20 Ways To Be A Failure In Acquiring Your Goals

By Ange Fonce 


Out with old year and in with the new year.

And you will be making yourself lot's of new "promises" for the year ahead.

Yet how many of those promises will you have kept for yourself?

First let me ask you a question...

How many of your promises or goals that you set yourself this year have you successfully acquiring or are acquiring for yourself?

All of them?

Some?

A few?

None even...

Oh, dear, what happened?

First let us have a look at... 




Success?

Whatever that word means to you, it is probably something you have been chasing for a while. 

By now, you have read about scrambling to the top of your career ladder, how to get the partner of your dreams, how to achieve your goals. You have mastered Getting Things Done, and learned every personal-development habit in the handbook.

And, let us face it, success is hard – and uncertain. 

It might mean putting in long hours. 

It might mean learning new skills or doing things that scare you. 

It might mean some uncertainty and discomfort.

Failure is much simpler. 

If you want to be a complete failure at everything you do, then read on...

I have got some easy-peasy steps for you.

Maybe you will recognize many of them yourself in what you are doing and if you are still set on being a big success? 

Read on anyway. 

Because you will know what to avoid and you get some SUCCESS Tips thrown in.

1... Chase Other People’s Dreams

The best way to be a complete failure is to get your definition of success utterly wrong from the start. 

Base your dreams on those your parents have for you, or on your friends ambitions. Decide that you, too, should want a 6 figure salary even if it means working 14 hour days. If you are really persistent, you will meet your goal - and then you will realize that it means nothing to you. 

After years of hard work, you will still have failed. 

Clever you.

2... Start To Many Projects And Finish None

If you want to be a failure, get great at starting things. 

An idea hits...

“I will start a blog about making money on the internet?” 

You jump straight into it and a few days later, you are bored. 

Another idea hits...

“I will take up martial arts and become a black-belt!” 

You get lessons. A week later, another idea hits... 

“I could play guitar in a rock band!” 

You buy all the equipment and after a month it is just stored away. Maybe later to be sold on ebay. 

Are you seeing a pattern? 

One great way to fail to ever meet your goal is to keep starting on new ones.

And never see anything you start through to completion.

3... Give Up When It Gets Tough

Most long-term goals have their tough patches. 

Sure, it is easy going at first, when your motivation is running high. And pretty soon, you will get bored, or tired, or fed-up. That is when being self disiplined and persistant comes in. 

If you want to be a complete failure, that first period of discomfort is the time to quit and you do not ever try to see something through to the end. 

It is just too much work.

4... Persist At All Costs

Of course, there is a more spectacular way to fail than by flaking out early on. 

Once you have started something, and do not even consider giving up. 

Your business has been floundering for months? 

Borrow more money to keep it afloat. 

You are writing a novel that bores you to tears? 

Do not give it - see it through to the bitter end. 

Rejected a dozen times by the man or woman you have been asking out? 

Keep pestering them. You are no quitter. 

Though you are well on the way to having a breakdown.

5... Never Ask For Help

To be a failure, you have to insist on doing everything alone. 

Do not ask for help. Struggle on with a far too heavy workload, because if you want a job doing right, you have to do it yourself. You should never admit to anything that smacks of weakness. 

And, of course, you would not dream of asking for directions.

6... Trample On Other People

One great way to fail in many areas, from relationships to friendships to work, is to treat other people like scum. 

If they are in the way of your goal, step right on top of them. 

If they ask you for anything, refuse point-blank. 

If they make a mistake, scream at them. 

If they disagree with you, sulk for a week. 

To really fail in life, you need to alienate everyone who might help, support or care about you.

7... Never Say No

If you are a bit too touchy-feely to crush heads underfoot on your descent into failure, then try this method instead... 

Always say “yes” to whatever you are asked to do. 

Your kid wants a present you cannot afford? 

Put it on your credit card. 

Your boss asks you to stay late and work Saturday? 

Be a martyr. 

Your community association needs a new secretary and they think you might like the job? 

Sure, you will do it. 

In fact, the only things you will say “no” to are your own goals and life.

8... Be Disorganized

To increase your chances of failure in any venture, make sure you are as disorganized about it as possible. 

Forget to invoice people who owe you money. 

Lose important documents. 

Turn up late, or in the wrong place, or ideally both. Do not bother keeping a diary or calendar. 

Make sure you never have any healthy food in the house, so you can resort to expensive and greasy takeouts yet again.

9... Stay In Your Comfort Zone

If you ever get the opportunity to do something new, avoid it at all costs. 

New things are often scary – and scary is no fun at all, right? 

Stay right inside your cozy comfort zone, and never stretch or challenge yourself. 

A big part of being a complete failure is making sure you never have the chance to realize what your full potential is ... let alone reach it.



10... Procrastinate

These are the blocks that can keep you stuck for months, years, or decades. 

Since we are all grown-up boys and girls, I can go ahead and spell out out. If you want to make progress, you have got to... 

"Get Off Your Ass."

11... Expecting That Doing Good Work Is Enough. 

You know it already, and you probably beat yourself up over it. 

You know what to do, yet you do not do it. 

You want to get started, and it does not happen. 

You have got the goal, yet you do not put the hours in.

12... Relying too much on speaking, writing, social media and other forms of communicating and not doing enough relationship building. 

Facebook is okay, yet it is not a substitute for engaging real people in conversation.

13... Giving Up Too Easily

These days, you need to work hard to break through the noise to get seen and heard if you want to succeed.

14... Communicating badly and not saying what you really mean and want to happen.

People pleasers, you know "exactly" what I am saying here.

Speak up and be the "authentic" you and stop trying to "please" every one and be the "nice guy - woman."

For crying out loud! 

15... Failing to project confidence in your ability to help others with his or her problem. 

Sure you do not want to over promise.

And people trust other people who deliver on what they say.

16... Projecting negativity 24/7

Trying seeing things from a different perspective.

A POSITIVE ONE!

17... Saving all those things you have to do for a rainy day. 

Try spending at least 60 minutes every day working on those things you REALLY need to do and not make excuses.

18... Expecting short term results. 

Stop looking for the "magic bullets" and "quick fixes."

They just do not work.

That is why they are called "magic!"

19... Failing to have a written plan. 

Putting your plan in writing is the best way to guarantee that you will stick to your plan.

20... Being a poor listener. 

Let others do 80 percent of the talking. 

That is the only way you are going to learn about the challenges they face-and and how you can help.

My final tip, before you get started on your lifetime of complete and utter failure, is to procrastinate. 

Put everything off till the last minute. Then put it off a bit longer. Then completely avoid everything. Not only will you fail. Your report/essay/tax return will be crap etc. 

Your procrastination techniques will be perfected – silly online games, rearranging the jars in the kitchen cupboard, watching paint dry. 

That way, you will fail to accomplish anything and you will fail to have any fun. Make sure you add in a good dose of guilt, too. You will also make yourself feel stressed.

These are just some ways to be a complete failure. I am sure there is a lot more! 

If you have got a good one, let me know because Failure is painful, right?

Not for successful people.
  
The most successful people in every field do not consider failure to be a particularly painful experience.

Because they think about it differently. Successful people transcend failure because of their confidence and esteem, rather than depending on whether they win or lose, is based upon their own sense of value.

Rather than taking failure seriously, they develop methods that allow them to capitalize upon negative feedback and turn it to their advantage.

Here for you negative thinkers and failures.

Run your eyes over this...



10 SUCCESSFUL Rules To Live By


Therefore, if you are really committed to being successful and acquiring your goals.

You will mothball that "failure=pain" nonsense. 

Instead, adopt all of the following thoughts...

1... Failure renews my humility, sharpens my objectivity, and makes me more resilient.

2... I take the challenge seriously, but I do not take myself too seriously.

3... If the more I fail, the more I succeed, then failure is a part of the process of achieving my objectives.

4... Failure is temporary when I use it as an opportunity to try new ideas.

5... I learn more from failure than success.

6... Negative feedback is information that helps me correct my course so that I stay on target.

7... I am paid for the number of times I fail.

8... My personal-esteem is not based on the reactions of others and by my own sense of virtue.

9... The unkindness of others reminds me that I need to be kind to myself.

10... It takes courage to fail–because nobody ever got ahead without taking risks.

The first step to becoming more successful is changing the way you think about failure.

I view "failure" as a "learning" process to grow towards success.

Thomas Edison knows 999 ways of how not to make a light bulb work. He knows one way to make a light work SUCCESSFULLY!  Without those "failures" he would never have SUCCEEDED! 

I am committed to what I have been calling...DYNAMIC CONFIDENCE. I coach about developing dynamic personal confidence and esteem as one very powerful way to cultivate and build a GREAT LIFE for yourself, through Dynamic Life Development Systems Personal Development Academy. 

I am committed to the possibility of you really "getting" to be yourself. And acquiring what you WANT out of life. I do not go with the view that you need to hide any aspect of yourself, your truth, and who you really are in the world.

When you cultivate the courage to really BE yourself, AUTHENTIC and say and do what you mean. To your friends, your family, your boss, and your lover, you become incredibly POWERFUL in your life. The secret to this is being ready and willing to ACCEPT yourself and others, regardless of whether or not they agree with your perspective on what is "right" or "wrong".

I have seen over and over again that this is the master key to...

General happiness and contentment with life and being the SUCCESS You want to be!

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperious and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




Ange Fonce

1... A person with a penchant for Science... creativity... books... writing... communication... fitness... women... sexing... sexuality... human relationships... psychology... physiology and any other area involving heavy use of the Intellect.

2... A bright person and glamorously Intelligent!

3... Ange is an Author... Speaker and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant and Coaching Psychologist... Sexologist and Multipreneur who works with those men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become creators of their own life, relationships and wealth! 

4... As ever always leave a man or a woman all the better for knowing you. 

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