The Challenge Of Worry V Outcome Based Thinking
By Ange Fonce
"They have seen but half the universe who never have been shown the house of pain."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The first question to be answered by any individual or any social group facing a hazardous situation... is whether the crisis is to be met as a challenge with strength and purpose of action or as an occasion for despair and inaction.
You can proactively think about your problems to find solutions to them or you can worry about them and there is a vast difference between the two... worry is reactive thinking that has turned toxic like jarring music that goes round and round and never comes to either climax or a conclusion...
Outcome Based Thinking works its way through problems to conclusions and decisions then actions!
Worry leaves you in a state of tensely suspended animation... stress and inaction because when you worry you go over the same ground endlessly and come out the same place you started and have gained nothing... it is just a HUGE a waste of precious time and energy... that would have been better invested in ACTUALLY solving the problems.
Outcome Based Thinking makes progress from one place to another... worry remains static... you can tackle the problems of life and change worry into Outcome Based Thinking and anxiety into proactive action.
It is in the whole process of meeting and solving problems that your life can have great meaning and often problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure... problems call forth your courage and your wisdom... indeed they create and develop your courage and your wisdom... it is only because of problems that you grow mentally and emotionally and it is through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that you learn... grow and personally develop in your confidence and esteem.
You do not succeed in changing things according to your desire... yet gradually your desire changes and evolves and the situation that you hoped to change because it was intolerable becomes unimportant.
You have not managed to surmount the obstacle as you were absolutely determined to do... when you live our life with a Dynamic Purpose you find that life has taken you round it... led you past it and then if you turn round to gaze at the remote past... you can barely catch sight of it so imperceptible has it become as you are in a constant state of moving forward and growing in your awareness!
A long time ago it had seemed to me that life was about to begin... real life and there was always some obstacle in the way... something to be got through first... some unfinished business... time still to be served... some kind of debt to be paid then life would begin... at last it dawned on me that these supposed obstacles in my life... the majority of these problems I had created in my own mind!
Unfortunately all is not beauty and peace in the path of life that is the reality of living... I know I have never met a person who has not been challenged or wounded by some life event... difficulties present choices and also opportunities and you can either waste away from your wounds or use them to grow your personal confidence and esteem.
I will use an example and share a story from my own life here...
As a young man I had a real passion for mountaineering and I am a survivor of a 200 feet fall down a rock face when I was climbing in North Wales.... my pelvis shattered and the bottom part of my spine was crushed and I suffered various other fractures and when recovering in hospital I was told I would never be able to walk properly again... if at all and possible be confined to a wheel chair for the rest of my life... I absolutely refused that idea and instead set about recovering to walk fully again... it took 6 very painful months to be able to walk without crutches... within a year I was playing football and after about 14 months... I was back mountaineering again... and to this day... I am fit... active and healthy... not a crutch or wheel chair in sight... and the accident that nearly killed me was over 35 years ago.
No I did not do it alone in my recovery... I had some truly wonderful people help me because they saw my total dedication and persistence to succeed in walking again... and once I acquired that successful goal... the next goal was to get back to the life I had a great passion for... being in the mountains and exploring... I have always said that no one succeeds alone we succeed through and for one another.
We live in a world in which the worst looks as if it is going to happen and the worst often does happen and yet out of the anguish and waste then love and trust come in new forms... I could have just accepted what happened to me and become a victim and used that traumatic moment in my life as an excuse to become poor me and I would more and likely be in that wheel chair now... crippled not only in my body... crippled in my mind too.
As Winston Churchill said...
"Never ever give up!"
And as I say...
"Problems have SOLUTIONS that require ACTIONS to solve them... think about the problem... seek the best solutions and solve the problem with taking effective ACTION!"
Worrying is such a waste of time and energy and solves nothing and gains nothing... so instead of lying in that hospital bed worrying and feeling sorry for myself... I was thinking of how and will it take so that I could get back to doing what I loved doing most... being ALIVE and LIVING!
And I never took no or you cannot do this for an answer and once the Doctors and Nurses understood I was serious their attitude changed and all sorts of help come my way.
One thing I know about life... you do nothing and nothing will happen for you... waste your time worrying... waste Your Time Living and going nowhere fast and when you move and take action then all sorts of opportunities start to present themselves to you.
And I finish this article with this thought...
"The ultimate measure of a person is not where he or she stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he or she stands at times of challenge and controversy." ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
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