Are You Taking Responsibility For Your Own Self Talk? 

By Ange Fonce

There is no more important and destructive criticism than... “negative self talk.”

There is no amount of “external validation” that can undo the constant drone of “negative internal criticism"... and “negative self talk” is constantly hungry and searching for “external corroboration”... one “negative little voice” in the ether that “agrees” with and “validates” your “negative internal critic” is enough to put you in a tailspin... of “self validating negative self talk.”

The remedy for “negative self talk” then... is not the search for unanimous praise from the outside world...  that is a fruitless journey... and one that destroys the work you do... because you will water it down in fear of that “outside negative critic”... that amplifies and gives “confirmation bias” to your own “internal negative critic.”

So What Is The Remedy? 

Accurate and “positive self talk”... endless amounts of it... so much so that your “negative self critic”... cannot get a word in... so much so that your “negative self critic” is "overwhelmed" and "drowned out" by your “positive self talk”... so much so that the “inside negative critic”... cannot even get to hear any “confirmation bias” from an “external corroboration” of an “outside negative critic.”

No... you do not use “delusional affirmations” or “silly metaphysical pronouncements” about the universe... your “internal negative critic” will just brush that off for the bullshit it is.

No... you use the “reassertion” of obvious “confirmable truths”... a mantra that drives away the nonsense the “internal negative critic”  is selling and conning you with as “truth.” 

You cannot “reason” with “internal negative critic” or somehow persuade it with "negative self talk" that the world disagrees.... all you can do is surround it with “positive self talk”... drown it out and overwhelm it with great BIG solid building blocks of “positive great work”... that discounts the “negative self talk”... with the combination of “persistence” and “possibility”... and “getting in done!”

Because nothing speaks louder than SUCCESS!

When in doubt... tell yourself the “truth”... and take “responsibility.”

Perhaps you have decided that the idea of “pick yourself“ is some sort of a “new age mantra”... some kind of promise that everyone is entitled to what they want... right now... what a shortcut it seems to be... and yet it is  a “false promise”... holding out to that illusion... that you can get what you want if you just raise your hand... pick yourself... just “do it”... and you win... nope... it does not work that way... it is precisely the opposite.

If you want to be “responsible” for making music... make music... first though you have to “learn”... HOW to make music... if you want to be “responsible” for writing... speaking... making “transformation” happen... then you have to “learn”... How to do that. 

Waiting to “get picked” is a form of hiding... and the “criticle inner critic”... with its “negative self talk”... is an expert at keeping you “hidden”... keep you waiting to be “picked”... and not the “positive realism”... of “learning”... HOW to do it and GET IT DONE!

No... it is not always possible for everyone to “succeed” by being the most popular to be “liked”... the most clicked on... to be ”picked”... in fact... it will never happen. 

No one is promising that you will be “liked” and “picked.”

Yet... “pick yourself”... can mean... that it has never been easier to “decide” to be “responsible” for your “own work”... for your “own agenda”... for your “own impact” you make in the world... to have and make the “opportunity” to matter! 

Not to be finished right now... waiting to be “picked”...  by starting “right now”... and “picking yourself”... and that means you are to stop waiting and whining and stalling and running yourself down... and “wasting your time”... with useless “negative self talk.”

Any outcome in Life is always in doubt... and there is only ONE absolute certainty that awaits ALL of us... Death... yet it is clear that “waiting” to be “picked”... and “negative self talk”... just does not pay... or “benefit” you in any way... that you can be “certain” off!

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth! 

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