Most people live lives of quiet desperation because they focus on things that they cannot control.
Like outside events, stuff that happened in the past and what other people are thinking.
As a result, they fail to focus on what they CAN control.
like your own thoughts, your own attitude, your own emotions, and your own behaviour.
Of these four things, by far the most important are your thoughts, because what you think about yourself and life largely determines how you feel (your attitude and emotions) and what actions you take (your resulting behaviour.)
In my view, there are eight personal ways of thinking that not only will propel you completely out of desperation and give you the emotional oomph to handle just about anything the world throws at you.
Here they are...
1. Today's success can breed tomorrow's failure if I let success make me complacent about staying motivated and moving forward.
2. I learn more from failure than from success... failure renews my humility, sharpens my objectivity and makes me more resilient.
3. Goals that contain the phrase "I'll try..." are self-defeating... I want goals that truly motivate me and I use phrases like "I will" and "I must."
4. What holds most people back is fear of failure, and if I do not take action, I will fail by default, so what have I got to lose?
5. What I say reinforces what I think, so if something is about to come out of my mouth that does not serve my purpose, I should simply keep my mouth shut.
6. I am responsible for my own happiness, so when other people are unkind to me, it reminds me to be kind to myself.
7. There are five powerful words that make even the most difficult situation easier to handle... these powerful words are... "Do not take it personally."
8. While there are situations (such as a death in the family) where strong emotions are appropriate, most of life's situations are not worth even an ounce of misery... so I focus on my happiness and not torture myself with misery.
How would your life be different if you stopped worrying about things you can not control and started focusing on the things you can?
Seize the day and take effective action on things you can change.
May You Enjoy a Beautiful day.
Ange Fonce
