7 Methods To Help You Have A Clear Mind

When Making Choices

By Ange Fonce

Do you practise The Art of Detachment? 

“You cannot take anything with you when you go.” 

Is a phrase we have all heard and at a deeper level this also means“nothing belongs to me and at an even deeper level it means the illusion that things do belong to us is what kills our happiness.

For most of us the practice of detachment goes against the grain of our conditioning... many resist the suggestion due to attachment that detachment is essential to awaken awareness and empower oneself.

Behind the resistance there is a perception that detachment is cold hearted approach to life or that it is a way of avoiding responsibility.

In this article I want to show you the opposite is true.

Only when you can release what you are attached to do you create the space for the new to be produced and only when you are detached in situations of crisis or chaos can you remain stable and be of service to others who are affected by the emotions that must follow all attachment.

You may ask me... 

"Ange how do you detach?"

How do you step back and create the space to think more clearly and be free of the many influences around you.

Here are seven methods to detach... each is useful depending on the situation and circumstances.

1... Change your relationship from possessor to trustee

Use when you get too attached to your possessions... remind yourself nothing actually belongs to you... you cannot own anything because all you have is bits of paper that say you own something.

However you are a trustee of everything in your life until the time comes for you to let it go or give to someone else to have it in their life!

2... Let go

Use when you are holding to a specific opinion or position... next time you find yourself in an argument disarm the other by simply saying... 

“I do not agree with you and I accept that is your point of view... tell me more so that I may understand why you see it that way.”

3... Practice giving and gratitude

Use when you recognize yourself to be always wanting... desiring something from others... when you want something you are already attached to the object of your desire... almost all of us learn this habit from the moment we are born... we are conditioned into wanting things and develop some rather nasty behaviours to get what we want... like... 

“Gimme gimme gimme I want it!” 

And we will use all sorts of emotional and psychological methods to get it.

Break this habit by consciously practicing giving that is free of any desire for anything in return.

4... Mentally rehearse different outcomes

Use when you are scared of change and you are attached to and comfortable with the way things are or when you are holding on to some form of self limitation like saying I can not... all the top performers in most sports now realise the power that comes from mental rehearsal or visualisation... so take a few minutes to visualise future changes as a preparation to embrace those changes when they do arrive and see yourself doing what you previously thought you could not.

5... Do not identify with the situation and outcome

Use in any process any time and anywhere in life... this simply means do not make your happiness or success dependent on something or someone outside your self... especially the results of yours or others actions... be happy whatever the outcome of anything and learn from the experience... your happiness is a choice and a decision... not a random experience or a dependency on others.

Be optimistic even when dealing with pessimistic situations and you will notice happiness arising naturally and you develop mental toughness.

6... Imagine someone else dealing with the situation... how would they deal with it?

Use when your attachment is obviously influencing your ability to interact calmly with others... take a moment to imagine how someone whose wisdom you respect would handle the situation... this loosens your grip on your way and your habits of reaction... if that person is nearby sit with them and ask them how they would respond.

7... Look at the situation through the eyes of the other party

Appropriate in all conflict situations... this forces you to mentally release your attachment to one point of view from your position and to generate understanding and empathy.

Ask... listen... ask... listen... ask... listen is the secret to understanding the others point of view. 

As you do you will see though the eyes of another and relate to their situation and free yourself in the process from being involved in the drama of others.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

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