Confidence Is Attractive And Sexy For Both Men And Women


By Ange Fonce



Personal confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits... your perception of yourself as a man or a woman has an enormous impact on how other men and women perceive you... perception is reality... the more personal confidence more you have... the more likely it is you will succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting personal confidence can be beyond your control... there are a number of things you can consciously do to build personal confidence... by using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.





Building Your Self Confidence


1... Dress Sharp

Although clothes do not make the man or woman... they certainly affect the way you can feel about yourself... no one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are... when you do not look good it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people... use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance... in most cases... significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently... wearing clean clothes and being aware of good styles.

This does not mean you need to spend a lot on clothes... one great rule to follow is "spend twice as much buy half as much"... rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes... buy half as many and select high quality items... in long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes... buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2... Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a man or a woman  feels about them self is to examine how they walk... is it slow... tired... painful or is it energetic and purposeful? 

Men and women with confidence walk quickly... they have places to go... people to see and important work to do.... even if you are not in a hurry... you can increase your personal confidence by putting some pep in your step... walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.




3... Good Posture


Similarly... the way a man or woman carries them self tells a story... men and women with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of personal confidence... they are not enthusiastic about what they are doing and they do not consider themselves important. 

By practising good posture... you will automatically feel more confident... stand up straight... keep your head up and make eye contact... you will make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4... Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech... unfortunately... opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between... you can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. 

Write a 30... 60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals... then recite it in front of the mirror aloud... whenever you need a confidence boost.





5... Gratitude


When you focus too much on what you want... the mind creates reasons why you cannot have it... this leads you to dwell on your weaknesses... the best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude... set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. 

Recall your past successes... unique skills... loving relationships... and positive momentum... you will be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6... Compliment other people

When you think negatively about yourself... you often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip... to break this cycle of negativity get in the habit of praising other people... refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. 

In the process... you will become well liked and build personal confidence... by looking for the best in others you directly bring out the best in yourself.



7... Sit in the front row


In schools... offices and public assemblies around the world... there are men and women who constantly strive to sit at the back of the room... most men and women prefer the back because they are afraid of being noticed... this reflects a lack of personal confidence.

By deciding to sit in the front row you can get over this irrational fear and build your personal confidence... you will also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8... Speak up

During group discussions many men and women never speak up because they are afraid that other men and women will judge them for saying something stupid... they never approach another man or a woman for fear of being rejected.

This fear is not really justified... generally men and women are much more accepting than many men and women imagine... in fact most men and women are dealing with the exact same fears... by making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion... you will become a better public speaker... more confident in your own thoughts and recognized as a leader by your peers.

And most people will appreciate you for approaching them and talking to them... let us face it they are not aliens from another world!




9... Work out


Along the same lines as personal appearance... physical fitness has a huge effect on personal confidence... if you are out of shape you will feel insecure... unattractive and less energetic... by working out you improve your physical appearance... energize yourself and accomplish something positive. 

Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better... it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10... Focus on contribution

Too often you get caught up in your own desires... you focus too much on yourself and not enough on the needs of other people in your life... if you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you are making to the rest of the world... you will not worry as much about you own flaws.

This will increase your own personal confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency.

The more you contribute to the world the more you will be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

Do you have any other Confidence Boosters you can add to this list?

And that concludes my conversation with you for this article for Dynamic Lifers.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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