Are You A Love And Sex Addict?
By Ange Fonce
Such men and women possess few healthy boundaries... if any at all... they become sexually involved and emotionally attached to other men and women without knowing them.
They fear abandonment and loneliness... returning time after time to painful and destructive relationships... concealing their dependency needs from themselves and others... while growing more isolated... alienated from friends and loved ones... even to the extent of becoming detached from themselves... living in a self created “fantasy” world of “love.”
They fear emotional and sexual deprivation... will compulsively pursue and involve themselves in one relationship after another... sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison at a time.
They confuse love with neediness... they confuse love with physical and sexual attraction and will manipulate others with pity and the need to rescue or be rescued.
They feel empty and incomplete when they are alone... even though they fear deep intimacy and real commitment...they will continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.
They sexualise and romanticise stress... guilt... loneliness... anger... shame... fear... envy and will use sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing care and support.
They use sex and emotional involvement to effectively emotionally blackmail others... manipulate and control them.
They become immobilized or seriously distracted by sexual obsessions and self created romantic fantasies.
They avoid responsibility for themselves by attaching themselves to other men and women who are emotionally unavailable.
They stay enslaved to emotional dependency... romantic intrigue or compulsive sexual activities and to avoid feeling vulnerable... they will retreat from all intimate involvement... mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.
They will assign magical qualities to others... they idealize and pursue them... then blame them for not fulfilling their fantasies and expectations.
They are obsessed with the “ideal” of love and fear the every day “reality” and “intimacy” of love.
Remind you of anyone you know?
May you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day.
Yours Sincerely
Ange is an Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth!
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