Do You Take Care Of Your Self To Project
Powerful Confidence And Attractiveness? 

By Ange Fonce

When I was young... I often obsessed about what I looked like... perhaps this happens to everyone... more or less... it is common to be a bit dissatisfied with parts of your body... your "appearance"... and your level of “attractiveness”... this dissatisfaction and concern especially comes out when you think about “social courting”... and becoming more exclusive “courting” with a partner.

As I have studied “sexual attraction” over the years... I came to “understand” that “physical appearance” was not the only aspect of ourselves that was “attractive”... our “personalities” can greatly “influence” how others see us in addition... our “personal confidence” and “personal social skills” can spark “attraction... passion” and “intrigue” in potential lovers.

Like it or not... your “personal physical appearance” speaks to people "first" before your "personality" can... the old adage "actions speak louder than words"... holds true in what you do to yourself to show the world... eventually I also discovered that those "unchangeable" parts of our looks were not "driving attraction" anyway! 

Contrary to popular thinking... a symmetrical nose... the perfectly proportionate figure... or a classic face are not nearly as important as the "aspects" of yourself that are easy to "change"... the little things under your control are the most “attractive characteristics”  of all. 

Read on for the research...


Research on Physical Appearance and Attractiveness...

Mehrabian and Blum... 1997... began their research with a simple idea... they wondered what "physical features" were most "attractive" to the "opposite sex"... more particularly... they wanted to discover the relative importance of stable features... e.g. "body type" and "height"... versus "changeable features"... e.g. "grooming" and "clothing" in “physical attractiveness”... in essence... they wondered what combinations really made someone "attractive."

To answer that question... they presented 117 male and female university students with pictures of 76 partners of the opposite sex... varying in different physical features...they had the students rate the attractiveness of the people pictured and also measured their emotional responses... then... through statistical analysis... the researchers figured out who was "attractive"... and why.

Their shocking finding was that... by far... the most "attractive features" fell under the category of "self care"... these features were “changeable aspects” like “good grooming... neat hair... nice fitting quality clothing... good posture”... and “healthy weight”... essentially the most “attractive features” about a person both male and female is that they put forth some effort to “shower... groom”... select some "nice cloths... stand up straight"... and manage their diet a bit... no plastic surgery... major gym time... or extensive overhauling required.

Coming in at only one third as important as "self care".. were three other feature clusters... "masculinity"..."femininity"... and "pleasantness."

Masculinity,.. somewhat attractive to women... was comprised of some of the stable features depending on your gym time of muscularity... shoulder width... larger chest... and a bigger jaw.

Femininity... somewhat attractive to men... contained more changeable features of wearing make up... longer hair... and greater femininity... in posture... body language... etc.



Finally... pleasantness... somewhat attractive to both men and women... was all about being happy... confident... positive... and friendly in attitude.

Overall... the VAST majority of features important to "attractiveness" are relatively easy to change. 

Just grooming... standing up straight... getting a decent wardrobe... and staying relatively healthy makes you "attractive!" 

Beyond that... being "confident... optimistic... pleasant"... and "friendly" makes you "truly alluring." 

Finally... if men want to spend a bit of time in the gym... or women want to grow their hair... and put on some make up... then they can have the whole package... again... no implants... botox... nose jobs... or face lifts required.



What This Means For A Healthy Love Life...

Being "attractive" is easier than you think... just keep up with as many of these "changeable features" as you can.

1... Grooming... by far... the most "important feature"... take some time to care for yourself... shower... style your hair... and shave... or trim where you need to... be clean... neat... and smell good too... grooming alone can make or break your "attractiveness"... and all it takes is a bit of time... effort... and a toothbrush!

2... Clothing... also "important" and a relatively easy fix is your "style"... the research says that 3 aspects of clothing are required to be "attractive"... neat... well fitting... and more formal... put plainly... your clothes need to be clean... pressed... and well maintained... they also need to fit you well and flatter your shape... finally... they should be a little classy... do not be chronically "under dressed"... buy some dressier gear... also... the colour red is a good choice... and I will be publishing an article about the "influence" of colour in the future... and why red is such a powerful colour.

3... Posture... practice "standing up straight"... hold your head up... put your shoulders back... buy some sensible shoes... a good desk chair... or a corset if you need to... "good posture is sexy"... it also contributes to the right body language for "social courting"... and "relating"... to members of the opposite sex.

4... Attitude... remember to put on a happy face... Smile... be "confident... pleasant... optimistic"... and "friendly"... a "likable personality" can even overshadow other physical issues you may have... so be happy... and get a "meet up"... or "keep a lover."

5... Fitness... granted... this is not as easily... "changeable"... as the others... and the research is not talking about the "perfect butt"... or "washboard abs"... anyway... essentially... you are shooting for "relatively healthy"... e.g. not super obese... no severely protruding stomach, etc... so no need to obsess and go overboard... and do your best to eat well... move around a bit... and care for your health... good grooming... the right clothes... and standing up straight can go a long way towards minimizing what diet and exercise do too!

6... Gender... generally... try to look "masculine" or "feminine"... depending on who you want to "attract?" 

To be more "masculine"... muscle up your shoulders and chest... or wear a nice... padded sport coat... grow a goatee... chin strap... or beard to hide a weak jaw. 

To be more "feminine"... learn to properly apply make up... accentuating your eyes and lips... also grow your hair longer... or just get extensions.

You do not need a washboard abs situation... or double D implants though... just a little time... care... and effort... groom well... buy some clothes that fit... stand up straight... smile... and be healthy.... that is all it takes to be "attractive"... and "sexy"... you can take the plastic surgeon off your speed dial now... stop obsessing... and go have some fun.

That is it... I do not go all out,.. and I do care of my appearance... health... and my body... because I "love" myself... small things that matter... such as taking time with your hair... taking care of your skin... holding your head up... or wearing clothes you actually like and fit well... can speak volumes... the bottom line is that your "physical appearance" talks to people... what you want it to say is up to you.

Appearances matter in "real" and "fundamental" ways that affect your daily life... from "how" you are "greeted" when meeting others for the first time to whether or not others will "like" you or not.

And that concludes my conversation with you for this article for The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers.

As always... leave a man or woman all the "better" for "knowing" you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

 


Ange is an  Author... Speaker... and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Consultant... and Humanistic Counselling Psychologist who works with men and women on line and real world who desire to "personally develop" themselves and their "relationships" to become Dynamic Lifers... "creators" of their own life and wealth!


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