Are You Interesting To Others?

By Ange Fonce

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ~ John Joseph Powell

That quote may seem a bit deep for a discussion on personal development yet follow me for a second…

Did you know that when you look into a mirror... you are not seeing your real self?

In fact you are seeing the opposite of yourself... the image in the mirror is flipped and your right side is actually your left side and vice versa... also the image is smaller than you in real life... the distance from the mirror is actually double that of what you see in the mirror.

That is why on your car mirror... like on my Saab it says... 

“Objects in mirror are closer than they appear.”

You see yourself one way and others see you differently.

We have been talking about deep inner game a lot lately in my recent articles as we have been going much deeper in our understanding of human psychology and of ourselves and it is clear at this point that without a solid understanding of yourself... you cannot expect to have great long term success in your life and relationships.

And that does not mean that your appearance does not matter because it matters a lot as to how you appear to others gives you a certain relative value.

Your value in a room is the sum of your looks... reputation... words and actions... the moment someone becomes aware of your existence... your value is being taken into account... when you have low value... you have to work twice as hard to get any attention.

When you have high value the attention naturally flows to you... it makes showing your real self and personality to others much easier... more natural and more satisfying and it is attractive... this is an important aspect of outer game that a lot of people are missing... you cannot take it personally... it is human nature... you do the same thing though you may not know it.

Here is another way to think about it...

Have you ever recorded your voice speaking?

Most people find that their voices sound different on the recording than what they hear in their head.

There is an exercise where simply cupping your hands over your ears lets you hear the actual sound of your voice...  it can be an enlightening experience and if you have ever spoken in front of a crowd you know that you have to be twice as loud and expressive as you think you need to be to hold peoples attention.

It feels completely unnatural at first to speak this way because you would never talk like that with your friends or your family…and as you get used to public speaking... you realize that you have to adjust your method of speaking to keep peoples attention in a large crowd.

It is not unnatural... it is just the way it is... it is actually neuro science.

The animal brain is programmed to ignore absolutely everything that is either not a life and death threat or is not interesting or different... it does this to preserve energy... your brain knows that it cannot possibly have a relationship with everyone in the world... or have success at everything so it limits itself to only those relationships that are absolutely necessary in that moment and what it needs to focus on to survive.

In that moment is the key phrase…

You may not be the most interesting person in the world yet in any given situation or moment you can become the most interesting man or woman in the room.

There are very specific techniques to tell peoples animal brains that they will pay attention to you.

You’ve probably heard of some of them before like Peacocking which visually triggers peoples brains to pay attention to you and do you know how they all work together?

Do you know the sequence of how to hold someones attention through all the aspects of a conversation?

Do you know which strategies to switch to when someone starts losing attention or when a friend or jealous idiot tries to interfere?

Yes Inner Game is essential to your success and happiness... I might even go so far as to say that you cannot live without it and what you show people externally also makes a huge difference and when you learn how to hold peoples attention you begin to develop a dynamic inner confidence that allows you to really be yourself.

There is nothing sexier to a man or woman than when you have the confidence to be authentically yourself with no hidden agendas or insecurities... that inner state is dynamic personal confidence... everything you do is a natural demonstration of higher value.

And it does not just happen...  it takes the investment of time to practice... it takes building your confidence by being the most interesting person in any conversation.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer

1... A person with a penchant for Science... creativity... books... writing... communication... fitness... women... sexing... sexuality... human relationships... psychology... physiology and any other area involving heavy use of the Intellect.

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