How To Change Someones Opinion Of You

By Ange Fonce

I have come to realize that there is a missing step that most people leave out when they are wanting to influence someone and if you miss this step then any influence you have is not as effective as it could be.
Here is the problem...  

When you try to influence someones opinion of you... they will still see you as the old you and that can be a problem especially if they were not too keen on you at first or a person they hardly noticed and all the persuasion in the world will not work unless you can change their opinion of you and create the like ability factor and most people do not know how to do this.
So here is a short and basic lesson... let me share a story with you...
There was a bad guy and he had just turned good.
The thing is people where not buying into it... they had booed him so long it was hard for them to cheer him... hard for people to see him as anything other than the bad guy he had always been.
Then he disappeared for a while and came back with a completely different look and way of conducting himself... everything about him was just different.
What I am not saying here is that you that you need an image overhaul if people have a negative opinion of you... what you need is something called a Pattern Interrupt.
We as humans engage in certain thought patterns and they are unconscious... it is almost like a continual program that is running inside our mind primed with certain expectations and that people have a certain pattern of thoughts when it comes to YOU and certain expectations.
Here is the key...  
If you want someone to change their opinion of you and ultimately build the like ability factor with you... you need to use a PATTERN INTERRUPT.
If you do not interrupt their thought pattern... be it a man or woman... they going to keep engaging in thoughts that lead them to think of you as the opinion and expectations they have labelled you with.
Going back to the good guy...  it was not enough for him to just stop cheating and beating up on people for them to accept he had changed his ways... he had to disappear and interrupt the pattern and come back with a different image.
What is the secret to a pattern interrupt?
Confusion and then the new information... confusion you may be asking now?
Yes... confusion.  
Here is how confusion comes into the picture... loss of certainty means open mindedness to what is present.
A pattern interrupt confuses their conditioned mind and in doing so gets their old though habits out of the way long enough for you to influence your new opinion in there.
The first step is to introduce confusion and this confusion can come in a variety of different ways.  
An unexpected outburst or reaction.

A disappearance... like the bad guy did to come back as the good guy.

A vague or confusing text message.

A startling piece of information 
Basically you need to create a big enough swerve in peoples conditioned thinking to leave him or her confused and give you enough time to influence the new opinion... the like ability factor you want others to have of you.

This combination is the closest to the secret sauce to do it.

As you have most likely worked out by now... there is a lot more to this secret sauce then the basic outline I have shared with you here.

Keep a look out for future articles where I will share with you about System 1 and System 2 thinking and what they are and how stress affects memory so you can effect a successful pattern interrupt.

Politicians... the media and marketeers are using this stuff on you all the time!

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Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer

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