10 Habits of Personal Charisma And Influence 


By Ange Fonce


Charisma do you help other people to shine and feel great about themselves?

Some people instantly make us feel important... some people instantly make us feel special... some people light up a room just by walking in.

You cannot always define it some people have it... they are naturally charismatic.

Unfortunately natural charisma quickly loses its impact... familiarity breeds well familiarity yet some people are remarkably charismatic. 

They build and maintain great relationships... consistently influence in a good way the people around them... consistently make people feel better about themselves... they are the kind of people everyone wants to be around and wants to be.

Fortunately you can too because being remarkably charismatic and influencing people is not about your level of success or your social skills or how you dress or the image you project... it is about who you are what you do.





Here Are 10 habits Of Remarkably Charismatic People



1... Charismatic People listen way more than they talk.

Ask questions. 

Maintain eye contact. 

Smile. 

Frown. 

Nod. 

Respond not so much verbally... more non verbally and note I mentioned "respond" and not react... there is a BIG difference between the two!

That is all it takes to show the other person they are important and help them relax and feel at ease.

Then when you do speak... do not offer advice unless you are asked as listening shows you care a lot more than offering advice... because when you offer advice in most cases you make the conversation about you and not them.

So you do not think so? 

Think about this statement... is... 

"Here's what I would do..." 

More about you then the other person?

Only speak when you have something important to say and always define important as what matters to the other person... not to you.

2... Charismatic People do not practice selective hearing.

Some people and I guarantee you know people like this are incapable of hearing anything said by the people they feel are somehow beneath them.

Sure you speak to them and that particular falling tree does not make a sound in the forest because there is no one actually listening.

Remarkably charismatic people listen closely to everyone and they make all of us regardless of your position or social status or level feel like you have something in common with them.

Because you do.

We are all people.

3... Charismatic People put their stuff away.

Do not check your phone. 

Do not glance at your monitor. 

Do not focus on anything else even for a moment.

You can never connect with others if you are busy connecting with your stuff too.

Give the gift of your full attention... that is a gift few people give. 

That gift alone will make others want to be around you and remember you.

4... Charismatic People give and share before they receive and often they never receive in return.

Never think about what you can get... focus on what you can provide... giving is the only way to establish a real connection and relationship.

Focus even in part and even for a moment on what you can get out of the other person and you show that the only person who really matters is you.

5... Charismatic People do not act self important.

The only people who are impressed by your stuffy... pretentious... self important self are other stuffy... pretentious... self important people.

The rest of us are not impressed... we are irritated... put off and uncomfortable.

And we do not like it when you walk in the room.

6... Charismatic People realize other people are more important.

You already know what you know. 

You know your opinions... you know your perspectives and points of view... that stuff is not important because it is already yours... you cannot learn anything from yourself unless you are doing personal development.

And you do not know what other people know and everyone no matter who they are... knows things you do not know.

That makes them a lot more important than you... because they are people you can learn from.

7... Charismatic People shine the spotlight on others.

No one receives enough praise and appreciation... no one. 

Tell people what they did well... wait... you say you do not know what they did well?

It is your job to know... it is your job to find out ahead of time.

Not only will people appreciate your praise... they will appreciate the fact you care enough to pay attention to what they are doing.

Then they will feel a little more accomplished and a lot more important.
 
8... Charismatic People think before speaking and choose their words.

The words you use impact and influence the attitude of others.

For example... 

You do not have to go to a meeting... you go to meet with other people. 

You do not have to create a presentation for a new client... you get to share cool stuff with other people. 

You do not have to go to the gym... you get to work out and improve your health and fitness.

We all want to associate with happy... enthusiastic... fulfilled people. 

The words you choose can help other people feel better about themselves and make you feel better about yourself too.

9... Charismatic People do not discuss the failings of others in a negative way.

Granted we all like hearing a little gossip. 

We all like hearing a little dirt.

The problem is you do not necessarily like and you definitely do not respect the people who dish that dirt.

Do not laugh at other people and belittle them.

When you do the people around you wonder if you sometimes laugh at them.

10... Charismatic People readily admit their failings.

Incredibly successful people are often assumed to have charisma simply because they are successful. 

Their success seems to create a halo effect almost like a glow... note the keyword here "seem" to be charismatic?

You do not have to be incredibly successful to be remarkably charismatic... scratch the shiny surface and many successful people have all the charisma of a rock.

And you do have to be genuine and authentic to be remarkably charismatic.

Be humble... share your screw ups... admit your mistakes and be the cautionary tale. 

And laugh at yourself... while you should never laugh at other people always laugh at yourself... people will not laugh at you... people will laugh laugh with you.

They will like you better for it and they will want to be around you a lot more.





HAPPINESS is a CHOICE!


And personally confident Dynamic men and women are Charismatic and Happy and Confidence is SEXY!

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I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




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