Do You Give Others The Power Of Choice?

By Ange Fonce

Have you ever met a person who is on you as soon as you meet them? 

They do not even give you an opportunity to breathe and they just sort of verbally throw up all over you without even giving you a chance to answer their questions. 

One of the keys to influence and persuade people is knowing how to establish trust and control at the same time and it does not matter if you are a salesperson or just meeting up with someone... this applies to human beings in general... so whether you are talking to a co worker... a loved one... a family member or someone you would like to court... the principles hold up regardless. 

So if you are trying to persuade someone to do something for you... see how you can give them some control in the decision making process... you give them the choice! 

Here is an example that you might be familiar with...

Have you ever had someone try to nail you down for a time to meet and they say something like... 

“Would Tuesday or Thursday at 2:00 pm be better for you?” 

Of course the assumption is that you want to meet with them in the first place... that is why instead of asking you... 

“Would you like to meet.” 

They trust the meeting will take place and rather focus on giving you a choice of what day you would like to meet and instead of using “if” you would like to meet... they are giving you the perception of a choice when in reality they are influencing you into choosing when you would like to meet. 

That is why going in the opposite direction can work so well at times. 

So instead of saying... 

“Would you like to meet on Tuesday or Thursday?” 

You could say something like this... 

“Listen to be perfectly honest I am not even sure if what I have is something that you are interested in... tell me what you are looking for and I will let you know if I think I can help you.” 

In this instance you are giving a lot of the control of the conversation to the listener... you are allowing them to speak and listening to what they say to see if there is a match of what they want to what you have to offer. 

It is different than what 95% of average people do when they are trying to influence and persuade people. 

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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