Are You Wanting My Apathy? 

By Ange Fonce

"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." ~ Martin Luther King

Please do not "respond" to my emails... and "messages."

Please do be "defensive" when I offer a "suggestion" when we meet.

Please do "dumb down" what I do... so it appeals to your "lowest common denominator."

Please do "treat me" like I am am "stupid"... and like I do not "matter" in any way... or  more than anyone else.

Please put me on hold... and then "forget" I am there.

Please do not "miss me" if I am gone.

Please do maximize your "selfishness" and show no "respect" for me... and totally "focus" on "what is in it" for you... not what you can "give" and "share" and can make an "impact" with on me.

If you want me to be an "apathetic bystander"... and not "care" for you... it is not that "difficult" to accomplish.

If you want me to be to a "loyal fan"... and "promote" you... now that requires "real work" and showing to me that you do "actually care."

Or is your reply "whatever?"

Sometimes... words "speak louder" than "actions."

Imagine "how" surprising and effective it would be if a baby or infant said... 

"I am so hungry and scared... I feel like I might start to cry." 

Instead of "guessing" or "assuming" what the "problem" is... instead of finding ourselves "emotionally fraught" at all the screaming... we could get to the "underlying truth" of the "problem."

Or consider how easy it is to get "caught up" with someone elses "drama" who is "disrespectful" to others and who is so distraught he or she cannot see a way out of their "problem." 

I have been with people where the "actions" and the "emotions" were so loud it was difficult to "hear" what people are really wanting to "communicate."

It is easy to "react" and it "feels" justified to do so... "tit for tat" and... 

"I am not going to take this." 

And to "deescalate" through the "power of words" helps get to the "truth" far faster.

Commenting on the "emotions" that you are seeing is "different" than reflecting them back. 

Talking about what is happening "defuses" the tantrum that is just waiting to wreck the "connection" that could be become so "valuable." 

If the "goal" is "connection"... then "invest" the "time" to do the "work" to "connect" by "listening" and "communicating."

Just do not "assume" it will happen by some kind of "mystical magic!"

As always leave a man or woman all the "better" for "knowing" you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant and Sexologist... who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth!

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