"HOW TO LIVE LIKE YOU MEAN IT" 

Or words to the effect!


By Ange Fonce


"If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And, which is more, you’ll be a Man, my son." ~ "If" by Rudyard Kipling

Today the meaning of life. 

Wait what is this? 

Yes dear Reader and Dynamic Lifer tis true. 

And all because I happen to be in a reflective mood... also because I happen to have related tabs open on my browser.

So let us get to it... shall we?

We will start with this classic and well contemplated bit of "Big Think." 

"Wear sunscreen." 

Writer Mary Schmich who announced to the World in a 1997 Chicago Tribune column. 

She also told us...

"Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth." 

Oh never mind. 

You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until you have grown old and it has faded.

"Don't worry about the future. Or worry." 

Smiles... know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum... so why worry in the first place?

And these bits... 

"Do one thing every day that scares you. Sing. Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours." 

Do one thing every day that scares you?

Hmmmm....

Simple one that... sing...enough to put the "be jezus" up any one!

"Don't be reckless with hearts?"

I should bloody think so... going to be a bit difficult and messy living with all those reckless hearts lying around. 

Opps... who is this reckless heart?

And finally from the intreped Mary Schmich.

"Floss"...????

Yes I thought that too. 

Moving quickly along...

All smart words... yes?

Over at that bastion of digital wisdom... the philosophers at cracked.com add... 

"The hippies were wrong." 

And... 

"The world only wants what it can get from you." 

And... 

"Your job IS all you are."

Personally I think that this is a little to cynical yet the point is well taken. 

What they go on to say in language I could not squeak past the censors... is that there is no getting around it... in life the people around us have needs they cannot ignore and because they cannot ignore them... they have reason to think that you will not ignore those needs either. 

Put another way... others will by nature... measure your worth by how you can help them... even if they do not know that is what they are doing at the time.

Put yet another way... 

Being nice or smart or good looking in life is not enough because... well because your life will be a lot better all around if you can figure out how to benefit others

That is blunt reality... and true in friendships... true in families... true in jobs... even true when you are just chatting with strangers on a street corner.

And then this from a piece shared by the Huffington Post on life lessons worth unlearning which says first off... go ahead and unlearn the notion that... 

"Problems are bad." 

Why?  

Because problems not only show you what is not working  at the very least... a live lived by the process of elimination and also because to put a metaphor on it.

"It is only in the mess of a big mistake or catastrophe that you can sow the seeds of a new solution... finding the solution to each problem is what gives life its gusto." 

Says the article... wise words.

Says the piece in another truth worth unlearning... 

"Success is the opposite of failure." 

You succeed to the degree you try... fail and learn. 

Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down and those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well... success is built on failure.

Wiser words still. 

As Steve Jobs put it in an interview, years and years and years back... 

"You've got to act... if you're afraid of failing, you won't get very far." 

And this from the same interview... 

"This thing we call life was made up by people no smarter than you... and you can change it, influence it, build it, mold it. The minute you understand that you can shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and that you're just going to live in it... you'll want to change life and make it better... once you learn that, you'll never be the same again."

And last this... because I have probably already said enough... at least without using the word "personal development" in every sentence.

And these wise little nuggets from friends...  clients... personal development coaches and what I have come across myself...



THE SLOW MANIFESTO 

Which I think is a great idea. 

We need to slow down as a society and not just as individuals... we need to slow down our use of technology... the advances in technology... our daily lives... our consumption of various natural resources... which ARE limited and we need to slow down and think more critically in our communication... not checking email or texts first thing in the morning and instead enjoying a cup of coffee... preferably with a loved one... not eating in 15 minutes or less... instead savouring each bite and enjoying your meal.

Focusing on quality instead of quantity. 

We live in a “mass produced for the masses” society... we need to slow down and get back to a local handcrafted society.

Pacing yourself through life of which you only get one. 

And right now we are not doing such a good job as a society or world.

Slowing our work down and enjoying “mini retirements” along the way and sending a BIG middle finger at huge corporations who focus on 70 hour weeks and barely two weeks of vacation.

Developing the ability to critically think. 

That means slowing down enough to look at both sides of an issue and having an open mind when it comes to hearing the other side you might not agree with.

Reading past page 18 on average... seriously? 

I was shocked when I found out most people have not read a book since high school... this is depressing.

Slow is about taking care of you and your health because without those the rest of this does not mean anything.

Slow is about finding balance in your life and being willing to find it in the face of seeming weird to people who have not figured it out yet.

Speaking of how to live your life.. here is one more thing... as well put in this prose poem by Max Ehrmann in 1927...




TAKE KINDLY THE COUNSEL OF THE YEARS


"Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence. 

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. 

Speak your truth quietly and clearly and listen to others... even the dull and the ignorant... they too have their story. 

Avoid loud and aggressive persons... they are vexations to the spirit. 

If you compare yourself with others... you may become vain and bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. 

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. 

Keep interested in your own career however humble... it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. 

Exercise caution in your business affairs... for the world is full of trickery. 

And let this not blind you to what virtue there is... many persons strive for high ideals and everywhere life is full of heroism. 

Be yourself. 

Especially do not feign affection. 

Neither be cynical about love for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. 

Take kindly the counsel of the years gracefully surrendering the things of youth. 

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. 

And do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. 

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. 

Beyond a wholesome discipline and be gentle with yourself. 

You are a child of the universe... no less than the trees and the stars... you have a right to be here. 

And whether or not it is clear to you... no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. 

Therefore be at peace with God whatever you conceive that God to be and whatever your labours and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life... keep peace with your soul. 

With all its sham... drudgery and broken dreams... it is still a beautiful world. 

Be cheerful. 

Strive to be happy."

Great advice... do you not think?

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




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