Being Alone Is Bad For Your Health

By Ange Fonce

As a personal development coach, the issue of loneliness is one that comes up a lot.

The only remedy is a combination of getting out there, facing your fears, talking to new people, building memories, having adventures and cultivating friendships.

That said, we do not often talk about the subject of loneliness in detail. So, let us stop ignoring this issue and take it on.

It is a strange time in our culture. We have more convenience and more material wealth any people ever in history, yet we have fewer and fewer close relationships.

People at large are going out less and less.

Amazon has made it so that you no longer need to go to a bookstore or even the grocery store to get what you need.

Fast food chains that deliver to your door are posting record profits, while mum and dad diners are going out of business.

At the same time, many of the traditional social networks that existed in the past where you might find friendships, or a date are disappearing.

People are going to classes virtually. They are watching movies in their bedrooms.

Researchers thought that with the advent of the Internet that television viewership would decrease. It has not.

Instead we watch the same amount of TV and then we go online for an average of 3 hours a day on top of TV viewing.

In short, the modern lifestyle has created an environment in which it is easy to become isolated. With isolation comes a feeling of loneliness.

Loneliness is a growing epidemic in the developed world. Research shows that it affects millions of people. It is also quite bad for your health:

“The combination of toxic effects can impair cognitive performance, compromise the immune system, and increase the risk for vascular, inflammatory, and heart disease. Studies show that loneliness increases the risk for early death by 45 percent and the chance of developing dementia in later life by 64 percent. On the other hand, people who have strong ties to family and friends are as much as 50 percent less at risk of dying over any given period of time than those with fewer social connections.” (

I was the stereotypical nerd, with a room full of comic books, and a membership to an anime club, and my Dungeons & Dragons group.

Life was stagnant. Sure, I was having fun, yet daily life was becoming tedious because there was nothing new coming in – no new friends, no dates, just the same old stuff.

Then I met a social scentist called Cadar who could talk to anybody. And made friends everywhere she went and was constantly mixing it up in wild and unique social circles.

She showed me a side of life that I never knew existed.

Once I saw how easy it actually was to make new friends and meet new people, I was hooked.

The best part was that Cader looked at human interaction from a scientific perspective. He catalogued his interactions to learn what worked and what didn’t, tracking it like a scientist until the formula was perfected.

I learned from her – documenting my social interactions. The notes I took have forever changed the way I interact with people.

I did not just learn to talk to men and women. I learned to become a social human being, who made friends everywhere.

Eventually, I trianed to become a coach specialising in relationships and communicaton.

I ended up travelling and helping men and women in different countries get over their fears, helping to alleviate their loneliness.

Here I was, a nerd, outcast, and ordinary guy talking and laughing my way and making friends in different situations in different countries.

To say that social skills are valuable is quite an understatement. They literally can take you anywhere. They can help you make any dream you have for your life come true.

When I start with people we focus of building personal confidence because honestly that is what most people think is going to solve their loneliness problem.

It certainly helps in the short term, yet long term it is about meeting the right people.

You have to get over your fears and limiting beliefs.

You have to know how to navigate the social matrix.

This is about much more than talking to men and women, it is about talking to anyone, and knowing how to bring value to any interaction.

It is just that talking to someone who you are attracted to has a lot of anxiety built into it. I have noticed that most people who train with us and get used to approaching people they find attractive, suddenly become better at approaching anyone.

It is like playing a video game on hard, then going back and playing on easy.

If you can talk to members of the opposite sex that you find attractive, then you can talk to anybody without fear and you can know exactly how to engage them, be interesting, and keep them coming back for more.

Learning these skills with Cadar has literally changed every aspect of my life for the better. My friendships, life adventures, career, and my amazing friends – all of it came from hard work and practice, as well as the need to get out of my comfort zone and stay there.

Loneliness is an epidemic, yet it does not have to be.

It may be the world’s easiest epidemic to solve.

I will forever be thankful to Cadar for finding the solution that changed my life.

It is the thing I study, research and practice the most.

Social skills and personal communication.

Learning these crucial skills is life changing.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

Please comment.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving, Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Coach Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Personal Development Coach who works with those men and women who want to personally and powerfully develop their confidence, relationships, sexing, health and wealth!

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