in your life will be happy you did and thank you for it when "he feels more free and open and honest to talk to you and share more than he has ever been able to with any other woman"... and he will not know why... he will just love it that about you.

And practically speaking, that completes this conversation.
 
And remember....always leave a Man or a Woman all the better for knowing you! 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth!

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