Are You Easily Hijacked By Your Emotions 

By Ange Fonce

I wanted to ask you a question in this article... so please keep reading after the question so you get what I am talking about. 


Okay... so here is the question... 

How long have you been cheating on your taxes? 

Now in all fairness I have no idea if you have been cheating on your taxes or not. 

Now here is the point... the question assumes a lot of information even though it is only 9 words long. 

It assumes that... 

1... You pay taxes. 

2... You have been cheating on your taxes. 

3... You have been cheating for some length of time. 

That is why when you ask someone a question like this... it can bring on a gut reaction of anger... what the person is reacting to is the underlying assumption of the idea of cheating on his or her taxes... not to mention the fact that the question implies that you are a cheater... it would make me mad too. 

Why do I even bring this up? 

Because this type of question can be very manipulative... and I want you to be aware of that so that you are not hijacked by your emotions if you are ever asked a question like this. 

Here is another loaded question that I often hear asked...

"How long have you been cheating on your spouse?" 

Again... once the question is asked... the idea was out there for everyone to hear... once the implication has been made... it is character assassination at its finest... and extremely manipulative... even if you are completely Innocent... the damage has been done. 

Now... not all assumptive questions are necessarily manipulative and negative. 

For example... I have asked a young man who I was working with... 

"So how long have you been fighting for the underdog?" 

When the young man... who incidentally had been in trouble for most of his life for fighting and causing havoc... looked at me like I was crazy... I went on to explain. 

"From everything that you told me about your parents... every time they fought at home you would do something to distract them and bring their attention off of the fight... when your dad was trying to hurt your mum... you went out of the house and threw a rock through the front window... your dad immediately stopped trying to hurt your mum and came after you.” 

Then I went on to identify a number of experiences that the young man had where it appeared that he was doing something "wrong" when in fact he was actually helping someone else... he has developed a pattern of using havoc as a means of distraction to stop other people he cared about being hurt. 

The young man... in that moment of clarity... was able to reinterpret a whole slew of things he had done in his past and reframe them as being "acts of protection" versus acts of delinquency. 

All from one simple question. 

So if you find yourself reacting with strong emotions to a question and you are not sure why... see what kind of underlying assumptions are being made. 

And trust your gut feeling about it. 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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