4 MOTIVATIONAL Tips For Your Personal Development 

By Ange Fonce

Where do you get your motivation?

What motivates you?

Do you know "why" you do the things you do?

The success and self improvement industry is full of books... CDs... videos... training workshops and seminars on personal motivation... yet why are so many people not motivated to take action toward their goals when there is such an abundance of material?

What most of these programs never reveal... is that your motivation comes from within yourself

You create your motivation

You become motivated

You are motivated

Be motivated.

There are two KEY ingredients into developing your own motivation.

1... Be involved and totally committed 100% in what you do.

By taking constant action and being totally involved in those activities that bring you closer to acquiring your goals

Do not just sit on the sidelines and watch others... thinking about what you are going to do... get in the game and actively participate... and experience the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat and know that you will get up and get going after failures that will happen and move on to the next challenge and learn from your defeat to come back and win the next time so you can move forward.

2... Be Persistent And Focused.

Because persistence is critical to your success

Do not give up. 

Decide those things which you want to be involved in and then commit to them with your full awareness and focus to accomplish what you have set your mind to do. 

And follow through with consistent step by step action... making adjustments along the way if necessary... always being mindfully focused on your ultimate goal.

Being involved plus being committed... equals being motivated... and all three of these are an inside job.

Because the key to raising your levels of involvement... commitment and motivation is you have got to have your Big Reasons WHY?

1... What is your Big Reasons WHY?

Instead of believing in something … because you can believe in anything... it does not mean it is going to serve you in acquiring your goals... in fact your beliefs can be actually sabotaging you.

When you have a purpose a goal you want to acquire and the focus working on what you want to achieve... if your beliefs are not aligned with that purpose and focus... they will get in the way and block you... so you have to ask yourself this question...

“Why do I want this?”

Because when you ask yourself why you get to the root of your existence... as in why are you here in the first place? 

It is an opportunity to expose the things you believe in... those beliefs that block you... those self saboteurs and those beliefs that can serve you in your purpose and acquiring your goals.

When your purpose... goals and what you want to acquire in life are not aligned with your beliefs... you will suffer the constant frustration of failure as your very own belief system is working against you.

When you look as those people who are successful at what they do in life... their career... business and relationships... you will find their purpose... goals... values... beliefs all line up and are all working together and congruent with each other... they are totally FOCUSED on their PURPOSE with conviction and pursue their MISSION to FULFILL their goals!

So do you know your "why" and what your purpose is and why you are doing it?

2... WHAT are You doing things for?

When you ask yourself the question...

"What am I ACTUALLY doing with my life... what am I doing this for?"

You open up another line of thinking about you motivation and what is driving you... working from the outside in... most people know what they do or want to do in life... business or other ventures.

Yet few people actually ask themselves the question...

"What am I doing this for?"

"Is what I am actually doing serving me and helping me to grow as a person and acquire my goals in life?"

"Do I in fulfilling my purpose serve others and the Greater good?"

“What are my values or do I even KNOW my values?"

When you ask the what question... you are again exposing your beliefs to scrutiny and learning in what way your beliefs are affecting your behaviours... through your belief system you have developed behaviours and ways of thinking that can be self sabotaging and not congruent with your purpose... the goals your want to acquire and can even be in conflict with your values... this even extends to relationships with other people.

When you ask the what question?


"In what I am doing... is my BELIEFS and BEHAVIOURS actually serving me in my purpose... goals... values and relationships?"

3... HOW are you doing things to acquire your Goals and fulfil your purpose?

Most people also have some idea of how they do what they do or how they intend to do it... technically speaking... however for many people the how question is where they can get stuck and their belief system can completely block and fail them.

Lets use an example here... like a simple task of changing a fuse in an electrical plug... do you know HOW to change a fuse in a plug?

A lot of you will answer...

"Yes I know HOW to change a fuse in a plug."

And I will ask the question... 

"HOW did you learn to do this?"

Some will answer... 

"I learnt by trail and error... blew up a few fuses and suffered some electric shocks until I learnt HOW to do it."

Some will answer... 

"I learnt HOW by getting the information I needed to KNOW and changed the fuse."

Others will answer...

"I learnt HOW to change the fuse by getting someone else who knew HOW to do it... and have them show me HOW to do it."

Each of these 3 learning methods of HOW to change a fuse in a electrical plug all end up with a "positive" result... it is just that each method has a different time frame

The trail and error method takes the longest time and is the most wasteful... unless you are pioneering something completely new... the trail and error method will be the way you go and you acquire your goal by a process of elimination and adjustment

Thomas Alva Edison comes to mind here... he was not the inventor of the light bulb... yet  he took the idea and perfected a long lasting practical electric light bulb... it took him many attempts until he worked out and understood the HOW of  making the electric light bulb viable to be of practical use.

Learning from another person who knows HOW to change a fuse in an electrical plug... is the FASTEST and most efficient way... as you yourself can learn HOW to change a fuse in an electrical plug from someone who already knows HOW to do it.

And for those who answer...

"I don't know HOW to change a fuse in an electrical plug... I don't know HOW to do it?"

I will ask this simple question...

"HOW come yo do not know... what stops you from learning... is there something in your “belief system" that stops you from LEARNING and knowing HOW to change a fuse in a plug?

It is the same as asking this question... 

“Is there something that stops you from fulfilling your PURPOSE and acquiring your GOALS?”

Is most often the lack of knowledge of knowing HOW to do things... that stops most people from going forward acquiring their goals and fulfilling their purpose.

Imagine now the fuse has blown in a an electrical plug...  how would you go about changing the fuse in the plug?

4... WHEN are you going to do things that matter to you?

This is the "Call to ACTION" question...

When are you going going to fulfil your PURPOSE?

When are you going to acquire your GOALS?

When are you going to take ACTION?

Now there is nothing wrong with planning to take action... yet when planning becomes the pursuit of "everything has to be perfect"... that is no longer planning... it is called "procrastination"... an excuse to AVOID and not take ACTION!

There are many people in this world who are fulfilling their PURPOSE and working to acquire their GOALS where everything is not perfect... everything is not right... everything is not going smoothly... they face many challenges and obstacles... and they experience the grip of fear deep in the pit of their stomach... yet they go ahead because they are motivated by their purpose to fulfil their goals and know enough about HOW to do it.

And more importantly... they LOVE what they are doing... they are PASSIONATELY FOCUSED and CARE about their PURPOSE and are willing to learn and undertake what is needed to be done to fulfil their MISSION.

When I set up my business... I personally possess a lot of knowledge of Psycho Dynamic Coaching and Sexology... possessing over 25 years experience... yet that was working for other people and I wanted to be my own Boss and in CONTROL of my own Independence and FREEDOM!

However when it come to business... marketing... writing and fully understanding the Internet... I was a complete novice in many ways and I KNEW this is what I wanted to do... so I went through these questions with myself.


Because it was what I REALLY wanted to do... and by asking myself these questions... I set myself goals... developed a time and action plan and then put it into action.


What was I doing it for? 

There are many reasons... yet the primary one for me is I wanted to be in CONTROL of my own life and develop and build a Personal Development Academy both on line and in the real world and through this I would be doing something I really enjoy doing and that is working with people to to help and empower them to create and build great lives for themselves... which lead to the creation of Dynamic Life Development Systems and now I am working on developing the Personal Development Academy.


I sat down and thought deeply on this question... looked at myself and measured my own skill set and  looked at WHAT I needed to learn and  where will I get the information from and who could I learn from and help TEACH me? 

In my planning was the goal as to where I wanted to be in 5 years time and HOW I am going to make this all happen... targets... dates... resources... plus a whole lot more.


This was the BIG moment... when it all become REAL... when I set the date I would go totally into business for myself and yes I have to admit... that was a scary moment... to leave the hamster wheel...  yet it was also incredibly exciting... the day I actually started working for myself... I felt I had taken full RESPONSIBILITY for myself and I was FREE to create my own life... as I wanted it to be!

And I still have that excitement 9 years later and totally motivated to acquire all the goals I set myself... yet even here people can get stuck even after doing the... WHY... WHAT and HOW?

They get stuck at the WHEN... stuck in a loop of "ifs... buts and maybes"...  lots of "procrastination" because every thing has to be perfect and this is the time to be really HONEST with your self and take a look at that old chestnut... your beliefs... because somewhere in your belief system there is negative loops running that are not congruent with your why... what and how? 

Those beliefs are blocking your WHEN and stopping you from taking the most crucial step of all... the ACTION to make it all happen... because without the ACTION... the  actual DOING and GETTING IT DONE... everything else is just a mental exercise... because your goals will remain just that... mental fluff and nothing more.

So do not just waste your life away with mental fluff... be MOTIVATED to LIVE your life for REAL!

Will you do that... are you going to that?

Because no one else is going to make your life happen for you... only you can do that... you see it is bigger than more money the big house or diamonds and jewels the vacation trips or fancy cars... boats and planes. 

It is really about your purpose in life... what are you intended to do that makes a difference in the world... what are you intended to do that makes a difference in the lives of people around you... what are you intended to do that makes a difference in the lives of people you do not even know? 

What are your Big Reasons... your purpose in life... do you know?

Your motivation comes from within you... yet often your Big Reasons that inspire you often come from the outside world and too many people wait to work on their goals and projects until they acquire the outward appearances of success... yet why create an image of success when you can do the REAL DEAL?

To experience this and prove it to yourself... you must first do it... just like learning the laws of Nature that are new to you... learn what your Big Reasons are in your present and use them  to motivate you to create your future.

I suggest that you decide what your Big Reasons are right now and begin working on them right away by being involved and being committed  to something other than just yourself... because what you will find is that bringing your Big Reasons into your actions now... all of your other goals will come about more easily for you.

And here is a big pointer for you... your present creates your future... so be involved and focused in your present to be committed and motivated in creating your future... be your Big Reasons right NOW!

The CHOICE is yours to make.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely


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3... Ange is an Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 

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