Do You Have A Judgement And Bias Problem?

By Ange Fonce

Most of us can agree that picking a great team or partner is one of the best ways to build a successful organization or project or a great relationship.

The problem is that we are terrible at it.

And we do the same thing when we met people and scan what we assume and think as their resumes.

Judging people by ethnic background... fraternity... gender or the kind of typeface they use.

Our beliefs and assumptions are a poor indicator of performance amd most of us use it anyway and constantly make mistakes.

Beliefs are not correlated with lifetime success or happiness and yet we push our kids to to seek them out.

And all that time on social networks still has not taught us not to judge people by their profile photos...

Most of all we now know that easy to measure skills are not nearly as important as the real skills that matter.

Everyone believes that other people are terrible at judging us and our potential and yet we go ahead and proudly judge others on the basis of a short interview or worse a long one. 

Even though the people we are selecting to be in our lives are not being in our lives for their ability to be interviewed.

The first step in getting better at prejudging is to stop PREJUDGING!

Try REASONED THINKING instead of blindly believing and making mistaken assumptions.

This takes guts because it feels like giving up control and the reality is we never really had control in the first place. 

Not if we have been obsessively measuring the wrong things all along.

Anger Distorts Our Thinking

When a person is always angry it is often a telltale sign that they secretly feel they are never good enough and they must use anger... exasperation and eye rolling to shield this painful inner wound.

And while anger is not a bad thing by itself it can quickly cross over into a pattern of unhealthy abuse of oneself and others especially when it is also accompanied by a single powerful factor... fear.

The fear that... 

“If I am EVER proven wrong or weak in any way then I will NOT be worthy of love.”

In other words... 

The Angry One has a powerful and deep seated feeling that he or she is loved only conditionally. 

That he or she will ONLY be worthy of love as a person if he or she is totally invulnerable... perfect and never wrong something which is impossible to attain... exhausting to pursue and ultimately leads to the further wounding of oneself and the people around you... your loving partner... family and even children.

How to Heal It

The key to truly healing this deep wound is not to suppress the harsh inner voice of anger and fear of loss of love or to forcibly numb it with alcohol... food or media.

And instead to try and rescue it. 

This forceful inner voice is actually an integral part of you a part of your deep inner self which has been cut off from you and it is wounded and in pain.

It is trying to come home to you and it needs your help.

So now get help!

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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