Do You Know How To Flirt With A Woman?

By Ange Fonce

Most men I have worked with would consider flirting for themselves to be a odd topic for discussion. 

After all many men see flirting as something that women do... presumably just to pass the time and amuse themselves... they see the male role in courtship as being far more results oriented... picking up women and hopefully bedding them.

And so if you have considered flirting for men at all... you almost certainly think like most of your male competition... you approach courtship as an efficiency expert would approach a workplace process.

"How can I do more with less?"

"How can I cut steps out of the process?"

"How can I get from here to there more efficiently?"

"How can I close the deal more quickly?"

In other words they and possibly you are thinking of accelerated fast flirting and not genuine flirting where things move more slowly and seductively which women enjoy a lot more.

And here is the thing ... it is safe to say that men normally do not see a crystal clear connection between flirting for men and creating sexing tension in the seduction dance... and so many men consider flirting to be largely a waste of time and that is not a helpful attitude to have... as men who adopt that attitude also tend to never get to that sexing stage with a woman.

These two are strongly correlated... that is because women are the ones who choose who they are going sexing with... they determine who gets in and who does not... not unless you are paying certain women a wedge of money for that privilege and really you do not want to be doing that.

And to women flirting is a big deal in the dance of seduction and sexing... simply put...

"You cannot score if you do not play the game."

So let us consider why flirting for men matters so much by using a different metaphor with which you are much more familiar... 

Recruiting And Hiring

The last time you looked for a job was it a quick process? 

Probably not... it dragged on for quite a while and what is more the better the job... the more effort that the hiring company devoted to the recruiting and hiring process... right?

Here is a rough outline of how it all works...

The open position will either be publicized or in the case of the really high level positions passed on to a headhunter for more discreet recruiting... they will solicit résumés and accompanying cover letters.

Then they will weed the stack of résumés down to the most interesting 2% or 3%... after that they will schedule interviews... then they will follow up with more interviews for the "finalists" and finally they will check references before giving the green light to the winning candidate.

Job searches are similar to flirting dynamics.

That is quite a journey and to maximize your opportunities of success... you almost certainly started off by investing a lot of time perfecting your résumé and then you prepared for the subsequent interviews... you figured out how to dress for the occasion... what to say... what not to say... what mannerisms to adopt... what mannerisms to avoid and so on... you jumped through hoops one after the other... not because you really enjoyed it and who does? 

It is because that is the ritual required for you to land a good paying job with promotion potential... jumping through hoops and getting the job are a package deal and here is where you can apply lessons learned from job hunting to developing more effective flirting techniques for women looking for a new mate... the art of flirting for men is to her similar to recruiting and hiring.

After all there are likely many men who would be interested in bedding her and some would be better catches than others and she cannot bed them all and most women will not take all comers so she will also winnow down the list of applicants to a much more manageable size.

She will do that by flirting with men... that is because for women... flirting is a preliminary job interview which determines whether that man will move on to the next stage of courtship like an actual personal meet up between the two of them... so even though it may seem to you that flirting is just idle chit chat... it is not. 

What Will She Be Looking To Learn About You?

Many things such as...

Are you relaxed or uptight?

Are you confident  or timid?

Do you have a soft touch with people… or are you abrasive?

Do you seem comfortable around her… or do you seem afraid of her?

Do you seem empathetic… or do you seem self centered?

Do you seem like a fun guy… or are you a stick in the mud?

Do you seem focused …or are you drifting aimlessly?

How well educated are you?

What do you do for a living?

Are you already married or in a serious relationship?

While chatting with you about seemingly nothing important... she will be making her initial judgment as to how interesting and available you are... as well as how well you and she click.

Normally women will just ask you about your education... occupation and marital status and even there they will second guess you like are you wearing a wedding band? 

Is your skin color is slightly lighter where a wedding band would normally be worn... indicating that you do wear one and took it off recently so you can prowl?. 

Like a skilled detective women are looking for useful clues and they will not ask you directly about your fine qualities since they know that you will give whatever answer you think they are looking for... so instead they will try to figure those answers out themselves by observation... this is exactly the same process used by prospective employers in an actual job interview.

The bottom line here is that you will get better results with women if you take flirting for men seriously... so why not approach flirting as you would a job interview?

And be prepared!

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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