Are You Authoritative? 

 By Ange Fonce

One of the most powerful ways of "influencing" and "persuading" people is from a position of "authority." 

If you are the "authority"... then it is to be "expected" that you know what you are "talking about" and that people "listen" to you. 

So how do you go about becoming an "authority?" 

There are a some steps involved... and the first and most "important" step is not "chasing anyone." 

When you "chase" someone... or something it "automatically" puts you in an "inferior position." 

A position of "weakness"... or "neediness."  

Nothing will kill your positioning faster than being "needy." 

Trying to meet that attractive person across the bar? 

Act "needy" and see how fast they take off. 

Trying to close a business deal? 

Act like you desperately "need" their business and you will walk out without a deal or a check. 

Applying for a new job or new position in your company? 

Act like it is the last job on earth and your resume goes right to the bottom of the pile. 

When you act "desperately" you give off a "needy vibe" and people pick up on this... many times it is not even "conscious"... and "needy people" do not inspire "confidence" or "respect"... they inspire ... well ... "neediness." 

And nobody wants to take on a "needy" boyfriend... or girlfriend... or employee... or business partner... so how do you shift this "attitude" around so that you do not appear "needy?" 

You realize that you always have other "options." 

So when looking at that attractive person from across the room... you realize that he or she is just one out of many that you could approach. 

That takes the pressure off... and it is also usually true... unless you live in a village where there is only one member of the opposite sex. 

Interviewing for a new job... do not forget to ask what else they have to "offer" besides a great benefits package... or a good salary... or their health insurance plan. 

The attitude that you want to have... without sounding arrogant... is this... 

"Of all the places that I could choose to work... would you tell me why I should choose your company over company B or C?" 

You want them to "qualify" to you to some degree why you should consider them. 

There will be further "techniques" that will help to level the playing field in terms of appearing as an "authority"... in future posts. 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth!

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