By Ange Fonce

Do you ever think why certain men... and women are more attractive than others? 

What are the factors that affect your decision to select a mate? 

The answers lie deep in the... Primal Brain. 

The evolution of attraction in men... and women started to develop in long ago in... The Stone Age... and we as... "Human Beings"... have evolved a large number of... "attraction factors"... over thousands of years which have evolved our natural laws of mate selection. 

Now you would think how does the choice of modern men... and women can be affected by our Stone Age forefathers? 

The answer lies in genes which you got from your parents... as they got from theirs... and I will share with you the basic science of how our evolution affects the “attraction factors” in our modern day world. 

I will deal with men... and women separately as there are psychological... and biological differences in men... and women's brains which work very differently.

So in a future articles I will deal with... "attraction factors"... for women.

Some Basic Science Of Attraction For Men


Visually Aroused... 

Men are mostly visually aroused... and if you ask men they like skinny women... or curvy women.... the answer will be mostly... "curvy"... despite what the mass media would want you to think...and the primal imprinting goes back thousands of years from now.

In the Stone Age... men wanted to mate with a woman with curves... a wider hip ratio... because they were able to carry... and give birth to their offspring... babies... more easily... which increases a more sustainable... "survival rate."

In medical studies... there is a great deal of evidence...that the size of breasts... and hip ratio of a woman are controlled by female sex hormones that indicate that curvy women are more fertile... there was also a study conducted with four sketches of identical looking women... and the artist had made subtle differences in the curves and hips ratio in each of the individual pictures... the vast majority of the men chose the picture of the women with more curves... and as men are visually stimulated by women... this was a purely biological reaction in the brain.. 

According to research evidence... the most attractive... and alluring... visual attractor to men at a biological level to a woman... is when she possess a... "waist to hip ratio" of 7/10... in other words... when her waist line is 70% the width of her hip line.

The archetypal shape for a woman is the classical 36-24-36.

Consider this back in the Stone age... there would have been no such thing as a... "fat"...woman... as in those days they would never have been eating the rubbish processed food we now consume in modern society... calorie dense... high fat.. and sugar rich foods... obesity is a very modern condition.

Symmetry... 

This is a factor which is common to both men... and women... those men... and women whose faces appear more symmetric are seen as more attractive than others which are not. 

There is an ongoing long term research study being conducted in Germany investigating how symmetrical faces in both men... and women affect attraction... one of the findings of this study is that both men... and women look for... and are most attracted to members of the opposite sex who... "look"... like ourselves... further study is going on to see if... "skin tone"... has any influence on our choice... or it is purely the faces symmetry... I will keep you posted on that one.

Facial Fat... 

Face fat is a yet another common factor in both the sexes which decides the attractiveness of a men... and women... those men... and women with low facial fat look younger... healthier... and more attractive... so if you want to be more attractive... a sure way is to start losing your facial fat... in other words... start eating healthy... and work out...this applies to both men... and women.

Attraction In Women To Men...

So what women want? 

Did you notice that for men there was one specific reason for attraction towards women while the other two... "attraction factors"... applies to both men... and women. 

Now... I am sharing with you some very basic... "attraction factors"... that affect a women’s psychology... and biology... when selecting a suitable mate for herself... which also shows that women are far more sophisticated animals then the male animal.

Safety And Security... 

I bet you did not think of that one... a woman wants to FEEL safe... and secure with the man she selects... a man who has access to... "material resources"... in modem day parlance... money... financial security... and material resources... is a far more... "attractive"... proposition to her than a man who has limited resources... and this goes back to our Stone age days... it is biological evolution. 

In the early days of evolution... women would mate with men who could provide security to them as well as their offspring... so they used to choose strong hunters... or men with the leading positions in the group... in other words the man who could go of... hunt... and kill the buffalo... bring it back... and feed her.... and the kids... also the man who was... "intelligent"... who built wealth in the form of resources... and power... such men would be highly desirable... and sought after... in other words the... "Alpha Males!" 

Who in turn could select the most healthy... and attractive women to mate with.

Power... and Beauty go back a long... long way in time.

And as we have evolved as a species... that security has converted into financial security... material wealth.... and social status... because materially rich men can provide better for their children.

Character... 

Women choose character over looks... and the reason is hidden again in very basic instincts that created us. 

Men who are loyal tend to be with their offspring for longer times... and men who are generous... kind... tend to become good parents... these are the qualities that ensure a... "safe"... future for a females child... so basically the bonds that are formed between the male... and the female are based on producing a better next generation... a baby. 

And here is another one I bet you did not know... a female creates a memory map for the character for every male around her... and she observes these things very carefully... this is the reason why most women remember all the relationship anniversaries... and important dates which men do not... so if you want to impress her... REMEMBER such things.... women have a great eye for DETAIL... while men tend to have a great eye for the BIG picture... far from being opposed to each other... Nature has evolved these two quality's to compliment each other... it just our bullshit beliefs that mess thing up between men... and women in so many ways.  
 
Attachment And Relationship Dominance... 

Another... "attraction factor"... which affects a woman's decision is attachment to a man... and her dominance in the relationship.

A lot of women chose a man because they spent a lot of time with him...and have become emotionally attached to him... they also choose a man because he does everything in..."working"... with the woman he is in relationship with... this dominance within a relationship gives a secure feeling to woman and a superiority pleasure which is against the general convention of men dominating the relationship... TRUST... and RESPECT works both ways!

A Relationship based on mutual TRUST... and TEAMWORK... is far more secure... and successful... then a relationship based in fear... and need... just look at the animal world of species that are... "social"... supporting... and work together... these species dominate their environment.

And what has lead to Human Dominance of the Earth... those very qualities of being... social... cooperative... and working together for the mutual benefit of each other... what happens when those structures break down... chaos... and conflict!

Attraction Factors Persuasion And Influence

Now... I am going to share with you some basic persuasion... and influence methods that most men... and women are unaware off... that can help you attract the women you would like to attract.

Pain And Pleasure... 

Fear... and excitement are the feelings that make the natural biological system open to persuasion... and influence to create attraction. 

For example...

You want to attract a woman... take her to an amusement park... and go on a scary ride... or place with her... because when you face these situations of... fear... with a person... and get out of them securely... you feel more secure with that person... remember... women like to feel... SAFE!

Because fear... and excitement are the same thing... it is how you... "Frame"... the experience... whether it will be..."painful"... or... "pleasurable?"

Eye Pupil... 

If you are an attractive man... or woman... you might already have noticed this... when you like someone from opposite sex... there is a release of hormone that travels from your blood to the pupil of your eye... and its size increases... in some cases it becomes double... yet be careful on this one... many drugs can cause the same affect... ecstasy most certainly does... and so does MDMA. 

So if you see a person whose black portion of the eye becomes wide when he... or she looks at you... it means he...she possibly likes you... or they could be high on some drug... so making use of some..."open questions"... at this point would be a wise choice before you make that assumption of... “attraction.”

Pheromones... 

There has been some ground breaking research into just how important the role of... "scent"... is in... "attraction factors"... right down to the genetic level.

When both men... and women sweat... they release a special set of hormones called pheromones... also called sex attractants... in the very tips of your nose... we as humans have evolved a special set of scent receptors that can actually tell the genetic make up of another's sex... if the women you... "think"... you are attracted too... has a similar genetic markers as you do... the Animal that you are... will reject her... even though you are... "visually"... highly attracted to her.

When she has a genetic mark up that is diverse to you... the animal with fire of those neurons in your brain that says... "mate with her"... she is going to make good babies... and women have exactly the same... "smell receptors"... their nose... we do literally... “smell”... potential mates out.

So if you want to bond with a woman... go to places where she will sweat... gym is a great place to do so... and here is a hint for you... do not disguise your own scent with perfumes etc... yes be clean... and use your own natural body odour for attracting women.

Low Facial Fat... 

Yes... I have already mentioned  that low facial fat will result in more attractive look... it is also a marker for personality... confidence... and health... so eat healthy... do your exercises... and LOOK good!

Appearance really does MATTER as an... "attraction factor"... a lot will be assumed by the other person about you... and how you before you have even spoken a word.

It is not too hard to influence the... "attraction factors"... once you know... and understand what is going on under the surface. 

It just takes will to start... learn...know... and understand... that gives you a HUGE advantage in the... “Mating Game”... in this growing psychological aware world.

We maybe living in a technology driven world which is the creation of our psychology... yet the BIGGEST part of us as men... and women... is still living out there on the plans... and Savannahs of Africa.... the Animal still has a major say in who you will be... “attracted”... to... and mate with.

And when you have... AWARENESS... of both... biology... and psychology.... it is GAME ON!

May you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic Day!

Yours Sincerely


Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist and Sexologist... who works with men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become Dynamic Lifers... creators of their own life and wealth! 


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