Do You Meet People Where They Are At?

By Ange Fonce

One of the most important lessons that I learned as a youth worker was to meet people where they are at

That was always drilled into our heads and it did not make much sense until I got out working in the field.

I remember one of my earlier cases where my partner and I were working with a very young mother and her children and the kids had not been to the doctors for over a year. 

Which is not problematic except for the fact that one of the kids was complaining that his stomach hurt and the school nurse recommended that he be seen by a doctor. 

So my partner and I met with the mother and made a plan to have her call the doctors office first thing in the morning and get her son an appointment. 

When we checked in with her the next afternoon she had not made the appointment... when we asked why... she said that when she woke up that morning her phone had been cut off... she went on to explain that just about at the end of every month her phone cut off because she had used up all of her minutes and she had to wait until she had funds at the beginning of the month to get her phone back on. 

It is a lesson that I have never forgotten. 

Some of the things that we take for granted and do not give a second thought to are complete and utter roadblocks for others. 

So that afternoon we took the child to the doctors and with some medication he turned out to be just fine. 

What I learned was to ask better questions

So if a parent agreed to schedule an appointment for their child at the doctors office... I followed up with them. 

“Do you have a phone that you can use?” 

“If not... do you have access to a cell phone from a friend or relative?” 

“What will you do if you call the first time and you cannot get through?” 

Again very simple questions... yet I learned to take nothing for granted. 

And that is where “meeting people where they are at” means. 

Maybe you may have run into this problem in the past and never knew it. 

For example... 

Have you ever asked someone to do something simple for you only to be disappointed that it was never completed? 

It could be one of those situations where what you asked them to do in your mind was very simple... yet they ran into a roadblock that in their mind was insurmountable. 

Now this is not the only reason why you may not be able to get others to do things that you ask them to do... yet it probably plays a part in some of the examples. 

So remember what maybe quick and simple for you to do could be a major challenge for others to do.

And if you have asked other people to do things and find it is not getting done... first find out if there any problems that they are experiencing that blocks them from carrying out your request.

Find out where... they are at?

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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