7 Tools For Building "POWER" Relationships
With Your Friends Workmates and Lovers 

By Ange Fonce

All “healthy relationships” include some levels of “trust” and “respect” and power relationships are a breed apart... "power relationships" are based on especially deep levels of "mutual respect" and "trust"... plus the ultimate personality power tool... "authenticity." 

Here are some tools to help you "create" the deep levels of "authenticity" found in power "relationships."

Power Tool 1...

Relaxation... the more comfortable you are around others... the more comfortable they will "feel" around you... it a natural human response to pull away from someone who appears nervous or uneasy... the best way to immediately build "communication rapport" is to smile and relax your body and especially your face. 

This may seem simple... yet it is very important. 

A genuine smile presents an open door to "communication."

Power Tool 2...

Power Listening... "effective communication" is far more than just talking... the real key is "effective listening"... and "power communicators" are those that "focus" on what the other person is saying... rather than worrying on "how" they will respond. 

If you have trouble "communicating" clearly with others... you may want to try the following "communication power tool":

Mirror their "thoughts" back to them... and ask them if you properly "understood" what they said... it is called "reflecting back."

The simplest way to do this is to "paraphrase" what they just said to you... and ask them if you properly "understood" what they meant.

Another good power tool is this...

As the other person speaks... pay close "attention" to their "expressions" and "body language"... try to pick up the "deeper emotions" revealed by their "speech patterns." 

This is the essence of one especially "powerful personal empowerment tool" from NLP... neuro linguistic programming.

Power Tool 3...

Provide Recognition... the words you use will either either strengthen or weaken "trust"... it is not always possible to consider the impact of your "emotions" and words before you speak... in a tough "emotion charged" situation... sometimes the best "response" is to hold your "reply" for a few seconds or minutes if possible... give yourself "time" to "think" and "consider" your reply before you respond.

One often overlooked and  "extremely valuable power tool" is the "compliment" of "appreciation."

People are hungry for "recognition." 

If you "compliment" someone for the "intelligence" and "insights" they have shared with you... you will encourage a "relationship" of mutual "trust" and "respect".

This is such a "powerful tool" it may amaze you.

Power Tool 4...

Provide Support... the ultimate "emotional" support tool is "empathy."

Empathy with Trust is the foundation of "power communication" and simply involves seeing from another persons "perspective" regardless of your own opinion or thinking. 

Is this easy?


Yet "genuine feelings" of "empathy" cement strong bonds of "trust"... let people "know" that you "respect" them as a person... offer "understanding" and encouragement in times of difficulty and you will build even stronger bonds of "trust."
Power Tool 5...

Be Authentic... being "authentic" with others basically involves "behaving" and "conducting" yourself with "integrity"... from your core... "authenticity" is simply acting in keeping with your own "values"... it means being "truly honest" with both yourself and others. 

In a "power relationship"... behaving "authentically" is based on being yourself... and avoiding acts that "create" false appearances... you "know" how easy it is to spot someone that is putting on an act... we all possess this "intuitive sense."

Being "authentic"... helps create deep levels of "mutual trust" and "true respect."
Power Tool 6...

Acknowledge Generously... look for and acknowledge other peoples "positive qualities." 

Appreciating their strengths and contributions builds strong bonds of "trust." 

And remember to "acknowledge" your most "important relationship"... the "relationship" with yourself... "recognize" your own "qualities"... and put them into "action."

You cannot form a "strong relationship" with others unless you have first done so with yourself! 

All "relationships" radiate out from our own "relationship" to our self.

Power Tool 7...

Take Action... build a "power relationship" with your own self and you will easily do so with others.

Ask yourself... 

What "thoughts" and "behaviours" will "attract" the kind of "relationships" you desire? 

What "one action" can you take today to "empower" your "current relationships?" 

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own "life" and "wealth!" 


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